I Want to Ask a Boy Out

[Lifeguard18]

I am bi and I want to ask a boy out but how do I find out if he is gay or bi? Please I really want to go out with him so badly. I always think about him all the freakin time!!!!!

[crooked101]

well you could flat out ask him! that always works or you could befriend him and just bring it up at some point! or get a friend or random person to ask for you! that could work!

[theOperaGhost]

Moved to Teen Sexuality.

[byee]

Typically, people know these things before they ask them out, so maybe you need to take some time to get to know him before you ask him out.

[clr9823]

I mad fancied my friend, but I didn't ask him out. Instead I just told him and let him take it from there. Turned out he didn't feel the same way :( but at least we are still good friends! I think you need to become friends before asking him, and you need to try and feel how close your relationship is to work out your chances.

[Lifeguard18]

Thanks everyone please keep posting for me to get more ideas

[Furn_93]

Well how does he act to you? That always gives a hint or two as to how he feels back. But, don't take it too literally, as sometimes friendly gestures are just that, friendly gestures. (I had kinda the same situation once before) So if he ever smiles at you, don't think 'oooh he likes me' cos whether or not he does, remember he may not and you could be wasting a whole lot of time with him.

However, most people on here always have better luck than me lol so just yeah get to know him as well.

[Lifeguard18]

I act very good around him. Everytime I send a txt message I have an interval to see if I want to respond or not. I jump or screech a little when I start a txt message with him and them I get butterflies in my stomach and I don't want to stop talking. And wish I could go on forever. And I don't know if he feels that same way. We are good friends and I've known him for 4 1/2 years now. And sometimes I may catch him taking a glimpse at me and turn right around and he may catch me glimpsing at him. Everytime he smiles I smile and want to just hold him to the end of time. This is how I think about him.

[Silent]

I act very good around him. Everytime I send a txt message I have an interval to see if I want to respond or not. I jump or screech a little when I start a txt message with him and them I get butterflies in my stomach and I don't want to stop talking. And wish I could go on forever. And I don't know if he feels that same way. We are good friends and I've known him for 4 1/2 years now. And sometimes I may catch him taking a glimpse at me and turn right around and he may catch me glimpsing at him. Everytime he smiles I smile and want to just hold him to the end of time. This is how I think about him.

Sounds like how i felt one time about a guy

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i think that you should like just tell him you like him and see what happens, or you could flirt with him and see what he does and if he acts negative just be like hey dude i am kidding and that will solve every thing

[Furn_93]

Yeah I would subtly flirt with him, and see what he does. He obviously doesn't mind you looking, if you smile. But remember, he may not like you! (Just incase he doesn't)

Because you could end up messing your whole relationship up if you are too optimistic with his reactions. (From my experience)

Of course, you could ask him what he'd do if a guy he'd known for a while really liked him. (Although he could say 'like who', which would be a little awkward lol!)

[meaghanlovesu]

ask some one to find out for you but that might not work cuz he might lie. if you are good friends with him tell him that your bi. if he semes fine with that ask him maby if you tell him your bi he might tell you some thing along the same lines;)

[teenboy93]

probably the best thing to do is to find out b4 u ask him out!! if he doesnt like u then that will embarras u!!! no offence

[Lifeguard18]

ask some one to find out for you but that might not work cuz he might lie. if you are good friends with him tell him that your bi. if he semes fine with that ask him maby if you tell him your bi he might tell you some thing along the same lines;)

Thanks

[Skylar15]

just ask him

[Skeln]

Ugh...just start a game where you ask eachother questions. first, try innocent questions. Then, when it seems like there are few topics left to ask about, ask him mopre personal questions. A.K.A.-If he's straight, bi, or gay. Don't have someone else ask for you, if you don't have the guts to ask him then it shows you're not ready. And don't flirt and lie if he doesn't like you flirting with you. Lying is the worst thing you can do in any relationship. Just ask him yourself, and to make it seem innocent, ask innocent questions at first.

[Oblivion]

Johnny, please don't. Two moderators have already taken care of it, and he does have his right to an opinion.

[ILOVEYOU]

Exactly. Doing so is not only bashing a huge portion of the site, it's spam.
Either way it's bad.
Opinions like that, although you are entitled to them, are better kept in your brain.

hey, sorry, i just dont accept gays, ok ok, i dont post more at gay topics.
but please dont stop helping me .... ,PLEASE :D lol

[ILOVEYOU]

well, if you want to ask a boy out, so its easy, tell him" hey dude, you wanna come out with me?" so, it will start, and then tell him your a gay and you are in love of him or anything you named it. Gay Love. :) i say gay is easy, strong men are looking for normal sexuality.

[Requin]

Starting a relationship is never easy. Whatever sexuality you are. It's easy to get to start talking to them. But getting a relationship going is difficult. But if your brave enough...:-)

[ILOVEYOU]

yeah, i have felt that completely, that starting a relationship is not easy, but i think starting a relationship with the same sex is a lot easier.isnt it?

[The Batman]

No it's actually kinda harder because it adds the question of their sexuality in it. But besides that it would be the same.

[ILOVEYOU]

so, whats your suggestion? i think he gotta go for it and ask him"are you gay/bi?" for first, and if he answered yes, so its done, but if he answered NO, he gotta start a regular relationship with him and change him after some time to what he want him to be.

[Lifeguard18]

Exactly. Doing so is not only bashing a huge portion of the site, it's spam.
Either way it's bad.
Opinions like that, although you are entitled to them, are better kept in your brain.

Can u possibly take that post off for me

[The Batman]

so, whats your suggestion? i think he gotta go for it and ask him"are you gay/bi?" for first, and if he answered yes, so its done, but if he answered NO, he gotta start a regular relationship with him and change him after some time to what he want him to be.
Dude it is not that easy, you don't just "change" someone it's not like changing clothes. The first thing to do is build a friendship and work your way up to see if he's possibly gay or bi.

[weebananas]

If you knew him for 4 1/2 years, I think you'd know his sexuality...

[ILOVEYOU]

Dude it is not that easy, you don't just "change" someone it's not like changing clothes. .

lol oh yeah, i accept that dude. :)

[Lifeguard18]

I don't exactly know like I said before he doesn't talk to me a lot like he use to and he glances at me a lot and I may catch him and he may catch me. If we catch each other glancing at the same time we both sort of keep our heads down a little. So I don't exactly know yet. I'm going to try and text him tonight and try not to freak out when I press the send button LOL

[Lifeguard18]

I don't exactly know like I said before he doesn't talk to me a lot like he use to and he glances at me a lot and I may catch him and he may catch me. If we catch each other glancing at the same time we both sort of keep our heads down a little. So I don't exactly know yet. I'm going to try and text him tonight and try not to freak out when I press the send button LOL

It just took me 5 mins to press send no response back yet from him he didn't answer my other hey message from yesterday

[Gabriel Y.]

If u still havent done anything, I would just go ahead and ask him out. From expiriance, I can say that most teenage guys will lie about their sexuality if u just plain ask them. I asked one of my friends if he was gay and he said no. However when I told him I liked him, he said that he was. Bottom line, if you really do like him, and dont mind risking an awkward friendship for a few years, ask him! I know its terrifying, believe me, but once you've done it once, its never that hard again (though it can get pretty dang close). You could also try just joking and sayin that you like him. Depending on his response to the jokes, if he acts awkward about it when you say that, then try acting more serious and see if anything happens. If he does like you, chances are he will act shy when you say stuff like that. Good luck with whatever happens!!
Oh and btw ILOVEYOU, i can only wish it were that easy.

[jasoncannon]

Get to it!

[Lifeguard18]

he got a haircut and it looks so good on him. he was looking at me again and i was also looking at him. his haircut looked hot, REALLY HOT

[Lifeguard18]

Get to it!

thanks :)

[ILOVEYOU]

lol, nice, looks like he wants a relationship with you too, Good Luck Dude :)

[Ladysman]

Just ask him and if he days no just b ok with that and ask just to b friends

[ILOVEYOU]

yeah, i do agree with ladysman. :)

[Lifeguard18]

Please read my Yes yes yes yes post :)

[confusedboy]

You could ask him (in persion or through Facebook/MySpace etc,)
or
Get a friend to find out

I know how you feel. Hope you get a positive answer :)

[meek_bebe]

I always wondered how its so easy to ask a boy you've known longer out, but its hard to ask a boy you haven't known as long?:confused:

[House]

so he didn't response to your message ? The best way to ask him is by texting or just on the internet, it doesn't have to be straightforward, it works really :).

[tinkergenius]

Thanks everyone please keep posting for me to get more ideas

Hey:

I'm Gay. I knew it when I was 10, cuz I was always looking at guys - NEVER girls.

As for bringing an "outsider" in to help you find out his sexual preferance/whether he likes you.I say No, because the "so-called" LID could blow off this thing, and it gets out THE WRONG WAY that you're queer/weird, and there's no stopping that ball when it gets rolling. Peple can be VERY CRUEL.

I think the hardest thing i ever had to do was look at a guy, and tell him I liked him...and not just as a friend...that he was HOT, and made my tongue hard l0l. (I didn't put it exactly that way - but I'm trying to take a little pressure off this situation for you, because God knows...you need a little humor to "take-the-edge-off" - as my Dad says.)

I know with me, I was ALWAYS looking at guys crotches and asses, and I guess, you have to pay attention - INTENTLY - to his eyes, and what hes watching, when your around him. If you pay attention, TRUST ME, you'll pick-up on something.

And if it becomes obvious that he's interested GO FOR HIM!! But be EASY; This (as it was for my first B/F) might be just as difficult for him as it is for you.

I can almost heart your heart fluttering right now, and that's SO COOL!! Be Happy!

[Scooby Dooby Drew]

: P
Nice job, necromancer

EDIT
I'm sorry that sounded rude didn't it?
Oh well