here comes the bride???

[Gumleaf]

my girlfriend has been talking to me for a while about us getting married and stuff. she is really keen for us to get married in 3.5 years time, when i will be 18 and she will be 19. i'm open to this. i really love her and i want to be with her forever like she says she wants to be with me forever. but the thing is, she is getting way too in to this whole getting married thing. yesterday she asked me if i would have proposed to her yet if we were older. i said i would have probably, which is true. then today she told me that she dreamed last night that we were already married and we were really happy and stuff. but then today she came out with the idea that we could get engaged now. this is going way too out of control for me. i love her a lot, but we are like 15. i told her what i thought, and although she understands what i mean and stuff, she doesn't think there is a problem with us getting engaged now and then getting married in 2012. anyways, its not like we have been fighting about it, but yeah, i'm so not proposing to her right now. there is no particular question here. its more of a vent, so yeah.

[Θάνατος]

Stephen, I think that 15 is way too young to be getting engaged. Getting that serious this early is not a good idea. It is better to wait until you are both older. Trust me I have been through this and I am telling you as a friend to wait.

[Serenity]

I'm gonna be very blunt here.

You need to sit Jo down and tell her to get. a. freaking. grip. Remind me how old you are? Oh yeah. 14. It's really easy for us to imagine 3 1/2 years from now but I don't think you guys are thinking at all reasonably or rationally. For teenagers, 3.5 years is a hell of a long time. For all you know, you might be a gothic introvert and she might be a flirty social butterfly. You have no idea what either of you is gonna be like in 3.5 years or if you'll be together or what. Not to mention the fact that getting married that young is pretty much NEVER. EVER. EVER. a good idea!

Seriously. I know you guys have a great relationship and everything but let's not get ourselves caught up in fantasies...the real world sucks but that's where we need to stay or God knows where we'll end up...

[Gumleaf]

yeah, like thats what i'm trying to get through to her. but i think with my sister planning her wedding and stuff, it has jo thinking about it too. like, i'm open to getting married in 3.5 years time. but by then we would have been a couple for 4.5 years and then i think we would have some idea of whether marriage is the way to go. but yeah, it doesn't mean that i will want to get married then. this is rather stupid i know, but yeah.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Real Politik, Stephen, no room for Idealism. Not even in relationships, the real world is tough and if you forget about that it'll haunt you.

[AutumnDae]

Well you've got the idea, you're too young to be engaged right now.

But she's probably feeling this way because she's been seeing/hearing all of your sister's wedding plans! Just like, when someone around you has a baby, you want one too!

[Halibut]

she sounds excited and twitterpated. but if she continues about it. try talking to her about it