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Reaper
January 28th, 2009, 04:05 PM
This is a question I have for the girls.

So basically I have pretty much had to give up on the girl I think I love. She said she really liked me and told her friends she liked me, but when I asked her out she said she wanted to go out as a friend because she didnt want a relationship. But she told her friends about me, because they told me that she said that I was really nice.
I havent been able to stop thinking about her for a few weeks. Im desperate to say something to her, but cant really think of anything to say, because I dont see her on a daily basis, our main form of communication is msn and text, but she hasnt signed in on msn for weeks. The last time I spoke to her was about two weeks ago, and even that was for about five minutes.
Would you find it creepy if you were sent a message saying something along the lines of:
"You are the most beautiful girl I have ever met, and I want to thank you for even giving someone like me even the slightest chance of being with someone as perfect as you. If you ever need a friend I will always be here for you"


Because I cant keep my feelings bottled up anymore. I really want to at least say something to her. Its killing me just sitting here doing nothing, I actually have cried twice in about a week, and I havent cried for years... But I have no idea what to do.

Just forgetting about her isnt an option for me. What would be the best thing to do in this situation?
just-me
January 28th, 2009, 04:56 PM
im stuk here too, but personally i dont think thats the best idea, especially if u havnt spoken for weeks. but if u feel you must go ahead, but say at the beginin how u must get this off your chest and maybe tone it down a little because if u go to over the top it will start sounding like either its a pick up line or that its somethin too serious and it make backfire.
just some ideas xxx
Reaper
January 28th, 2009, 04:58 PM
im stuk here too, but personally i dont think thats the best idea, especially if u havnt spoken for weeks. but if u feel you must go ahead, but say at the beginin how u must get this off your chest and maybe tone it down a little because if u go to over the top it will start sounding like either its a pick up line or that its somethin too serious and it make backfire.
just some ideas xxx

To be honest I have tried to do nothing for weeks and it has just made me feel worse. I have to do something, but Im not sure what.
Many thanks for the ideas though :wub:
OnlyByTheNight.
January 28th, 2009, 05:20 PM
Well i think the message idea is totally sweet! But only if she does like you which by the sounds of it she does! Id say go for it. Let us know how you get on! :) XxX
Reaper
January 29th, 2009, 12:17 PM
Ok thanks =)

I reckon I will send her something. Maybe not as heavy as what I wrote down, but a bit watered down.

More opinions greatly appreciated!
AllThatIsLeft
January 29th, 2009, 03:01 PM
watered down sounds good.

that's a bit intense, and it can come off as creepy if you havent talked in a while.

but the main idea is good.
Reaper
January 29th, 2009, 03:29 PM
Thanks.

I was feeling a bit sorry for myself when I wrote that :P
Just a little intense I think.
triplethreat40
February 1st, 2009, 07:29 PM
Actually, I don't think that it would need to be watered down too much if you had just seen her in person and said it in a conversation(txt or otherwise). It's just by it's self that it is really creepy.
Reaper
February 2nd, 2009, 03:21 PM
The situation has changed a bit, so I thought I would update:

A girl who I have been friends with me came up to me today and said "You know *Girls Name* don't you?". I said yes but didnt really think to develop the conversation.
I was thinking about it and asked her later on how she knew. Apparently she had talked about me at a party two days before..
I acknowledged this and then the girl said "I think you would make a cute couple".

I was thinking about that... Surely thats not the first thing you would say if you didnt have an idea something was going on between people....
I kind of got confused, but she said she would talk to her and find out what she felt about me. Im going to be in a shit state for a few days now D= lol
Triceratops
February 2nd, 2009, 03:26 PM
I kind of got confused, but she said she would talk to her and find out what she felt about me. Im going to be in a shit state for a few days now D= lol

Don't be so pessimistic about this, she might feel good things for you! :)
Just wait and see.
Reaper
February 2nd, 2009, 03:29 PM
I can't help it!!

Thats just the type of person I am =P
Reaper
February 3rd, 2009, 06:39 AM
Ahh. I texted her last night and she hasnt replied...
Surely that isnt a good thing D=
Halibut
February 3rd, 2009, 10:46 PM
sounds like she has some issues