Everything is going wrong :(

[chelsay13]

I found out my mom has breast cancer
i have to quit all my sports because of personal problems
I am falling behind in my classes, and have to do twice the work
My boyfriend and I broke up because I can't figure otu whether I'm Bi or not
I can't decide whether i'm Bi or not
I keep making stupid decisions
and on top of it all, I'm stressing out everyone who cares about me.

I can't hold out much longer...it's been almost 2 weeks.

[Mzor203]

It sounds like you are going through a really tough time. First of all, just hold in there and keep a cool head. Things will sort themselves out eventually.

Having a family member with cancer is certainly a tough thing to go through. The best thing you can do is be there for your mom, and support her. It will help her feel better. In the time it takes for things to start happening to get rid of it, you've got to find things to occupy yourself so you don't worry a whole ton. Namely, school.

Since you've had to quit stuff, you'll have a lot more time on your hands, which means you really should get on top of all the schoolwork that you have. Try to get your grades up there. It might not seem fun or appealing right now, but it'll take your mind off of other things, and it'll be good for your future. Work hard at it and you can catch up. That'll give you one less thing to stress about, which will be a huge plus right now.

As for not knowing your sexuality, don't worry. Many go through the same type of thing in your teens. Just wait it out. Focusing on your studies will help you not worry about that as well. It'll clear up when you're older.

You should find some supportive people to surround yourself with at this time. That is important. It can be friends, family, anyone, but having someone there to help you when you need it can really help, and can help you be more supportive of your mom as well.

Hang in there Chelsea. If you stick to your schoolwork and start sorting some of the stuff in your life out, it'll make you less stressed and make it easier to cope in this hard time in your life.

[eikookmi]

Im really sorry to hear that your mom has breast cancer. However at least most breast cancer cases are treatable. And i recommend taking "cantron" you can youtube it. Its kind of like a cure for cancer? But i don't think with extreme cases ofcourse. But ofcourse it's not publicized due to pharmacy companies making millions/billions off cancer victims.

For your sexuality. Don't stress over it. If he broke up with you because you can't figure that out, then (well at least to me) he doesn't seem that great no offense or anything. Don't rush to find out or stress out over it. You'll find out in your own time. Im not even 100% sure im bi but i don't dwell on that fact. All i know is that a vagina and penis doesn't tell me who i can like.

And people who care about you are only stressing because they care about you. I feel like im always stressing people out or making them worry. But just hang in there. Try to do well with your classes or at least turn in the work . Be supportive for your mom and those who care about you will be supportive if u just ask of reach out for them.

I hope all goes well.

[iceyfresh]

Take it easy. youll have to do the work. Weve all had hard times youl get passed it but you need to find somehting to calm your self. If you do then a lot of that stress will go away. No Worry's youl get passed this.

[peanutx]

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, it must be really hard to take that in. Her cancer is obviously not in your hands, try not to beat yourself up over it and try to be there for her as much as you can. In this situation you need to be strong for her more than anything, this can't be easy for her and i'm sure it's not for you, but she needs you.
Maybe when your personal problems have cleared up, you can go back to sports. Don't give up hope on that.
Well at least you're being given a second chance at your grades, my advice is to take full advantage of that.
I'm sorry to hear about you and your boy friend, but i think he should be a little more considerate of your feelings. It's obvious you have a lot going on, it's normal to feel confused and lost. I don't really see a problem with you being Bisexual or not as long as you are being loyal to your boy friend. Maybe you should just give yourself time to understand your feelings and sort them out.

Try to hang in there, self harming won't fix any of this and you know that. Yes it's a fix that give you release from stress, but once you take that fix, the stress you have now would be 10 times worse for you. You have much more important things going on in your life, this is one thing you can avoid while you straighten out everything else.
I hope everything turns out alright in the end, and i really hope you stay strong for yourself and for your mother. If you need to talk about anything at all, i'm here, and so are others.