Blue Balls

[Stevie J]

Hey im going to refrain from being to vulgar so here it goes
me and my girlfriend were being lovey dovey
and she was "stroking me", though after a long time i had not climaxed...
i usually climax in approximatly 3-5 minutes when im "alone"
but when she does it i can't seem to finish

is there something wrong
is it nerves?

do you guys here have any advice

thanks a bunch

[theOperaGhost]

It is probably nerves. When you get more comfortable with it shouldn't take so long. You just need to relax.

[Stevie J]

I figured as much
does anyone know how i might relax like, i love this girl and i am extremely comfortable around her but when shes goes down south with her hand i just tense up

[theOperaGhost]

Hmm...that's the tricky part. To be completely honest, it might just be a sign that you're not ready for an intimate relationship. How old are you? How long have you been doing this? It will become more comfortable over time. I know my first hand job it took like 20 minutes or so, but after that it took about the normal time.

[Stevie J]

Im 17, I have been with this girlfriend since around august
and ive had 3 hand jobs in total only finish once and that was actually like the worst climax ever it barely came out. and those 3 were over the course of a week. Last week i believe...
20 minutes eh? well maybe if i just let her go at it for a long time hahaha

[byee]

Remember that the REAL sex organ is the brain. So, if it doesn't feel right up there, it won't work down there, regardless of how good it might feel.

There's no time table for people to get comfortable with intimacy, it's an individual thing, and you canlt rush it. But, maybe if you refrained from these trials and just spent more time with her, you'd get there sooner. Sometimes, you need to take a step back (or two) before moving forward.

[Stevie J]

Its funny, ive been telling myself these very same things. ive talked with her about it
and we both want this
its probably just both our nerves. Were going to try it once mroe
and if it doesnt work well just hold off on it
Ive been working her down there for quite some time and were fine with that.
I just need ot believe in her and myself.