did i do the right thing?

[caseman91]

i broke up with my gay boyfriend just recently... i told him that the sex was hurting me and that we should take it easy for a while. apparently that was the wrong thing to say... he got all upset and said a gay relationship is all about the sex and if we could'nt do it why be together... obviously i got really angry and told him if he felt that way maybe we were better off not together... so my question is... did i do the right thing by breaking up with him? and are all gay guys that way, does everyone but me think that gay dating is all about sex?

[Oblivion]

You did the right thing in my book.
NO RELATIONSHIP IS ABOUT ONE SINGLE THING! Especially sex!
Your 'boyfriend' is absolutely wrong. Gay relationships are just like any other relationship. You have to put effort in, trust each other, have fun, love each other, communicate, and have feelings. Saying a gay relationship is all about sex is like if someone said a straight relationship was about sex- and they would probably be slapped by their girlfriend.
If your 'boyfriend' was all about sex, I don't think he's right for you.

[Mzor203]

Yes, you did the right thing. If he thought the relationship was only about sex, well, then you really don't want someone like that to be your boyfriend.

A relationship, gay, straight, lesbian, whatever, is not all about sex. Actually, sex should take a backseat to the emotional feelings between the two people in the relationship. A relationship should really be about love. If you don't actually love each other... then what's the point?

Someone who only thinks the relationship should be about sex is selfish. They only want it because it feels good. That shouldn't be what the relationship is about. So yes, you did the right thing.

[caseman91]

that elps some cause i've felt really guilty about breaking it off.
someone told me i should try to patch things up... u think so?
cause if so i don't see how i can.

[nick979]

Good for you! You did the perfect thing, something many wouldn't do.

Like previously stated, no relationship is only about the sex...no matter if your gay, straight, or whatever. A relationship has to involve 1 thing: pure love. Without that, all your relationship will be based on is sex (which I consider more of a fake "wannabe" love).

I wouldn't think all gay guys are like that. I am personally not gay, so I won't speak on that behalf.

i broke up with my gay boyfriend just recently... i told him that the sex was hurting me and that we should take it easy for a while. apparently that was the wrong thing to say... he got all upset and said a gay relationship is all about the sex and if we could'nt do it why be together... obviously i got really angry and told him if he felt that way maybe we were better off not together... so my question is... did i do the right thing by breaking up with him? and are all gay guys that way, does everyone but me think that gay dating is all about sex?

[ManyPearTree]

You did it by the book.

If he really cared about you he would respect your beliefs...

[byee]

Nothing for me to add here!

Sex is a part of a relationship, in much the same way your penis is but a part of your body. Anyone who makes it the whole isn't very bright, or very nice, ftm.

You did the right thing, even if you got hurt and it felt like you lost something in the process. You didn't, it was never there in the first place.

Cast your line in another end of the pond.