So What Should I Do?

[IAMWILL]

Hey Will again here with my 66th post, 15th started thread. So I go to a very very small school, like 12 kids in my grade. I don't like any girl in my class, but there are some other girls that live about 30 minutes away from me who I like but the problem is they live over a hill, and my commute to them isn't exactly easy whenever. I'm going to be a Freshman next year, but I'll be going to school in a place that's closer and more accesible to them. I really would like to have a girlfriend before or during summer, you know why. What should I do though? Since this is kinda a long distance relationship it might not always work out, but I'm determined to have a good relationship soon. what should I do, or how should I dot it?

[Mzor203]

At this point in your life, a relationship really isn't something that you 'need'. I think you may be seeking out a relationship for the wrong reasons, and you might simply want to wait until the right girl for you comes along. If you get yourself into something that really isn't for you, all that will result is hard feelings.

However, as far as long-distance relationships go, 30 mins away isn't that far away. There are many people (even a few on this site) who maintain relationships with people much further away than 30 minutes. You have an advantage here because you would actually be able to visit and see the person who you were dating, which makes things much easier.

If you approach things the right way, and think a relationship where you don't see the other person as often as normal would be alright for you, then you could probably maintain one. However, don't seek out one for the wrong reasons.

I really would like to have a girlfriend before or during summer, you know why.

Does this have anything to do with sex? I hope not, but if it does, then really, don't. Getting into a relationship just for that reason is not going to lead anywhere good. What if the other person in the relationship actually does like you? What are they going to think when they find out why you wanted to date them? Again, not assuming anything, but that comment could mean anything.

but I'm determined to have a good relationship soon.

Why? I used to think this a lot, I wanted a girlfriend a ton, but eventually I just realized it would just be more complication in my life. I mean, f you find the perfect person, that's great, and by all means, go for it. But, seeking out a relationship like you plan on will usually not have the same results, because your judgement could be skewed by the fact that you want a girlfriend this badly. So don't just seek one out "Because you want one". Wait for the right person, so you can have a meaningful relationship that won't end in hard feelings.