molested?

[MysticalBurrito]

i had this next door neighbor when i was five he was 13 or 12 i would around him because i thought he was cool until I went into a wooded area around the trailer park and he forced me to touch him somewhere i didnt want to he said if i didnt he would hurt me.........
was I molested i always thought being molested meant sexual rape or whatever I thought about it when i saw him again today i started shaking and i ran away to a bathroom....
then i ended my three day streak with out cutting
God i wished death on him so many times........
that was 9 yrs ago and the fucking creep had enough spine to smile at me

[Mzor203]

So this was when you were 6, right? How old was your neighbor, exactly? If he was around your age... well, I don't think his intent was to hurt you exactly, but if he was older, and had more sense, yes this definitely was a form of abuse.

[MysticalBurrito]

i was five
and he was 12 or 13 dont you think a guy of that age would no not to force a child to touch.....................
well you know

[Mzor203]

Yes, that was definitely not well intended, and is not acceptable. So in a way, yes you were abused.

[MysticalBurrito]

theres nothing i can do now just get on with life

[JacobHerrington]

get revenge thsts all i have to say

[byee]

The answer to your question is that regardless of what you call it, your experience of this certainly falls under the category of abuse. Not only your emotional response to seeing him now, but the cutting behavior indicate that you were taken advantage of and feel violated.

Please tell me you have a therapist whom you can talk to about all this, and let it out in a controlled, supportive environment/relationship. That way, you can develop coping skills to deal with the trauma of what happened, and not have it interfere with your life and well being.

If you do not have someone, let's work on a way for that to happen for you.

[Oblivion]

The best thing to do is talk to a counselor or therapist.
They can help you get through it.

Revenge is not a good path to follow.

[philip374374]

yeah you were abused +1

[MysticalBurrito]

i dont have any conslers (sorry my spelling sucks)
since then i cant trust any guys i dont even trust my best friend.......

[Sapphire]

Yes, he did molest you. It falls under the category of sexual abuse.
I am sorry that you went through that and having to put up with the after-effects :hug3: I know that trusting people is scary, but not talking about it with anyone will not help.

There should be a rape crisis centre near you that will be able to provide you with a counsellor who is specially trained to help people who have survived sexual abuse.
Considering your distrust of males, you can ask to specifically see a female counsellor and they will be understanding of this.

If you need to chat then you can always pm me.

[MysticalBurrito]

thanks :hug3:

[NeedyTeen]

Oh hun,but yes I think you were abused in a way.
Boys are perverted freaks,heck Im scared to be alone with one of the boys in my class from what I hear them talking about.

Don't cut yourself,although I've never experienced something like you,it's best for you to move on. Forget about him! If he ever smiles at you again (make sure there are other people around you) Just ignore him or like give him a look. That way he can't harm you in public.


Feel better babe :D Keep the past! in the past!

[DarkWingedAngel]

I'd have to say that was abuse
what everyone has said here sorta covered everything
I'd just say see a counselor

[ECGBUnni]

that was definitively abuse. Emotional as well as sexual abuse that clearly has left deep emotional scars on you.

I understand that you are distrustful around people, hell, so am i. but this is different. in a way, by letting yourself relapse into dangerous behaviors you are letting him control your life. He doesn't deserve that amount of control over you. He doesn't deserve control over anyone though that's exactly what he wants. You are stronger than him and you can prove that by seeking help. It doesn't need to be a licensed professional at first, anyone will do. Maybe even a stranger that you start talking to (you can use vague terms). But in the end I would suggest that you see someone that has handled these cases of abuse before. Unfortunately there probably isn't much you can do to prosecute him, though he shows dangerous signs of future abuse. The best thing you can do is try to move on.

my best of luck to you and you can always pm me.