Lil bros

[radboi]

so my lil bro is 12 and i am 15 almost 16

so i was in my room he cam in and said he had a boner and i said cool its a male thing it will go away and he goes well when u have a boner u touch it i watched u couple times i was like WTF
So i said well do u wanna learn and he said yes so i pulled down my shorts and got a bone he already had one i put porn on and he watched i was wanking and he did not know so i put my hand said you go like this and and he did and was happy.
So today i was doing my home work and asked if he could wank with me again

is that okay?

[Mzor203]

This has the potential to become a very awkward situation. You have to be really careful here.

It is slightly odd that you did this in the first place, but not pushing it. You're brothers, and brothers should teach each other things. However, you may soon find that you become very uncomfortable with this, and that is something you wouldn't want. I think the best thing to do in this situation would be to simply to say to him that you think that now that he knows how, he should do it by himself, as it's more of a private thing to do. Not only will this teach him that he should always do it in private, but it will keep you two out of awkward situations.

[radboi]

Yes good point

[radboi]

But would it not be like jacking off with ur friends?

[Mzor203]

The problem is, if things between friends get too awkward, the friendship can fall apart and you will go your seperate ways.

Your brother, however, is living in your house. You see it every day. Wrecking your relationship would be horrible.

[radboi]

Oh i never thought of it that way!
Thank you for ur help
I will be sure to say no !

[Θάνατος]

I agree with Rex while you are doing nothing wrong you could get too comfortable with each other and it might lead to more experimentation with your brother. That is not a good thing to do and also it is incest.

You should tell your brother that he needs to wank on his own now and if he has any questions then he can come to you and ask you.

Your brother can use you as a resource for learning about sex not a way of getting him and you off.

[PuppetPrince]

he's polly curious or something, or maybee not .. i dont think it would last long.. he will learn on his own to jack off by himself and go his own ways.. and he can just go jack off with his friends.

[Aves]

Just don't do it with him again, tell him it feels better by yourself.

[Fusion]

Just don't do it with him again, tell him it feels better by yourself.

i agree i think that wanking should be done in private and if you do decide to do it with another person your brother may not be the best person as i have seen in the past many people have lost friendships with wanking together or they become a lot more closer i personally would say you know what to do you can do it by yourself

[byee]

Wait, guys. There IS something wrong here! It's not OK for a 16 y/o to actually show a 12 y/o how to masturbate. It's a violation of a boundary, an unwritten, unspoken 'rule' that guides interpersonal interaction.

12 is pre pubescent, he's not sexual yet, you're all assuming that the real issue was as straightforward as his request about masturbation. But, if a 12 y/o needs to ask how to masturbate, he's not really ready to. The 16 y/o assumed it was about that, masturbation, rather than a more emotional need, his need for acceptance and acknowledgement by his older bro. He DID say he saw him masturbate, and his request to learn is probably a way to identify with his older bro and 'be like him'. That's not about masturbation, it's about the relationship. By actually putting the porn on and demonstrating how to masturbate, and then masturbate him, he missed that point and gave him info of a very personal nature that was entirely unnecessary.

Do not do this again, your little brother is realizing that you're growing up and becoming more different than him and he's unsettled by that. Address that by finding time to be with him and support him and enjoy him. With your clothes on.

[TheCatDied]

YOU NEED TO STOP IMEADIATLY! People who are 16 and older can go to prison or stuff like that. If you'r li'll bro starts saying things about you to other people then it can get worse. If the kid tells the wrong people, those kids parents could call the authorities up or your parents. I would stop now. The authorities could have you and your li'll brother taken away from your parents... and that would not be good. I am not trying to scare you or anything but this is kinda serious.

[Marvin]

I think its ok to teach your brother 1 or 2 times but more isnt good.

[MisterAndrews]

Wait, guys. There IS something wrong here! It's not OK for a 16 y/o to actually show a 12 y/o how to masturbate. It's a violation of a boundary, an unwritten, unspoken 'rule' that guides interpersonal interaction.

12 is pre pubescent, he's not sexual yet, you're all assuming that the real issue was as straightforward as his request about masturbation. But, if a 12 y/o needs to ask how to masturbate, he's not really ready to.

Sam, Normally i would agree with you, but i think you're wrong on that point. You're assuming that a 12 year old cannot know about sex or have sexual feelings. I think they can... I was masturbating when I was 12. Infact I think he's probably been in a situation with friends to trigger this request.

I AGREE, DON'T DO IT AGAIN!

[staying_alive]

Yeah i think we just cruised way off topic here. Sam, how did you get all the way out there? The OP was simply wondering if he should do it again, and everyone said no. I mean I think it's okay to show him once and then let him do it on his own here. Let's not get so technical. And TheCatDied, are you sure you know what you're talking about? I've never heard of anything that says a 16 year old can't show his little brother how to jack off. I mean it's not like child molestation or anything.

[byee]

Sam, Normally i would agree with you, but i think you're wrong on that point. You're assuming that a 12 year old cannot know about sex or have sexual feelings. I think they can... I was masturbating when I was 12. Infact I think he's probably been in a situation with friends to trigger this request.

I AGREE, DON'T DO IT AGAIN!

Yeah i think we just cruised way off topic here. Sam, how did you get all the way out there? The OP was simply wondering if he should do it again, and everyone said no. I mean I think it's okay to show him once and then let him do it on his own here. Let's not get so technical. And TheCatDied, are you sure you know what you're talking about? I've never heard of anything that says a 16 year old can't show his little brother how to jack off. I mean it's not like child molestation or anything.


I think there are many ways to interpret this, and if you usually agree with me (which shows both your good taste and good judgement!), you'll also know I like to look for the reasons not so obvious. So, I really do believe that anyone who's feeling sexual knows how to masturbate, it's a curiosity or need or urge driven behavior. We learn because we need to. So, if this 12 y/o had to ask, we should wonder why. Especially since he asked after revealing that he saw his older bro doing it. It's easy to take it at face value, but the other facts would suggest that the real issue is that the 12 y/o just wanted to experience something his older bro does, that he felt left out. That's about something emotional, not sexual.

Regardless of what we focus on, the conclusions are the same, he shouldn't do it again. I just don't think he should have done it the first time, either.

[Stark]

If you do it too much it could get awkward.

[iceyfresh]

i think its fine just dont do it to much teach him to wank on his own.

[Lifeguard18]

You should and try to tell him to do it by himself

[Neverender]

so my lil bro is 12 and i am 15 almost 16

so i was in my room he cam in and said he had a boner and i said cool its a male thing it will go away and he goes well when u have a boner u touch it i watched u couple times i was like WTF
So i said well do u wanna learn and he said yes so i pulled down my shorts and got a bone he already had one i put porn on and he watched i was wanking and he did not know so i put my hand said you go like this and and he did and was happy.
So today i was doing my home work and asked if he could wank with me again

is that okay?

well 2 things:


This can cause very awkward moments between you two. and since you have to live with him. having a broken relationship would be gratuitiously bad
This is on borderline incest. which happens to be illegal in most places.

[jamescalipar]

tell him to try it by himself

[Justin16]

I think it is wrong because jacking off should be a self discovery. It is sort of like pushing maturity onto your brother by teaching him.

Jacking off, having sex etc is something that comes with age, not something u should learn.

In saying this, after I first jacked off and cummed, I was scared something was wrong so I went and asked my older bro what the hell the thick stuff was. Even though it was funny to him he still told me and that is fine, because I had already learned how to jack off by myself.

[Antares]

Ok, this has had a lot of responses and he has another 'question' with the same brother...so

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