Child Punishment

[Requin]

First, I had no idea where to put this. So sorry if it's in the wrong place. I thought it could go here, TWPR or Family and Friends??? Sorry if I'm wrong.

Anyway...I'm on about punishing children when there young.
How were you punished?
Was it fair in your view?
What should be the way to punish children in your view?
But do you think punishment is fair? Too harsh or to leniant?

I'll do mine later. As I don't have time right now. I think the way that councils and government's punish kids for doing things like stealing, burning puppies etc is rubbish and is way to leniant.

But parenting is a different thing as it's done in different ways.

[Zephyr]

How were you punished?
- Anything from spanking, writing sentences, grounding, getting privileges taken away or slapping.

Was it fair in your view?
- I think all of the above is fair, depending on the degree of what the child did wrong. My sister and I turned out okay :P

What should be the way to punish children in your view?
- Probably the same way my parents did to my sister and I.

But do you think punishment is fair? Too harsh or to leniant?
- Punishment is fair. You do the crime, you do the time... everbody needs a sense of that when they're little, otherwise who knows what they'll do later on in life.

[theOperaGhost]

There needs to be punishment, otherwise kids will grow up thinking they can get away with anything.

[Whisper]

If I fucked up I had my ass whipped
Its as simple as that


Beat your kids!!!
It helps

[Oblivion]

There needs to be punishment, otherwise kids will grow up thinking they can get away with anything.

Not really.
I have never been grounded, spanked, hit, or otherwise punished by my parents.
They taught me to be kind and respectful, and if they are disappointed, it's ten times worse than what I imagine being grounded is like.

[theOperaGhost]

To be honest, it all depends on the nature of the child, Nick.

[Oblivion]

So I'm just a special case? :P :P
Anyways, I plan on doing the same with my kids as was done to me.

[theOperaGhost]

Well, no, I mean, I was never punished either, but some kids just respond better to punishment, because frankly, they don't care if their parents are disappointed in them. I say punishment works in some cases, but it differs for every child.

[Oblivion]

Yep I agree. But also its kind of up to the parent to bring up your child so then they are more affected by disappointment than punishment.


I was just kidding before though lol. :P

[Talia]

I've been spanked and I vaguely remember being grounded once or twice... just no tv. Was it fair? *shrugs* I don't know if I deserved it or not. I'm just pretty sure I plan to never hit my kids.

[-Silence]

How were you punished?
-Slapped, ridiculed, manipulated, objects thrown at, lied to, guilt-tripped, humiliated.

Was it fair in your view?
-Definitely not.

What should be the way to punish children in your view?
-I wouldn't hit them, no matter what. To me there is always a better way, also I wouldn't trust myself with drawing the line between abuse and discipline.

But do you think punishment is fair? Too harsh or to leniant?
-I think the majority of the time it's pretty fair.

[Antares]

it depends on the age. I think spankings are more effective when younger. Grounded and such is better for older kids

[Eagle1]

How were you punished? Spanking
Was it fair in your view? yes and no
What should be the way to punish children in your view? Grounding

[Stark]

I was never really punished. I was a good kid.

[Dagenadriel]

How were you punished?
Stuff taken away, disappointment(I always fall for the guilt thing)
Was it fair in your view?
Sure, I came out better than most kids I know
What should be the way to punish children in your view?
It depends on the type of Child
But do you think punishment is fair? Too harsh or to leniant?
Fine

[Sage]

I get hit all the time even to this day. No, it's not fair, but I'm glad my parents did it when I was younger. Sure taught me a thing or two.

...Really pointless at my age now, though. ._.

[Techno Monster]

How were you punished?
Getting grounded, which mom always forgot about

Was it fair in your view?
Yeah, as long as we never got beaten.
I turned out okay.

What should be the way to punish children in your view?
To remember when you ground your own kids

But do you think punishment is fair? Too harsh or to leniant?
Yes for the most part, mom was always pretty leninat, becuase dad was/is never home.

[redcar]

The main thing with children is to be fair, but also to be consistant. Example, you are out with a three year old in a supermarket, she is screaming for stuff. You tell her one more time you are going home, she does it, you have to leave. They need to know who is boss.

On the flip side you need to reward for good behaviour.

[The Batman]

Not really.
I have never been grounded, spanked, hit, or otherwise punished by my parents.
They taught me to be kind and respectful, and if they are disappointed, it's ten times worse than what I imagine being grounded is like.
Having your parents disappointed to you is like a punishment itself, you do something wrong and your parents are upset with you. A stern lecture is a punishment in my book.

[theOperaGhost]

The main thing with children is to be fair, but also to be consistant. Example, you are out with a three year old in a supermarket, she is screaming for stuff. You tell her one more time you are going home, she does it, you have to leave. They need to know who is boss.

On the flip side you need to reward for good behaviour.

I agree completely with Alex.

[phish]

I like the put in room for x amount of time. I don't like the grounding nor spanking idea. I would put them in there room for x amount of time before they can come out.

I would be sent to go sit on the steps or if I did something real bad go to my room.

If I fucked up I had my ass whipped
Its as simple as that


Beat your kids!!!
It helps




You are a fool and I hope you never have kids.

Lets take something that eric clapton was talking about in his autobio. When he was growing up he came across some porn and he was punished (belt wips spanking ect) and for years and years and years and years he thought sex girls = bad bad bad bad.

Don't double post, use the edit button. Posts merged.
Also, don't insult other members. Punishment apparently worked on him. You have differing opinions, no need to bash his. I also feel that punishment works as long as it's not excessive. -thePianoMan

[Sage]

Lets take something that eric clapton was talking about in his autobio. When he was growing up he came across some porn and he was punished (belt wips spanking ect) and for years and years and years and years he thought sex girls = bad bad bad bad.

Poor example. Not every parent thinks porn is bad, hitting the child (Who's bound to find the stuff anyway, everyone is.) for looking at it was poor judgment on the parent's part. I still stand by my belief that hitting your kids can do wonders, so long as it is limited to the appropriate situations.

[Oblivion]

The main thing with children is to be fair, but also to be consistant. Example, you are out with a three year old in a supermarket, she is screaming for stuff. You tell her one more time you are going home, she does it, you have to leave. They need to know who is boss.

On the flip side you need to reward for good behaviour.

Ah! Yes!
That is a great way actually; that exact instance.
A lot of parents (I think) can never go through because they feel bad about it.
But truthfully, if you say you'll go home if they don't stop, you have to follow through, or else they'll never head your warnings.

I would know, it happened to me a few times. I was a screamer as a toddler :P

[Halibut]

i got spanked or time outs or a slap on the hand. i think if everychild was just talked to thoroughly and straight forward. i do not agree with punishment through hitting

[Donkey]

Not really.
I have never been grounded, spanked, hit, or otherwise punished by my parents.
They taught me to be kind and respectful, and if they are disappointed, it's ten times worse than what I imagine being grounded is like.

To be honest, it all depends on the nature of the child, Nick.

Agreed with Jared.

Nick, I'm the same as you, but I know that most boys aren't as sensitive, and therefore that wouldn't work.

[MisterAndrews]

I think that punishment depends completely on your relationship with the child. Parents should try not to hit children. I think that if you cannot control your kids without hitting them then you need to change tack. I always found that grounding worked best... theres nothing more degrading than having to tell your friends that you can't go out because you're grounded...

Bringing in a second aspect, when it comes to education I think that privilege removal works best. We had a terrible teacher once that used to lock people in the cloak room which is completely terrible, and everyone hated him. The best sort of teacher is one that has the class so neatly in the palm of their hand that they don't ever need to shout. It's all about respect, and adults don't realise that shouting and screaming isn't always the best way to control children.

As for the government, i think they are too lenient. ASBO's are seen as badges of honour in our cities and we need something more drastic to stop petty behaviour.

[theOperaGhost]

Agreed with Jared.

Nick, I'm the same as you, but I know that most boys aren't as sensitive, and therefore that wouldn't work.

I'm also the same. I've never been hit or even punished, really. But a lot of kids in my class were trouble makers and thought they could get away with anything.

[INFERNO]

I got punched, kicked, slapped, thrown outside at around grade 6-8 in the winter and left there for a while, didn't get much food if I screwed up on a test or just annoyed the parents, got lied to, etc.... . They got a bit more angry when I was around 12-14 years old because I stole from a store a few times, killed several little animals (mostly geese), bullied and manipulated teachers and other students, did a bit of property damage and vandalism, etc... when my parents took something away from me, I went and stole their stuff, such as credit/debit cards. Wasn't too bad but I didn't do anything violent or bad.

I think it depends on the parents and the child, and how the punishment is enforced. Such as, if you slap the child but don't tell them for what, it's not always guarunteed they'll figure it out, and the punishment is now going towards something else.

[Camazotz]

To properly teach morals, I use the Golden Rule. "Treat others as you would like to be treated." If a parent hits their child for leaving the refrigerator door open, the child has a right to hit the parent if they ever leave it open. So most of the time, punishment for children should never have an abusive relationship. It should be equal and fair(which are two very different things). I've never been hit, and I would never change the way I am.

[RsHsChK2012]

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