My friend is getting abused...

[heartbroke9887]

I need help!

Okay, so my friend told this to me some time ago, but her parents are split

up, and her mom is insane. her parents have been having a custody battle for

some time. So anyway, my friend is the type who hates being in the spot

light. she hates to get attention and get noticed a lot. So before I tell you

what happens, know that calling the police isn't an option with me.

You see, She LOVES her mom, but her mom can over react about some things. I just want my friend to see how bad abuse is!

she doesnt want to get hurt, but she doesnt want her MOM to be hurt.

Confusing huh?

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So she will stay at her mom's house, and her mom is really, just insane.

she will hit and kick her so much that she will come to class and have

bruises on her legs and have red marks on her face.

I hate seeing this because she will sob when i come over to her and ask

what happened. I hate seeing her like this and I hate her mom for doing

this.

HELP!!

I am almost crying thinking of this...

[Mzor203]

I'm sorry, but the only option here is to get some intervention of some sort. This most likely involves the police, as they would be the best ones to stop it. Seriously, this is abuse, and should not be allowed to go on, but it isn't going to stop just like that unless you get some outside help. I know you don't want to hear it, but that's the truth.

[AllThatIsLeft]

this is a hard situation! because she needs help!

does her father know this? maybe he can gain her custody if he uses that for his advantage!

other than that, sadly is calling the police.
no child should suffer from abuse.

[heartbroke9887]

I just dont want to be the one to call...

No one knows how scary abuse is until they've been through it.

[CookieMonster]

You really do need to call the police though. Calling the police will be the best for her. Or if you really, really don't want to, go to a teacher or the guidance counselor and tell them about it. Maybe even convince your friend to talk to an adult about it.

You need to think about what's best for her. Abuse is serious, and no child should ever have to go through it.

[zoig]

Call the police, make it clear that you are not identifing yourself.

[ECGBUnni]

you are in a tough position here.

On one hand, your friend trusted you enough with this information, and a violation of that trust will be very difficult on her, and on your relationship.

On the other hand, you have a responsibility to your friend now to do something about her abuse. Going straight to the police may not be in the best interest of your relationship with your friend, and may do as much damage as not saying anything at all.

If I was you, I'd go to someone you both trust, a teacher, a counselor, even your own parents. Talk to them, and then both of you talk to your friend and help her make the decision to talk to authorities or give permission to talk to police. That way, you aren't completely destroying that trust.

In the end though, you have to make that decision. If you want to keep it to yourself (which you seem not to want to) then nothing we say here can really change that, but if you really do want to speak to someone to help your friend's life (which i really respect you for. I've had to intervene in a friend's situation before and it wasn't pleasant), then you need to decide who would be the best person to receive that news.

my best of luck to you, and if you ever want to talk, pm me :)

[nachtspiegel]

Unless you want your friend to end up not coming back to school one day because her mother killed her, get her some help. I'm not going to sugarcoat it. It's really that simple.

Would you prefer her being in the spotlight (against her wishes) for a moment in life with the outcome of her getting away from this, or end up severely injured or dead?

[Cindex]

You don't necessarily need the police, but outside help is needed. Tell a school counselor or something about it, and tell her to push it until she admits to it. Then she's off the spot, you didn't call the cops for whatever reason, and she doesn't have to be hurt anymore.

[zoig]

You need the police or at least someone who has the power to step in and stop this.
everyone else will just be able to give luvvieduvvie sympathy but not much else.

Putting it blunty as Walking Disaster and ECGBUnni has said, intervention will put a strain on your firendship, to the extent that it may be ruined but the alternative is a very real posability of having a real loving, trusting relationship with a corpse. (either by her mothers hand or her own)

[Rambo]

Call the cops or tell the dad. Only options.

[yrina]

i'm thinking some reasons why her mom did that to her daughter. hmmmmmmm... maybe because everytime she sees your friend she's reminded about the separation? i can't say that she's too insane that she forgot that the one that she's hurting was her daughter. whatever the reason was, or eventhough how insane she is, she have no right to do that to your friend. i think, istead of calling the police, why don't you go to a psychiatrist and asked help. i think your friend's mom need help not your friend.

[Specter]

I suggest you alert the principle at your school that way when they take action you wont be in the spot light, please trust me when I say the wrong thing to do is nothing.

[Hyper]

This thread is 3~ months old so I'm locking it, please look at post dates in the future before posting.

If the OP wants it re-opened PM me.