Erection Problems

[george29]

I'm 17 and have a girlfriend, every time that i try to have sex with her i can get an erection quite easily, but if i manage to get it iin her, i get soft after only a few minutes. Just about everythng i've tried, i simply cant keep it up. I was able to ejaculate during oral sex once with an ex, but i had the same problem with her for the most part.

When i masterbate i will have trouble staying hard and if i think about other penises it arouses me. But i do not think i am gay. The concept of two men kissing grosses me. I don't even consider men when i am not masterbating. I check out girls. I get aroused by fingering my girlfriend, just not for long...

Is this a question of sexuality? or phycological? Or should i just see a doctor? Currently I drink maybe once every week or two, nothing heavy. And smoke weed no more than twice a year. With my ex i did not do either of these for well over 3 months and still had this problem. Any help/advice greatly appreciated

[byee]

Well, at 17 the chances of this being physical are pretty low, unless you have some undisclosed medical condition or are taking certain meds regularly.

Erection is a rather complex physiologicl process which really is initiated by arousal, which is largely psychological. So, whatever feelings you have about actual sex (or sexual acts like masturbation) are likely to affect your ability to have and maintain an erection. And sexual feelings and attitudes are influenced by many things, such as cultural values, upbringing, experience, etc.

If you've been having these problems for a while, you might want to avoid sex for a while, and maybe focus on getting closer and feeling more confident and trusting in other ways, take the performance issue out if it. Maybe there's something there that's making you feel anxious, which would affect arousal and therefore erection.

If you cannot get to the bottom of your difficulties, if you can't logically figure out why you cannot relax and enjoy sex of any kind, and you continue to have these probs, then you should consider seeing your MD to rule out any physical causes, and then to a therapist to understand the source of your difficulty.

[Leprachaun]

I'm not sure that's a tough one. This might sound a bit stupid but the only thing i can think of is to take viagra, but i dont think that's a good idea.

[nick]

Its probably in your mind. Maybe you feel a bit guilty about doing this, or are just worried that your gf wont be satisfied. Its hard to perform if you think you're being judged on it.

[HidekiErikku]

Well...it seems you are aroused by 2 complete opposites.
Penises and Fingering a woman. Now if you look at these, think about which arouses you more and for how long....
This might take a bit of guts but if it ends up being a penis try having sex with a male. Perhaps your mind wants you, subconsciencely, to explore something new. After you try that, try sex with your gf again, or just try to hold an erection.

If this all fails you should see a doctor, its not likely that you might have ED but it could be just one of those things....