Relationship seems to be going nowhere

[shoopdawoop]

Hello, I lurked for a little while, seems like a helpful place, so I joined to get some advice. My relationship as of 14 months now seems to be going nowhere and she thinks its going to last forever. However, she gets on my nerves many a time, and also has some qualities which I don't like that I can't get over (like bossiness). She also has an extreme hatred of me changing into a goth, but that's just who i am inside. Also there is another girl that I feel that there could be a connection between, yet we've been decent friends for about a year now, and in my own mind I think that she'd consider our friendship to be in the "friend zone". Could someone give me some advice here?

[Mzor203]

If the relationship between you two isn't clicking, and you don't think it's going to be going anywhere but downwards, it may be time to end it. If she can't accept you for who you are, and she bugs you all the time, all that will likely happen is that you'll get more and more irritated and eventually it will break off one way or another. Either you two need to have a serious talk where you bring some thing to her attention, or you need to break it off.

You need to ask yourself a few things. Do you actually love the girl that you're dating right now? Or is the love you show simply forced? Do you want to continue the relationship? Do you really see it ever lasting? If you can answer these questions I think you'll be able to see pretty clearly whether or not it's time to break up.

[byee]

Well, you don't really seem to need the advice, you've made up your mind. Maybe you need permission?

You didn't state your age, but unless you have many years and a few children involved, if this relationship doesn't work for you, I personally don't see an obligation to stay in it. As a decent fellow, you DO have an obligation to be honest, kind, and direct with her.

[shoopdawoop]

Thanks for the replies people. I'm 15 and she's 14 BTW.
I don't want to end the relationship simply because she's so intertwined with my family that things would never be the same, and I don't want to go through a bad state of depression. I've already asked myself some of those questions, I truly think that I love her, but everything seems to be run of the mill and she's so controlling she won't even let me go somewhere with friends.
I also don't want to break up because I fear being alone for a long period of time, or never finding the right girl and being loveless for the rest of my life. We're going to talk it over a bit, thanks again for the replies.