Felt so good... but was it right?

[xexotic]

Me, my bf and his best friend had a three some. I'm scared because of 1) our relationship and 2) his friend will want more...

what should I do?

[AllThatIsLeft]

tell him you are not comfortable, and though you liked it, you don't want it to repeat.

[byee]

I read 'version 1.0', here's my take.

People have sex for a lot of reasons, make sure you and your b/f are in agreement about them. I think for him, at least this one encounter would suggest that he views sex as entertainment, primarily b/c he brought a friend along without prior discussion and consent. Unless this is Ok for you, i'd suggest a clarification of expectations here, what you want and need and think. That way, there's less of a chance of disappointment or getting hurt.

[IrishJohnny28]

talk with the both of them. let them know that it was a heat of the moment thing and that you dont want it to happen again. as for your relationship you just need to sit down with your bf and talk it over with him. let him know your not comfortable with doing it again. im sure he'll understand :)

[DoveGreySands]

You done something your boyfriend wanted to do, so don't worry about your relationship breaking up. And if your boyfriends best friend starts to come on to him, just adamantly say no. I doubt that will happen though, especially with him being a best friend, not just any old friend.

[Pixie Princess]

Tell him you aren't comfortable.

[Prince_of_Peace]

Your boyfriend does not love you. I'm sorry but please do not get me wrong. If he loves you, he will not share you with anyone else. He does not know what true love is. If I love you, I will not have sex with you untill the day we get married. That is true love is. I will wait for that special day because you are too important in my life. You are bigger than my horniness. Dump your boyfriend and find someone who will respect you. Love yourself and you will feel much better.

[good__girl]

if you both wanted the 3some then thats fine but if he brought the idea up there's something wrong

[Halibut]

well ya its right and normal to like that. but if yoru not comfortable talking about it just talk to your bf about it!

[ILOVEYOU]

it wasnt right, he doesnt Love you

[upright_citizen]

Your boyfriend does not love you. I'm sorry but please do not get me wrong. If he loves you, he will not share you with anyone else. He does not know what true love is. If I love you, I will not have sex with you untill the day we get married. That is true love is. I will wait for that special day because you are too important in my life. You are bigger than my horniness. Dump your boyfriend and find someone who will respect you. Love yourself and you will feel much better.
I think thats going a bit too far. and just because a couple are adventurous and are swingers, have threesomes, or allow each other to have sex with other people doesn't mean they don't love each other. a bit unfair to tell someone their partner doesn't love them or they aren't in love because of something like that. everyone has their own definition of love and as long as both parties are consenting and are fine with it then there really is no issue.


anyways, if you're uncomfortable with it talk to him about it. you shouldn't have to do anything you don't want to do or are unsure of. I can't really say much more as I don't know much about your relationship or anything so I'm not going to say "hes an awful guy dump him". sounds like him just assuming you'd want to have a threesome theres a lack of communication between you two. I will say dump him if he pulls any of that "if you love me than you'll do it" crap.

[Buggahh]

How can you guys judge if he loves her or not? Maybe he wanted to share her to show how good she is or maybe it was a desicion they made together. The question isnt does he love her or not but what should she do.
If your boyfriends friend wants another threesome and you do not then talk to your boyfriend about it and simply both say no.
If either of them try to pressure you in to doing anything you dont want to do then you shouldnt be with him.
Yeah maybe you were okay with a one off threesome but then again maybe you werent and you need to decide if you were or were not before you talk to your boyfriend about whether you do or do not want another threesome and the effects that you believe it had had on your relationship.
You never know he could be thinking about it too but be to nervous to talk to you about it. One of you has to make the first move or you will never talk about it
After all only you can decide if it was right for you. It might have felt right for them, but if it wasnt for you then you shouldnt repeat it.

[Raynes]

Your boyfriend does not love you. I'm sorry but please do not get me wrong. If he loves you, he will not share you with anyone else. He does not know what true love is. If I love you, I will not have sex with you untill the day we get married. That is true love is. I will wait for that special day because you are too important in my life. You are bigger than my horniness. Dump your boyfriend and find someone who will respect you. Love yourself and you will feel much better.

This is very much your opinion, not quite the truth. For one, "no sex until marriage" is primarily a Christian thing, and has nothing to do with love in any way.

[Triceratops]

Tell him that you liked it at the time, but you don't want a repeat of what you did for your relationship's sake.

[aquarius1995]

you should tell him it was really all for your boyfriend and to back off.