personality

[tailor67]

there's this guy i really really like, he use to be my friend's bf and so she tells me heaps about him, but lately she hasnt been answering my questions that i ask about him, and sometimes i think that she dosen't like me any more.

I really really like him but i'm really really shy, and that part of my personality, i'm not shy when im arpund family and friends but never talk to boys that i dont know, i really hate that part of my personality, i go swimming with him and cant help staring at him.

any advice?

thanks for your help.

[scatman]

instead of going swimming with him try to go to the movies or get ice cream?

[Gumleaf]

another shy person. i'm about the shyest person ever so i feel your pain. maybe you should try and be friends with him. get another friend maybe to go with you if you are nervous about it and just say hi and see where that goes. that way you brake the ice a bit and you're not jumping in the deep end either.

[byee]

Most friends don't necesssarily like to talk about other people, so your friend might be getting a bit resentful and burned out by your questions, esp. if this happens a lot.

The way to ovecome shyness is to 'just do it', as in start talking with him. It sounds like you don't have a lot of experience with guys, so it's the lack of that which hold you back. The way to overcome that lack of eperience is to get some experience! Don't confuse the lack of confidence that results from a lack of exoerience with a personality attribute like shyness. Shy people tend to be withdrawn from even those they know, like family, etc.

Boys aren't really that different, the same skills you use to talk with your family or friends or others you're comfortable with are available to you with guys. Don't let the newness of it deter you. Start off with something really safe and easy like "Hi!", and take it from there. Once you start, you'll find it's not nearly as intimidating as you think now.

[Burnthecity]

like sam said, only way to get over shyness is to just do it, go talk to him, get to know him, be his friend