Am I gay or not?

[Nick_nap]

Well, I don't like girls(sexually, they don't turn me on) and I do like guys(sexually, I get turned on); but I absolutelly refuse to be with a man and be gay. Also I do want to have a girlfriend, it's just that girls don't turn me on and guys do, I DON'T want a boyfriend. The whole situation frustrates me:mad:. I'm 14 turning 15 in a cuople months. So am I gay or not?:what:

[Mzor203]

Well, first of all, it could possibly turn out that this is all a product of the hormones in your body, but I think we should still look a bit deeper here.

What you are saying confuses me just a bit. When you say you 'want' a girlfriend, is this actually a want you have, or is it simply something you want to do to fit in? If you have the ability to love a girl mentally, then chances are that you are either not gay or bi.

Now, when you say that you don't want a boyfriend, is this just denial of what you're feeling? Or do you really not love boys emotionally? If this is the case, and you only like boys sexually, it is very likely that this is something that can be put down to hormones. Hormones can mess with our bodies sometimes, and in puberty cause a lot of strange thoughts.

As for not liking girls sexually... well, that may be a mixed blessing for the time being. If you find that you do really love girls, then, well, it can be a good thing if you find a girl that loves you that way as well, but isn't ready for sex or whatever.

But that is straying a bit off topic. Get back to us and describe this in a little more detail. Do you love girls emotionally? Do you love boys emotionally, but simply want to deny that you have any chance of being gay? More information will help solve this problem.

[Nick_nap]

I love girls emotionally and not boys. With guys it's just physical.

[Mzor203]

Well, I think it's probably safe to say at this point in your life that it is hormones. Many boys go through phases where they are curious about other boys' bodies. It may be that this is what is happening.

[Nick_nap]

Thanks. My mind is at easy now :] :)

[Nick_nap]

I forgot to ask, is there an explanation to why girls don't turn me on??

[Mzor203]

Where hormones and puberty is involved, there isn't often a definite answer, exactly. It could just be that maybe that part of you hasn't developed quite yet, or something else entirely.

How old are you, may I ask? And do you know how far into puberty you are? (Like, when did it start?)

[Nick_nap]

I'm 14 and started puberty at 10.

[Mzor203]

I see. Well, you still have quite a ways to go, so you will be seeing quite a few changes as time progresses. I'm not sure anyone can really tell you exactly why you don't like girls sexually, but you may start at any time. Time will tell.

[Nick_nap]

thanks:):):)