wanting or having

[tailor67]

ok so im not so sure if this is part of puberty or not but me and my ex broke up a while ago and now i've been looking for someone new and im not sure if i love someone or i want to love someone if you dont get it just say and i'll tru explain in better


thanks

[theOperaGhost]

Moved to Relationships and Dating.

[Gumleaf]

thats an easy trap to fall into. you've had something special and then its taken away and you just long for it to be like it was before and end up with the wrong person on the rebound. i know what thats like and all it results in is basically double the pain. i suggest that you try your hardest to think with both your head and heart when it comes to finding a new guy. find someone who you really like to be with, and not just to feel loved like what you are longing for. it is worth the wait to find the right person, i can promise you that.

[byee]

Well, the need to love and be loved is part of being human, frankly I think it's a biological drive.

So, if you've recently been in a nice relationship, that need for attachment has been met, which feels good and reinforces the underlying need. When the relationship ends, there's a sense of loss, which as we all know, is pretty uncomfortable. It's natural to want to replace the loss, esp. if your experience with the prior attachment has been positive, we like being close.

The risk now is not falling into a relationship purely b/c you cannot tolerate the loss. So, as long as you're aware that your judgement might be temporarily impaired by your sense of loss and desire to replace that loss, it's Ok (and normal) to seek a replacement. Just keep your eyes open and continue to assess things based on how he's treating you, rather than the mere fact that he's there.

[tailor67]

thanks :)

[Halibut]

its called life and growing up

[Stark]

You find the difference later in life.