too young to love?

[Josh9961]

The other day my girlfriend and I were talking and she just said she didnt think that kids our age (13) should be "emotionally promiscuous" because maybe we were too young to know what love meant. I told her that it was bs and I knew that i loved her but it got me thinking, waht if we ARE too young to know what love is? My question is do you think kids our age are old enough to really understand what love means?

[Reaper]

I felt what I thought was love at that age..

It wasnt until much more recently that I actually did fall in love. Its alot different to what I experienced when I was 13. That isnt to say you cant feel it..

Yet it has been the best and yet most painful experience of my life.

[byee]

Well, clearly your girlfirend is either intellectually very advanced (promiscious?), or she heard all that from her parents. 13 y/o's typically don't talk like that about something as complicated as love, especially if they're inexperienced in such matters. Wisdom comes from experience.

So, assuming it's coming from her parents, it would be most unwise to openly disagree with and challenge that view, however false it might be. Rather, you should avoid the labels that cause parents such agita, like 'Love', 'Going out', and 'Date'. You can have a perfectly fine relationship, close even, without using the words that cause trouble.

[4IrishJustice]

The fact is that love is perhaps the most complicated idea for humans to ponder, and by far the most commonly used to express emotion for another person. When people, especially teenagers, feel that inward ache, usually centered in the stomach, when they think about another they confuse that desire for love. Love is not a desire nor a necessity, it's a force of nature.

For four years I've obsessed over the idea of love. Many girls came in and out of my life, to some I said "I love you" to others I didn't. With one of those girls, who is identical to the rest, I did fall in love. It was over the next few days, when I was debating in my mind whether or not I loved her, that I had my epiphany.

Love is when you are furious with another human being, yet you want to be in the same room with them anyways. Whether you want it to or not, that kind of love doesn't die with time nor heartache.

To answer your question, it's not a matter of age. But no, from what you've said I don't think you understand what love means. Just take things slow.

[ECGBUnni]

Love is a complex and very often misunderstood emotion. Many time we *think* we're in love, when in fact we actually are not. What makes it worse, is that there is no genuine litmus test for love. There is no make or break sign that will tell you if you are in love or not.

People love at all ages. Romantic love, however, takes so much more out of a person than almost any emotion out there. I'm not gonna question the possibility that you can love at 13. I think that because love is so complex, and so strong, it can take ahold of you at any age, but the reality of the matter is that most people at 13 don't really understand anything deeper than the superficial top of the emotion love. They understand love as they see it from the media, or maybe their parents. I personally believe that in order to feel love you have to see beyond that covering, and understand that true love requires many other emotions with it, some of them quite messy.

So, to try to kinda sum things up. Yes, I think you can love at 13, but I don't think it's very likely.

[MysticalBurrito]

Personaly Ive never been in love so I wouldnt know what it feels like and no offense but love is a complicated thing to feel I mean sometime when people meet its like "wow! someday im gonna marry him/her someday"
but thats when their older at our age sometimes we cant tell whether its love or a big crush............hope it works out

[Sage]

'Emotionally Promiscuous'? What the fuck?

You can't be too young to love, you can only lack the maturity needed. But I'd be lying if I said most folks at thirteen have no clue what they're talking about.

[BuryYourFlame]

While it is true that at the age of 13 your hormones will most likely be in control of what you think is love, you can still love properly if you think with your heart instead of with your head. If you have carefully thought through who you are in "love" with, and decided that you are then no, you are not too young. I also think it is important to note that love doesn't necisserally mean a physical connection, you have to be able to communicate with your partner on an emotional level as well. Again, i urge you to think it through very carefully before you go and tell someone that you love them.

I started going out with my first and only girlfriend when i was 12, and we had our 2 year anniversary in October 2008, i definately love her, this is just one example of how a person that is "too young" for love, can understand and be in love. I would also like to add that both me and my girlfriend are Christians, i dont know if that will mean anything to you, on why we have stayed together so long, but it really helps when both the people have similar interests etc.

Dec

[just-me]

in my experience you only know who you truly love when there gone.

[Sage]

in my experience you only know who you truly love when there gone.

I'd disagree, there's many loving couples who eventually get married and stay together their whole lives... >_>

[Hyper]

Short answer

No

There are exceptions to pretty much everything but the general answer is no

[AutumnDae]

When I was 12/13, I thought I was in love. When you have a good relationship (or what you think is a good relationship) and you are that age, you are most likely going to think you are in love. Wait though, if/when you two break up, you will find someone that you do truly love, and it will be like "Wow, I really did not love her."

Im my opinion, most likely not.