When you have kids.

[theOperaGhost]

When you have kids of your own, well actually teenagers, what would you do if you find out your teenage daughter is pregnant or your teenage son made a girl pregnant?

I myself would be extremely, EXTREMELY upset. To be honest, I don't even know if I could be supportive. I would be obligated to provide support and I would, but it would be tough. I would certainly not support an abortion either. In my opinion, it is their mistake, they would have to live with it and I wouldn't consent. I wouldn't say I'd disown them, because they would need support, but it would be so difficult to be supportive.

[Antares]

I would kick them out.












Sarcasm.
Umm, I would make their life a living hell for the first few months of the pregnancy and then when the baby is born for a few months, just so they realize that they are on their own now and that they really let me down.
And anotther very uncomfortable P101/sex ed chat

[Bobby]

Honestly I would just make them go through the hard times. I would help a little with money/support, but I don't want to make my kids be these dependent little minions. It's their fault, it's their responsibility. Teenage pregnancy is not something I look highly upon.

[theOperaGhost]

Just an addition, these are young teenagers, I'm not talking about 17, 18, or 19 year olds, even though I still think that is too young to be having babies.

And I guess another question, how much would you support them? Would they be on their own?

[DarkWingedAngel]

I would make then go through with having a kid.
I would suport them by giving them a start off of baby stuff.
and maybe some general stuff
But i would be really mad
I would let them live in the basement and make them move out once the baby turned 3.
I'm sorry no screaming kids around my place.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Jared lets not go into this, god forbid she actually does, well I promise you this she wont see the light of day till that baby is 18.

[Mzor203]

The really hard thing about this is that you really only have control over one half of the couple that made the baby... your daughter/son. Now, if it were my daughter, I would have her go through with it. No abortion, because that isn't one of the cases that I support an abortion for. I would have a talk with the father and mother of the guy that got my daughter pregnant, and try to work something out with them. However, I couldn't force them to do anything, technically, so yeah. Basically, I'd make the baby a member of our family, and make sure my daughter did all she could to support that baby, because, it was pretty much her fault that it was there.

Now, if it were my son who had made another girl pregnant, I would again talk to the father/mother of the girl my son had got pregnant, and if they would allow it, I would make him help take care of the baby, support the mother of the baby, and pretty make him get a job to support that baby completely.

And of course there would be a looooooooooooong talk.

But, I plan to avoid this problem by not having kids in the first place. :P

[AllThatIsLeft]

Everyone makes mistake, i hope my kids are never dumb enough to get themselves preganant/leave someone pregnant at that age. But i would help as much as i can in the most constructive of ways, i mean they have to take responsability for their actions, especially of they wanted to play "lets have sex unprotected" ..... but i would support them and help them. If not i, who else? i would never let my child struggle without compassion.

and if i didnt raise them to KNOW you nevr have sex unprotected unless you WANT a baby, and you better not want one before you can support it. then it'd be as much my fault as theirs.

so ya

[Triceratops]

I would be so aggravated.
I would help them, but when they start constantly relying on me to look after their child whenever they want to go out with friends or something, that is when I put my foot down.

[ManyPearTree]

Abstinence... Simple as that...

[nick]

God you're all so hard. How would you want your parents to react if it was you? You'd already know you'd fucked up & probably be feeling pretty awful about it, so wouldn't want as much help and support as your parents could give with as little judgement? I know I would and I hope that if I ever find myself in that situation as a parent then that is how I will react.

I hope I'd love my kids whatever they did, might feel a bit let down, but just be there for them.

[theOperaGhost]

If I would have got a girl pregnant when I was in high school, I would have been too ashamed to go to my parents. I don't think it is being too hard. Everyone makes mistakes, but having sex when you're a teenager, and getting pregnant, that is a bit more than a mistake.

[nick]

If I would have got a girl pregnant when I was in high school, I would have been too ashamed to go to my parents. I don't think it is being too hard. Everyone makes mistakes, but having sex when you're a teenager, and getting pregnant, that is a bit more than a mistake.
Yeah but thats my point. You'd alreay be ashamed and know you'd fucked up. Depending if you're the boy or the girl you're either in a tricky situation or really in the shit. So parents laying it on thick are not going to help.

Hey I think contraception's easily available to everyone and any guy that puts a girl up the spout is an idiot and any girl that allows a guy access if he's not wrapped up must be crazy. But these things do happen. The question is if it happens to your children to you chuck them out and refuse to have anything more to do with them, or do you try your best to help them out in a difficult situation. I hope I'd do the latter.

[theOperaGhost]

I wouldn't kick them out, but they are supporting themselves and their child. It is their child, not mine. I would make sure the child wasn't neglected if financial support was needed, but it would be on a NEED basis.

[ShatteredWings]

Well... i don't think i could parent children appropriatly, but

In said situation, I'd be pissed off... Seriouslly. Pissed.
I really don't think i'd kick them out. that's just .. wrong. But i really dont think i could help them out besides the 'having somewhere to sleep' thing

[IBeRunnin]

Well, for my daughter, talk to her about what she wants to do, let her know I will be there for her every step of the way and will love her no matter what decision she makes. I will help her raise the child, help her put the child up for adoption, and though I hate the thought of it, support her as she goes for an abortion. Whatever she decides, but hopefully if she knows that I will support and help her raise the child, she won't want to abort.

As for my son, no questions asked, no discussion, he's taking care of his child and will be a part of his child's life. I will not be angry, will support and help him, but will let him know from the beginning that he's not going to be a teenage deadbeat dad.

So, yeah.

[Random_oso06]

actually this is kinda funny because my friend's older brother had this problem about a year ago his parents were supporting them but not letting them feel that they can depend on them

i think thats if my kid got someone or got pregnant i would be pretty mad if my son/daughter had a child but not enough to kick them out of the house that just stupid why there emotions cover what they could really care about in there own child

[Nihilus]

I honestly would say "you took the risk of having sex so you both have to take care of the baby."' no abortions." If she was rapped or something else thats bad then thats different.

[nachtspiegel]

I'd do what I could to keep her from having an abortion and I'd do what I could to make sure that she'd stay in school. Before a pregnancy was even thought of, though, I wouldn't put out the idea that I'd be so supportive, and that I'd do whatever I could to make everything easier. I would however, want her to know that if she ended up in that situation that I wouldn't turn my back. I wouldn't want my 14 year old daughter ending up deciding to survive by selling her body because she thought I'd throw her out for being pregnant.

Even though it's not the same, I've thought of these things because of my niece, who is now 10. Her dad lives an hour away and she sees him twice a month and spends summer vacations with him, but she's not that connected to him. She's always been attached to me and even though I think I've done a good job of making sure that she understands that I'm her uncle... she gravitates a lot more toward me than she does to my sister's boyfriend (whose last name she has) or her real dad.

[phish]

When you have kids of your own, well actually teenagers, what would you do if you find out your teenage daughter is pregnant or your teenage son made a girl pregnant?

I myself would be extremely, EXTREMELY upset. To be honest, I don't even know if I could be supportive. I would be obligated to provide support and I would, but it would be tough. I would certainly not support an abortion either. In my opinion, it is their mistake, they would have to live with it and I wouldn't consent. I wouldn't say I'd disown them, because they would need support, but it would be so difficult to be supportive.

Agreed.

[Requin]

I wouldn't be angry with them. More dissapointed in them. And myself. However, if I did a lot to make sure they didn't do anything stupid...I would be more dissapointed with them.

I'd yell at them, but I couldn't remain angry. I'd try to help them out with the situation. But again it depends on how my kids would manage the situation.
I really hope it doesn't happen though. :-)

[phish]

Also from a VARY VARY VARY VARY VARY VARY VARY VARY young age I would start sex ed I mean as soon as they could talk. By 8 a child should know the in's and out's of sex it is crazy to wait till they are in high school. I would bet that they not do such a stupid thing if they where started on this stuff when they where 3. Your normal 10 year old knows this when a mommy and a daddy love each other vary much they have the daddy put his penis in the mommys vagina.

[Camazotz]

There are a couple of possibilities...

1) I wouldn't be angry. I would accept it, but not as my responsibility. If my kid is mature enough to have a baby, he should be able to move out on his own and support himself. In other words, I kick him out. I support the baby and stay in its life, and I also stay in my own child's life, but he/she is on their own.

2) I'm extremely angry, and depending on what my child wants, I let them do that. If they want to, I would let them raise it in my house, sacrificing everything I have ever known and loved. I couldn't be more disappointed with my child. Or, I would encourage an abortion if they are not ready to raise a child on their own.

[Halibut]

i would supporate them of any of there decisions.

[Oblivion]

It absolutely would not happen.
However in the rare case that it did happen, I would obviously be disappointed
I would discuss with them options like abortion, adoption, me raising it, etc.
And talk to them about how they could seriously have made life a lot harder for themselves and me.

But I'd also give them a break. I mean teens do stupid stuff (not encouraging it lol :P). One mistake like that and so many consequences, so much guilt. Im not a huge fan of making people feel bad. Once its done, its done. Making them feel bad will only make it worse, because for sure they would have learned their lesson.

[-Silence]

I'd kick 'em out.

Shitty but, I would raise whoever to be better than that, and they want to disobey me, than they know where the door is.

[CookieMonster]

I'd make sure she realized their mistake first. Not allow her to have an abortion, she has to give birth. Then help her through the pregnancy. And then raise the kid while she continues to go to school. Yes, I'd be disappointed in her, but that would be my daughter. I could never kick her out or anything like that. Oh, and she will NOT get married until she's at least 18. In the state I live in it's legal for kids to get married if one is pregnant. But I'd fight hard to keep her from ruining her life further. My parents got married at 16 years of age. That lasted 4 years. No way is my child going to get married as a teen.

If it were my son. I'd be disappointed in him. Probably yell at him, then make him have some part in the kids life if the mother will let him. If the parents of the mother kicked her out, I'd probably take her in. Just as my dad's parents did with my mother, and then treat her like I would my daughter.

[theOperaGhost]

I'd kick 'em out.

Shitty but, I would raise whoever to be better than that, and they want to disobey me, than they know where the door is.

Heather, that basically describes how I feel.