I really need help desperately

[Reaper]

So I wrote up a problem I had with a girl a while ago.. The problem has just really got more complicated so I will repost it with an update..

Basically the girl I have liked for about month (who I will call Girl A), and I mean really like, I found out a few weeks ago she had been out with my mate (who I will call Guy A), soon after I asked her. I basically thought she was fucking him behind my back, it hurt but I got over it.
Really without my trying another girl started talking to me (I will call her Girl B), I like her as a friend and I asked her out as a friend.
Soon after this happened I bumped into Girl A's best friend. We got chatting, she asked me whether I spoke to Girl A anymore. I said I didnt because she I asked her out and she said no because she didnt want a relationship at this time, and was going out with Guy A anyways. She said this wasnt true, that she didnt like Guy A and had told her she really liked me. This gave me some hope, as I still really like Girl A, and I think about her everyday.

Stupidly things got a bit carried away with Girl B, and we ended up kissing.. she said she felt something between us and I agreed, too scared to say I didnt really. I like her more than a friend, but Im confused as to whether I want to leave it and go after Girl A, even though she ignored me the last time I sent her a text, or stick with Girl B.



The reason this is a hard decision for me is that I am so shy, and I havent had a relationship in around 4 years. I am nearing my 18th birthday and I am still a virgin which embarasses me immensely to say even on the internet and is absolutely torture talking about it with my friends. Even though they are not nasty about it, and joke around with me and I find it funny, but it still really hurts inside. Also, I have already signed my name down for the royal marines commandos when I turn 18. The weird thing is that when I think about the dangers of that the thing that concerns me most is that I will die a virgin who has never really had a proper relationship, Im not worried about other such losses such as family and friends, but the fact that I have never had sex.

I really need some advice as to what I should do. I dont want to keep talking to girl A because Im starting to feel like Im pestering even though she told her friend she likes me...
Also, I would appreciate some honest opinions as to whether physically I am more in girl A or girl B's league. I dont really want to post the pictures here, but I will PM them to someone who I think I can trust. I would really appreciate that..


Sorry for the long read.

[byee]

I think if you're prepared to risk your life for your country by joining the armed services you cannot be shy! That takes both nobility and selflessness, not to say anything of courage.

I think you might want to ask yourself why you're so hung up on losing your virginity, why that is so important. What's the special meaning behind that?There are all kinds of rites of passages, but the ones that involve merely the physical aren't very meaningful. There really isn't any skill in getting laid, if you really wanted to do that, there's ways to accomplish it quite inexpensively.

Being involved in a relationship is another matter entirely. If it's been a while, or you haven't really experienced a mature relationship, then you should go for the one that's relatively easy and the girl more receptive. It will be a nice start, you'll gain some experience, and there's less risk for rejection than 'Dream girl', who is giving you no encourgement at all.

Remember, we all crawl before we run. It builds confidence and gives experience. And, it's fun, too. Even if the scenery doesn't move a quickly as we'd like.

[Reaper]

You raise an interesting point. I am not really sure myself why I am so stuck on losing my virginity. But it is always something that is bothering me.. I know I shouldnt really be so desperate to lose it, but it is something that I feel I am ready for, and I have found the girl I would like to lose it to.. "Girl A".

Also, your point about mature relationships. Would it not to be considered crossing a boundry if I was to enter a relationship with a girl who I like, but am unsure whether I like any more than a friend. My feelings towards her are pretty much the opposite towards Girl A.. I find myself checking her facebook to see if she is talking to any other guys. Its almost becoming an obsession and my feelings for her are too strong to forget about her and have another relationship.


Also your point about the marines and shyness shocked me at first. I had never really thought about why I strive to risk my life for my country and challenge myself to the be the best. I know that I crave adreniline, because I play paintball at a pretty high level. I cherish the oppurtunity to use anger, agression and unleash the person that is behind the shy me. I originally thought that was the reason I wanted to go to war, but I was thinking about this last night, and I believe it is the fact that I want a chance to prove I am capable of being the best, and bettering myself as a human. I have always had people do something better than me.. My friends have been smarter, got better grades, got nicer girls. The only real things I have to be proud about are my physical fitness, which I put all my effort into, and more recently, the fact that I managed to get with Girl A. That might sound pretty pathetic, but the "Well done mate, she is gorgeous", my friend said when he spoke to me later that night was a feeling I have rarely felt before. I guess that is pride.