Im so ugh!!!!

[IAMWILL]

Hey, as usual Will again here with my 61st post, 13th started thread. Im so sad/pissed right now!!! My day/life was great, everything going smoothly, then it was wrecked by a simple phone call. My best friend who I am insanely in love with, and would do anything for, called me today after school. She called me and we talked about our day, but then she told me some stuff I'd rather not hear. She said that there was this guy, who is 15 and shes 13, that asked her to come over to her house and hang out, and that he had a surprise for her. She went over, and she told me that he greeted her with a bouquet of white roses, and he had dimmed that lights and lit candles and made the house look all romantic. She said that she had a great time, and they made out and stuff, and it was awesome. She said that she had never felt so special before, and that she loved this guy. Im sooo sad and depressed because i really loved this girl, and we were so close, but along comes this guy, and just takes her away and rips my heart out. I thought i made her feel special, and she absolutely was to me. I cant even to begin to explain how sad i am, because if i even think of this, i cry over her. I dont know what to do, and she was the person i could turn to if anything bad or sad happened to me. I need to get away from this or get it out of my system, because i feel she doesnt love me the same way she did. I really am not okay about what happened, but im not going to stop her from doing anything because its her life, not mine. What should i do??? Im so sad, and my life is in a downward spiral and i dont know how to stop it. I really need advice here, and fast. I dont wont to let her go, but im afraid i have to. :(:(:(:(:guillotine:

[Sugaree]

Maybe things won't work out with him. You never know. It may be hard to let go, but you can't hold onto her forever. You can't keep that much of a grip on her hand and say "No, you can't".

It seems that you're being a bit posessive of her, which is normal. All guys do it. Just let her go out and see some people. Maybe she'll return your affections. You never know. Just keep your head held high.

[IAMWILL]

Im fine with her being with him, its just seems like since he showed up she has forgotten about me, like i dont exist anymore. It just shocks me because we both loved each other and we both knew it, but then along comes this guy and it really hurt me deeply...

[Sugaree]

I'm sure she still thinks about you. Just because this guy has gotten her attention, it doesn't mean you've lost her forever.

[ShatteredWings]

Dude.. chill. Really.

Mkay, so translated this is a bit like i like this girl, but she only likes me as a friend.
Numero uno, the guy she's dating is a little too old i think(middle school/high school... that gap is a little weird). If she's smart, she'll figure that one out soon enough. Deux, you need to back off dude. I don't think she likes you like that just by what you've said. DO NOT push.. unless you want to have your head bitten off lol
Matt; you said all guys do that... Are you sure you didn't mean "Protective"?

[IAMWILL]

ughhhhh......
okay, thanks for the advice...
ill try not to think of her as much and just consider her a friend, pretend like nothing happened..........

[Gumleaf]

moved - white padded room >>> relationships

[Sage]

1) Learn from him. Maybe you should've done something like that first.

2) It probably won't work out anyway. I'm 15 and as cute as they are I could never stand a 13 year old girl for too long.

[Oblivion]

Ok, so heres the deal:
Your her friend, not her boyfriend. She has a right to go out with other boys; if you didn't ask her out first, someone else would have.
And it's completely normal to feel like shes leaving you out with her new boyfriend. She will be spending a bunch of time with him, especially at the start. It doesn't mean she has forgotten about her bestfriend.
Theres always another time if you feel up to it.
And you can always just be friends.

[byee]

Awwww...poor Will. I feel for you, man. And FWIW, I think she's made a big mistake here. I thought you said she was smart?

A couple of thoughts: First, welcome to teenlove. Here today, intense tomorrow, gone forever the day after. It doesn't last forever, even of you think/want/need/agree with her that it will. Enjoy it for what it is, fun, exciting, new. But temporary. That shouldn't interfere with what you get from it. There will be others.

The second thought about this is that you have the option to share with her how you feel, and what you want. There's nothing preventing you from expressing all that to her, and see if she agrees with you. Just b/c she hooked up for a night doesn't necessarily mean it's over between you, you need her to clarify what it means.

[IAMWILL]

Ok then... Thanks all guys/girls that replied. I feel a lot better about my situation now and I'm confident that everything will be fine in the long run.
Oh, and IAMSAM, she is smart, but that doesn't mean that new feelings can't overide love. She made a choice, and it was hers, and no level of intelligence, stupidity, or any other trait can make an influence on her decision. There's something to think about if you understand it. I just sometimes live by the common saying "If it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. And don't worry, there's plenty of fish in the sea".