Need help with 'experimentation' of my friend.. getting anxious now.

[wavey]

hi, me and my friend share a room on am onday and thursday night at our schoolm the doors are locked and at 10pm we are on our own, the staff are in bed and we can get out until 8am or else the alarms go off. so my issue is, when we first starting sharing rooms, he was in yr 10 i was in yr 9, we decided to J/O together which was fun.

so after the summer hols i was in 10 he was in 11 and he wanted MORE. he kept saying he was 'killing for sex' which made me uncomfortable.
so anyway one night he pushed me and said later we'll have sex yes? and iw as like.. err. no i aint ready and i dont feel right with it, so he stopped and in a fortnight we starting j/o'ing every monday and thusday night together. now each night he's like. what are we doing tonight, and i'm like well probs just j/o'ing and he keeps saying about Jacking each other off or playing "Dirty" dares. such as comparing, stripping and touching each other.

which it sounds alright in my hormonal state but on a night when i'm with him it kinda messes with me, i get sweaty and anxious, not normal?

i need a swift reply, how can i confront this, i want to be 'bi-curous' but i dont feel that strongly about it yet to have sex or Jack him off.. well, maybe jo him .

come on, gimee sum suggestions

@@@ CALLING OUT TO U SAM! @@@

[IAMWILL]

Alrgiht well here if you wanna be "bi-curious" with him and he's pushing you maybe you should let him j/o you and see how you feel afterwards. It may feel awkward now, but maybe once you do it you'll feel better, or not. If you reallly don't wanna do more j/o with each other, just say, "dude, I'm really not feeling like I want to do this, maybe another time". Hope that answers you questions.

[whatsup1267]

stop j/o together it sounds like your geting a little to close

[Oblivion]

Are you asking for advice on how to turn him down, or advice on how to ask him to?

Either way, never do anything you are uncomfortable with.
If he makes you feel weird, don't do anything.

[byee]

*Whoosh* Sam here.

Being sexual with someone works best when both are wanting and expecting the same things. That doesn't seem to be the case here, which is why you're uncomfortable. He wants 'More', you not so much. So, either you guys talk about this first, before you get naked, and come to some agreement, or you don't do it.

This is basic relationship stuff, Wavey. Regardless of the gender involved, people, have to talk with eachother and tell eachother what they want and what they need, and come to some agreement. That way, it stays safe for both.

[wavey]

Sam, can i ask,

Its not about Jo'ing each other its the fact that i have seen his penis and its like.. 3x the size of mine almost. i have a 3 / 4 inch and hes like 7 / 9 easily, but this is the best bit, he calls his dick SMALL! THEN WTF IS MINE?!

Also he has alot more pubes, mine are barely showing. so i have a insecurity about myself ;|

Also, if i wanted to change rooms because of this i cant really say to staff that we're bi curious CAN I?

[Stark]

Maybe you should just do it.

[byee]

Sam, can i ask,

Its not about Jo'ing each other its the fact that i have seen his penis and its like.. 3x the size of mine almost. i have a 3 / 4 inch and hes like 7 / 9 easily, but this is the best bit, he calls his dick SMALL! THEN WTF IS MINE?!

Also he has alot more pubes, mine are barely showing. so i have a insecurity about myself ;|

Also, if i wanted to change rooms because of this i cant really say to staff that we're bi curious CAN I?


Wavey, you know everyone develops at their own rate, the fact that he's got *more* doesn't mean much if anything, and it certainly 'sound as if it means much of anything to him. Has he seen you?

If you're feeling insecure, you can do 2 things: One is to talk it over with him, and the other is to leave this alone for a while. If you're insecure about yourself, then there's the risk you wouldn't enjoy it, anyway, or worse, have a bad experience which could make you feel even worse about yourself and affect what might happen later.

I'm not sure what that last sentence is about, with changing rooms and saying to staff that you're bi curious, what do you mean?

[Eagle1]

if it was me id do it with him but if you're uncomfortable don't

[swagger]

stop

[iceyfresh]

basically just dont do anything your uncomfortable with and tell him straight up if he is a real friend he will understand.

[Prince_of_Peace]

you should find a new room mate...or get a new school.