Admitting the truth

[Skeln]

Ok, so I've noticed that most people (including myself) freely admit what sexuality we are online. Yet for me, that's the only place where I admit things like that. I really would feel embarassed if I told my friends that I'm bi, yet I feel kind of bad for freely admitting it online for the whole world to see and not trusting my friends enough to not make fun of me. I guess this is because I will never see any of you in my entire life...but I feel guilty still for not trusting my friends. So I was woundering, does anyone else have this problem? Also, do you think I'm wrong for not trusting my friends?:what:

[Mzor203]

As for not trusting your friends, you are the one who really needs to judge if it's a good or bad idea, as they are YOUR friends, and not ours. Thus we can't tell them for you.

A lot of this is going to come down to how comfortable you are with your sexuality and how comfortable you are with your friends knowing that you are bi.

What do you personally think of the idea of admitting it to your friends? Forget any shyness you may have, but how do you think they would react? Do you think it's something that might make things more awkward, or do you think things will be cool between you? In the end it's your choice, but just think that through. There really should be no harm in it if you really are friends.

[Skeln]

yeah, I know..and that's why I feel bad. We are good enough friends to accept eachother for who we really are...but I just can't tell them. It's one of those thingsa where you know the outcome, yet your afraid that it will end bad even though you kow deep down that it will be all right. And I have only known these friends for a few months, but even for the friends I had for years...I could not tell them. Just couldn't find the courage.

[Mzor203]

Well, many people go through something like that. It's hard that you can't bring yourself to do it, but maybe you'll come over it eventually. Just keep trying, I know I've had times like that where I've known the outcome of something would be fine but couldn't do it. All you can do is keep trying.




P.S.... Diablo?

[Skeln]

Um...are you asking if I play Diablo at the end of your comment Mzor? Because i don't I used to play WoW though. Now I can't...grandpa wont let me install it.

[Mzor203]

Um...are you asking if I play Diablo at the end of your comment Mzor? Because i don't I used to play WoW though. Now I can't...grandpa wont let me install it.

Yeah that's what I was asking since that's where I've seen the name Blood Raven before...

*Directs this thread back on topic while looking around shiftily*

[byee]

I see you're 14.

Let me put a slightly different spin on this for you, tell me if it twirls for you.

As we know, 14 is not known for their acceptance of things radically different. They also don't typically handle social surprises real well, right? I don't mean this at all critically, but 14 is a pretty insecure time for even the most open minded folks.

So, I think it shows exceptionally good judgement and real maturity on your part to recognize that your friends, however close to them you are, might not handle this news very well. You're not a 'coward', I think you're rather perceptive. Pat yourself on the back for that, it's a rare quality. At any age.

As you get older I think your peers are more secure with who they are, and as a result, are more accepting of differences with other people. So, until you reach that point, basically when your peers catch up to you in terms of their insight and acceptance of themselves and others, it's a good idea most of the time to be veeeery careful and highly selective of who you share this info with.

Just b/c you're not doing something you would like to doesn't make you a 'coward'. To the contrary, with careful thought, it makes you brilliant.

[Skeln]

First time I've heard that perspective. I guess it is true. thanks, makes me feel beter