I really hate my brother...

[Trickster]

Ok this is kinda long so bear with me
I have a little brother he is 11 years old and about to be 12. He gets on my nerves so much!!
It started that while ago cuz i was mad at my mom for reasons not important right now, and then he comes down blaming me for erasing a movie( which i didnt do cuz i was asleep when it erased itself. I was asleep till 10:30 am and he knows that and da show stopped recording at 10:00am) so i snap at him cuz im already in a bad mood and he comes down blaming me when i didnt do it. Yelling screaming and alot of name calling. this goes on and this happens.
Ok so i get my music from Limewire and he starts calling me an illegal downloader like crazy and i call him a hypocrite since he gets his music from where i get it, yet he doesnt stop. SO he hangs a sign on my door saying "Illegal downloader. P.S. Haha" so i write a long note saying how he is a bully, a hypocritacal little selfish brat and how i dont care for him at all. He throws a fit because i actually retailiate(I dont usually, im a passive person) then we agree to not talk until we are adults.
Im happy of course and i get no more head aches, migrains and im feeling better. But he wont stop talking to me, and saying crap. Then finally he snaps and starts being a little brat again. He throws my toothbrush away after doing God knows what to it in the bathroom, starts moving my stuff, calling my stuff crap, and etc. I get so frustrated and angry i snap. He was on da computer and all the iTunes music is on mine screen name so i shut it off. Mine has a password so he cant get in. Then i discover my favorite game i play like everyday is gone. and im just really reving up to just grab a knife and kill this little spoiled rotten, selfish, bully, violent, attitude giving, bitch of a brother!!! Im really MAD:mad: and im like very much just hate him.
All he does is push things and people until they are ready to snap and when they do he gets mad because he acts like he is a baby and that nobody will do anything bad. Its an adult world and when u play their game and u lose it is horrible.
So i wanna know what can happen or what i should do. Because i really do hate him and i am just so close to killing the little bitch.

[Mzor203]

First, you have to calm down a little bit. Killing is not the answer.

You need to have a talk with your parents, at a time when he is not around. You need to tell them that he is doing things that are really annoying you, and that he is vandalising your stuff, and that you can't do anything about it because he is smaller and younger.

Next, start ignoring him. Yes, he may be destroying stuff, but look in to getting a lock or something to close your door with. If he puts an illegal downloader sign on your door or something, take it off, and put it in the trash. If you just ignore what he's doing, he'll see that it isn't creating an effect. It is harsh, but I've found that the silent treatment sometimes works quite well with siblings.

Now, your first option needs to be parents, though. Don't do anything more than you need to, or that might provoke him. Your parents have the best control over him, and if you get them alone, it should help.

[Θάνατος]

I agree don't something stupid that you will regret the rest of your life. Your little brother will be very important to you someday and you will look back on this with him and laugh some day.

Siblings can be very irritating but you can't kill them no matter how mad they make you.

Ignoring him will be the best thing to do he wants your attention and he is getting it by getting on your nerves. You also need to tell your parents what is going on and they might be able to help you out but what ever you do, don't respond in a violent manner.

Have you tried befriending your brother and telling him how much you love him. If your brother sees that your care he might quit being an irritating little brother.

I wish you luck and patience with your little brother.

[Trickster]

I was ignoring him for the past weeks and he doesnt stop. My parents want me to resolve an impossible case. I know he only be's a dick to me because if he is to my mom he gets punished, to my dad he will probably get kicked out the house, and to the dog he will get bitten. I really doubt he will be an useful to me one day because he is a dick and annoying and a big bore to me. Ignoring doesnt work.

[Mzor203]

Then you really need to have a more in depth conversation with your parents. That is really you're only option.

[Trickster]

Alright, ill try that. Since im outta options. The last one must be the one.

[Cloudfire]

Definitely have a talk with your parents, killing, or rather hurting really bad, is not the answer, and will only make matters worse. I also suggest getting a lock or something similar for your room, after all it is your personal space. Your bro might also want some attention too. Because, as you stated earlier, if he's a dick to your mum, he's punished, etc.

[Requin]

Little kids...especially boys, want ATTENTION!!!
There a bit like Donkey of Shrek..only less cute and likeable.

He wants attention, he wants you to snap so he can tell on you etc. Doing what the others have said and the silent treatment will work....
If it doesn't work..then I think he's inhuman. But talking to your folks should solve the trouble. :-)

[byee]

Yeah, tough one.

Two things: First, talking with your folks is good advice. Let them know what's going on and enlist their support at intervening here with him. Your best hope is to work with them, give them the info they need, and let them take care of it. Keep them updated (as in daily) about what's going on so they can stay on top of it.

Then, although this sounds contrarian, I would NOT ignore him. I suspect that's what is making him do all this: He wants your attention, and he's not getting it. So, he's doing (and saying) things to get that attention, and it's working. As they say, bad attention is better than no attention at all!

So, what you want here is to give him 'good' attention when he's being appropriate and responsive to you, when he's being 'good'. You have to give him some of yourself and your time here, you have to work with him, not just ignore him. I know you feel victimized, but in truth, so does he. And, since you're the one who wants this to stop, and you're the older, wiser one, it's your responsibility to do more of the work here and make more compromises. Get used to that, btw, that's life. Those higher up on the food chain make more compromises.

Talk with your folks, get them involved. Then, make it very clear to your bro CALMLY what you expect, and what you're prepared to do to reinforce his good behavior. Good behavior from him = Attention from you (ask him what it is he'd like to do with you); Bad behavior from him = problems with your folks, and you ignoring him.

You need to rebalance the equation. Right now, he only gets attention from you for being bad, and nothing for being good. There's no incentive for him to change, give that to him.

[Requin]

How old was he?? 11 getting on 12. There hyper active buggers at that age. I tried it with my bro and it worked. But as sam said, the safe method is to do that. He does want attention...and thinking about it then ignoring him wouldn't help.

But I assumed that talking to him and giving him attention after he's bugged you...wouldn't help as he's realised that he's won????
I just got it wrong I guess. :-(
Ignore my first post.

[Halibut]

you should talk to your parents about this or your brother is not gonna go far unless he seriously grows up