how to tell my mom!

[DarkWingedAngel]

How can I tell my mom?
First she doesn't know that im bi and doesn't know that i have a girlfriend.
I was at my girlfriend's house last night for a sleepover and well yea ahit went down.
I have know idea how to tell my mom and what to say.
Tips please!

[Oblivion]

As this is about coming out to your parents,
:arrow: Teen Sexuality

[Dragonite]

Ok if your worried about her like not accepting that your bi before you tell her say your still the same person and nothing has changed but I don't know what to say about he girl friend part.

[byee]

Desi? Why are you telling your mom, why exactly do you want to do this now?

Important qeustions to ask and answer fully before you have the talk. It's really a good idea to understand what your expectations are, and then to determine what the chances are of them being met. This isn't just about 'unburdening' yourself, it's about getting something in return for sharing, probably accpetance. Just b/c she's your mom and you need her acceptance doesn't mean it will necesarily happen. Think it thru.

If you spend some time on this and really think about it and still decide to do it (and I mean spend some time on it, like a few weeks), then I'd let her know in advance you need some time to talk to her about something important, and make a time to do it. That way, both of you are prepared for the seriousness of it, and there's a better chance of you both having the time to fully discuss it, and seriously.

But, do the thinking first, don't rush into it just because something happened at a party.

[DarkWingedAngel]

I have been thinking and I mean thinking really hard for a while.
it's not like I just turned bi yesterday
I know for a fact I want to tell her before one of my friends or better yet my girlfriend says anything
I'm not looking for anything in return and I don't care if she never talks to me agen because of this.
It was just me and my girlfriend at this sleepover and I can say this shit did go down and her mom know that it did I just want my mom to find out because I told her and not any other way.
Her mom knows and I don't know if she is going to tell my mom or not.
I just want to know what the best way to tell her would be.

[byee]

OK, then. Tell her you want to make a time to talk (I still like that approach), and then tell her, directly. "Mom, I'm bi. I've known this for some time, and I'm really sure. I just wanted you know."

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok thanks

[Dragonite]

Hope everything works out. :D

[nick979]

I personally don't think being bi is something that ever needs to be publicly announced.

This is why: There are ONLY two sexualities. These are Gay and Straight. I had to do a paper on this for health class. Gay people have brains designed more like girls...like girls have a third lobe type thingy...that's what I mean...i'm not being rude to homosexual people (I PROMISE!). Straight people are considered the common people. 99% of bi people under the age of 21. This is because it is usually straight curiosity.

Wait until you get older. Then see how you actually are.

[eikookmi]

Ok that isn't giving her advice at all and you're just starting a controversial topic.

Anyways, if you honestly don't care what she thinks or says then you should have no problem with bluntly telling her. I told my mom and i didn't even know how she would react. But then again i also told her i cut myself. And she was just like "was i suppose to be shocked" about the whole bi thing then got pissed at the cutting lol. But i say just go for it and if you aren't able to say it to her face to face then write it on a piece of paper or email or something. I hope all goes well :)

[Halibut]

just tell her. she loves you and at first might take it as a shock but give her time

[Stark]

Well nothing has really changed, you're still the same person, but if you're really worried about her reaction, then don't tell her.

[Denise]

here's the way i look at it. you wouldn't tell her if you were straight, so what is the need to say you are bi? sexuality is sexuality.

[Donkey]

here's the way i look at it. you wouldn't tell her if you were straight, so what is the need to say you are bi? sexuality is sexuality.

Because being straight is the most common, therefore presumed sexuality and it's always preferable to let someone know if you are a different sexuality, otherwise they will presume you are straight. And yeah, if she wants her mum to know that's her decision..

I say do what IAMSAM said but I probably wouldn't tell her about you and your girlfriend 'doing shit' as that could be extremely overwhelming for her