Still confused...

[teendude_1991]

I posted a thread on this already, but I would like to expound upon it. I want to clarify that what I'm experiencing is not what I consider simple curiosity. I constantly look at guys packages at school through their shorts, and doing that can instantly, excuse the language, get me hard. But the thought of a girl in that way does nothing for me. I could see myself with a guy, and a girl, but I don't know if being with a guy would be physical only or not. Also, people of the same religion as me say that being gay is wrong, but I always thought that making yourself happy was what mattered the most? Would God really send someone to hell because they couldn't help who they loved? I think that people are born gay, and I don't know what I am yet, but if I'm only attracted to guys sexually, I can't help that. Does that mean I should be abstinate my whole life? I'm just so confused on this topic.

[Furn_93]

Well, my personal view on religion are.. well probably not gonna help lol, but don't let your beliefs get in the way of who you are, you can't help it if you're gay/bi, you're like that, no matter who made you.

There's obviously completely nothing wrong with what you do, and no, you shouldn't abstinate your whole life, but you have to make a decision, is it you or your religion that goes first? Depending on circumstances I don't know of, I can't give you anymore advice lol.

Hope I helped in some way :S

[Rynokidd]

Well I think that the church (or whatever you go to) tell kids that so that they do abstain and to protectthem but in no way is it wrong. I am the same way in the locker room in school but it is all just being curious and your hormones talking. But in no way is being gay or bi a bad thing.

[marktheman]

If you are gay, then God made you that way. There's no way you're going to Hell for it.

[Justwondering]

Its hard to comment on since im no where close to a religious person lol, but I dont think that religion should get in the way of love, no matter of your sexuality.

[byee]

Looking at body parts isn't what makes you gay, your sexuality isn't determined soley by what arouses you.

The 'God' question comes up a lot, unfortunately, no one has spoken first hand to the Almighty to find out what His views on this are. So, you have to come to terms with the various teachings and your own interpretation of Faith.

I have spent some time reading up and listening to some very highly regarded scientific people (psychologists, pediatricians, etc.) on the various scientific evaluations on sexual orientation, and they ALL agree that sexuality is NOT a choice, it is just who you are. Most confuse the eventual acknowledgement of their sexuality with 'choice', but this is incorrect. I acknowldege I am a boy, yet I had no choice in the matter!

I think the best thing to do if you're really concerned about all this is to, 1) Get some experience, become imvolved with some people of both genders and see what feelings come up for you. You might need more data that comes from direct experience with people of all kinds, you'll get to experience yourself in different situations in ways that might clarify these things for you. Sitting at home worrying or misinterpreting your interest in crotches only adds to the anxiety, it doesn't clarify much for you. The other thing, 2) is that of you continue to be concerned about all this, to find someone who can help you understand and sort it all out. Often, we feel a lot of things very strongly, yet withiut proper understanding, it's easy to misinterpret what it might mean.

[ILOVEYOU]

i do agree with IAMSAM.