I really, really want kids

[Triceratops]

I would give up everything just to have a child.

I was talking about this with friends a few weeks a go, talking about when we're gonna have kids as such. And this really upset me because it reminds me of how badly I want children. I would do anything for my kid and I would look after it no matter what.

I'm obviously young and I'm not IN a relationship at the moment, but I feel as if I want to fast forward time just so I'm older and more responsible to have kids. It gets me down so much because it's going to be YEARS until I'll probably have children. I'm so impatient and I hate being at the age I'm at now (I'm 15, turning 16 this year).

I always think about what how many children I want, what I'm going to call them, feed them, read them bedtime stories, how I would do their hair and clothes and help them with their homework etc. I honestly believe I would be a good mother as I would be so caring and put them before anything else. It's almost as if I wish I was in a completely different life.

How do I get over this?

[Requin]

I'm sorry but I'm probably going to drop a huge bombshell on your ideas. :-(

Lots of girls and women dream of having kids. But it's not all plain sailing and fun. It's very, very hard work, it's why men traditonally don't look after the kids. :-)
I have no doubt that you would be an incredible mother and would love having kids, but I'm sorry but you are very young. Your probably feeling 'broody' horrible word that it is. If you see other women with their children you probably feel like this...and even if you have relations who have kids, you feel like you want to be like them.

As I'm not a women I do not know how you can stop feeling like this, maybe you can control it? Your a teenager! You get strong feelings over things like this, so I don't see it as a huge problem, as long as you don't go crazy and have sex with any boy with a pulse and a penis!! Which, if I have judged you correctly you won't do. As you are a mature and sensible person, who wouldn't rush to have a child without thinking about the consequences.
I'm sure you'll be fine, these feelings will probably pass for a bit, then they may come back even stronger. :-)

[byee]

I'm not sure you can 'get over' wanting kids (or anything, ftm). I think what you can do is better understand why you're so driven about it. Wanting something so badly that you yearn for it suggetss that it's more of a need than a want or hope or desire. And, typically, people NEED things to compensate for what they don't have (or had).

So, you might start to understand this by asking yourself what need a child would have for you, why it's so important. What's it compensating for? Your description of the fantasy of what it would be like for you to be a mom involves you taking care of them and loving them and nurturing them. Maybe you feel you didn't/don't get enough of that?

The 'solution', then, would involve recognizing that (or whatever) the issue is, whatever the NEED is, and try to get it for yourself, now, when you need it.

You'll still want to have kids, it'll be something you look forward to, but the craving won't be so strong, b/c you'll be addressing the need now. And, most likely when you have them, you'll enjoy them more b/c you'll experience them much more realistically.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I need to tell you this, actually I feel compelled to and I love the fact that you want one but I think you should hear this from me. It's not easy, it's not fun and it certainly it is something that comes first before anything else.

This means waking up in the middle of the night to change a diaper, feed, or hold. Having friends over, well no that rarely happens. It's a lot of work, and trust me it's alot more than you could ever comprehend. Now mix that in with a job and bills, ='s alot of work and a bombshell on your body. Now it truly is rewarding and thats why I said that I love you thinking that way.

But for right now, make it a goal to have kids, later in life. Cause right now is not the right time and things will certainly be a hell of alot better when you have money in the bank and home and a husband who loves you dearly.

[Capote]

I think every girl passes through this phase. My friend Samantha is 18 and she is single. She told me last week that she really wants to have a baby ASAP. I don't get it! :|

[Hyper]

Well the thing is your still a kid yourself..

So what you should do is enjoy it while it lasts.. As all the experiences we go through during this period will shape us and give us necessary experience for adult life, understand of others, emotions, how relationships work etc..

And your kid will need to have a mother who can tell him/her alot of useful, taughtful, interesting stories ^^

[Halibut]

i know how you feel as i am having the same problem. i had a pregnancy scare a while ago and i was kind of sad i was not pregnant. odd. but i think lots of girls feel like this at some moment