Adoption

[theOperaGhost]

How do you feel about adoption? Support it? Dislike the idea?

I'll post my answer, plus a few other questions when I get a few responses.

[Random_oso06]

well my opinion it is great because it gives parents that can't give birth to a child a chance have one and to give a child a good home if there in the streets

[Maverick]

I support adoption. I don't see any reason why if a kid's parents don't want their child why can't it go to a new family where they are wanted. Its unfortunate they can't live with their biological parents but going to a new family where they can be loved is better than staying in a family where they are not wanted.

I am not comfortable with gay adoption though.

[Requin]

I have no problem with adoption what so ever. Why should I oppose it?
A child who has no parents for some reason or another needs a home...better than having them live in a carehome.

But as Ant pointed out, gay adoption is something different altogether. I have no problem as to the reasons...but I don't think the child would have much fun at school, having gay parents...so that's really the main reason why I think it's a different matter.
But I can't think what they could do instead?

[DarkWingedAngel]

I'm all for adoption in fact if i didn't get adopted i wouldn't have the great mom I have now
but anyways
as ant and requin said gay adoption is a different story
I think if a kid were to get adopted by 2 gay or lesbian people it would way different
but im not going to explain now

[theOperaGhost]

I agree with all...I am a HUGE supporter of adoption, since I myself was adopted. It gives couples a chance to have children (my parents had three children of their own, but they all passed away, one at 4 days, one at 1.5 years, and one at 9 months). It also gives children without a home, a home filled with love and care.

My question now is, hypothetically, my biological parents decide, say when I'm like 13, they made a big mistake, they want to be my parents. Should I love them? If you were in that situation, would you love them? Would you consider them to be your parents? I say NO to all of them questions.

I'm going to work this like a debate, so I want people to answer these questions, then I will continue my argument.

[CaptainObvious]

I have 3 adopted younger (4, 2 and 0.4ish) sisters, and so I am a very, very staunch advocate of adoption.

As for your question, no, I don't think any adopted child should have any obligation to regard their biological parent as a parent in the true sense. Maybe some will feel that connection and such a relationship would develop, but I would not, personally.

[Whisper]

My question now is, hypothetically, my biological parents decide, say when I'm like 13, they made a big mistake, they want to be my parents. Should I love them? If you were in that situation, would you love them? Would you consider them to be your parents? I say NO to all of them questions.

Thats kind of an unfair debate because its not
Its a very personal question
plain n simple
What you would do in that situation could be very different from that of someone else and you would BOTH be right
Everyones different, the parents could be different, your adopted fam could be different, blah blah blah
It should NOT be forced upon them
But whatever they decide should be supported


I fully support adoption
I plan on adopting when I'm older I want kids of my own but I want to adopt as well its not the child's fault they were thrown into the system and it is not a safe nor positive environment to grow up in

my family has never adopted anyone legally but we've taken in people like Char who I've known since I was 5 and who lived with us for YEARS and Rudi the best friend I've ever had who I shared a room with for over a year
Weither they like it or not
there fam and we take care of our own
discussion over LOL

[byee]

Children are blessings, regardless to whom they're born or by whom they're raised.

Support it.

[BeRZElius]

I support adoption. (:

Gay adoption is a sticky situation only because of the brutality of peers! Ox

Homosexuality is still considered like taboo. Ox

But they're giving a child shelter, food, clothing, LOVE!


( I slept on this P= )

Taking off the 'parent' title,

who are you to deny someone the chance to love you?

/=

[Camazotz]

Yes, I do support adoption. If the parents cannot provide a decent home, it should go to parents who want a child. If I was adopted, and my biological parents wanted me back, I wouldn't have to love them. I would probably want to know more about them, hang out with them over weekends, but I would live with my adoptive parents because in my opinion, they would be my true parents. Also, I support gay marriage and I think gay couples should be allowed to adopt.

[Jean Poutine]

who are you to deny someone the chance to love you?


Depends on the kind of link they want to build.

[BeRZElius]

Depends on the kind of link they want to build.

A... good one? xD

ionno...

You can love a father AND a mother.

Parents can love their single child or multiple children...

( AND claim to love them all equally )

Why can't you love your biological parents AND adoptive ones?

o_O

[theOperaGhost]

I support adoption. (:

Gay adoption is a sticky situation only because of the brutality of peers! Ox

Homosexuality is still considered like taboo. Ox

But they're giving a child shelter, food, clothing, LOVE!


( I slept on this P= )

Taking off the 'parent' title,

who are you to deny someone the chance to love you?

/=

I wouldn't deny them love, but they would NEVER be considered parents to me. I was in contact with my biological mother for literally probably less than a minute (minus the 9 months of pregnancy). My biological father doesn't even know I exist. How could I consider these people to be my parents? I came out of a random woman's body, so what. Whether they are the best people or the worst people in the world, they still would never be my parents.

And if anyone thinks I hold feelings of rejection or anything, I don't. I've never felt rejected just because I was adopted. My mom and dad are the only parents I've ever had, not the egg and sperm donors from a one-night stand, presumably drunk on New Year's Eve 1988/89.

[BeRZElius]

I wouldn't deny them love, but they would NEVER be considered parents to me. I was in contact with my biological mother for literally probably less than a minute (minus the 9 months of pregnancy). My biological father doesn't even know I exist. How could I consider these people to be my parents? I came out of a random woman's body, so what. Whether they are the best people or the worst people in the world, they still would never be my parents.

And if anyone thinks I hold feelings of rejection or anything, I don't. I've never felt rejected just because I was adopted. My mom and dad are the only parents I've ever had, not the egg and sperm donors from a one-night stand, presumably drunk on New Year's Eve 1988/89.

Well you're still young...
What if your parents dropped dead tomorrow
and your 'life-givers' came into your life... for support...
and what are you? 23?
24 years later... do they become your parents? o.o;

... if time is an important issue... /=

[DarkWingedAngel]

I would never treat my biological parents like parents
because they were never parents to me
they were more like jail guards
not parents
yes if I ever saw them ever agen maybe I would talk to them and eventually except there love
but they will never be my parents all they are is 2 people in this world
No I don't hate them for give me up for adoption and I wouldn't
but I do hate them for other reasons that I might say later
but I will never let them be my parents

[BeRZElius]

Am I the only one who doesn't feel this way? o.o;

My mother's friend won't tell her kids they were adopted in fear they'll leave her...

>_>

[theOperaGhost]

Well you're still young...
What if your parents dropped dead tomorrow
and your 'life-givers' came into your life... for support...
and what are you? 23?
24 years later... do they become your parents? o.o;

... if time is an important issue... /=

Well, I'm 19, so I'm a little over half on my own already. If my parents dropped dead tomorrow, and my "life-givers" came into my life, they still wouldn't be my parents. Even if I were still young, like 13 or something, I'd look for support from my aunt's and uncles...my family. Even now, I'd rather look for support from family, the people that have been in my life for the past 19 years and provided me with support, rather than two people I've never met, EVER. All they did was give me life, they didn't sustain it though.

[Trickster]

I support it Greatly i even want to adopt a child. A Mom and Dad are people who love you, give you neccesites, and will support you. A Mother and Father are people who gave birth to you. A child is deserving of a loving home and two people who will love them no matter what. I think people should adopt because its a way to help alot of kids.
I support gay adoption because they are most likely TO adopt. Like two gay men who...well dont got a fetus so they cant. It will be difficult to raise the child, yet what child isnt hard to raise. Just peers will smear and thats like the only bad thing. But the labor and effort u put into it will be worth it, when they grow to love you so much for all u have done for them.
The child will be raised to live with and tolerate gay people so im gonna take a educated guess and say that the child will be tolerate of them and still love them, some will go and take it wrong but most will love their two mommies or daddies.
I Support adoption fully

[Zephyr]

I believe we've discussed this topic before Jared, and I am a huge supporter of adoption. I want to adopt kids as well as have some of my own once I'm older.

It's not fair to deprive a child of a loving family just because they were 'unwanted' or a 'mistake'. That's way out of their control. They can't help at all what circumstances they came into this world under. Every child deserves a family that is going to love them and care for them properly. Everybody needs the unconditional love of a family, whether they be adoptive or biological.

My best friend Sarah's mother figure is actually her step mother, but is the woman that she considers her mom. Sarah's real mother was a drug addict and abusive towards her and her sister when they were little, so her dad divorced their mom and took the girls away from her, and found a wonderful woman who adopted the girls as her own, which is Sarah's real mom in the emotional/raised her to be what she is today aspect. Even after their dad died, Sarah and her sister stayed in their adoptive mother's custody rather than being hauled away to their biological mother.

Now, for the other part of this.

Sarah and her sister DO have contact with their biological mother now. They're building an actual relationship with their biological mother and giving her a chance. While they do love their biological mother now, they don't love her as much as their adoptive mother that actually raised them. Their biological mother is more like a friend to them since she is simply the woman that gave them life, not the woman who raised them and loved them like they were her own.

So, as I've told you, it IS possible to start having a relationship with biological parents if you are adopted. It just depends on how big of a heart you have to forgive them and if your biological parents want you to be in their life. However, your relationship with them will never be as strong as the one that you have with the parents who raised you.

[Halibut]

i think its a wonderful idea. like why would anyone be against it. every child deserves to have a family and be loved

[redcar]

Am I the only one who doesn't feel this way? o.o;

My mother's friend won't tell her kids they were adopted in fear they'll leave her...

>_>

That's a very dangerous thing to do. If your child is adopted you need to discuss it from an early age. When that kid finds out they're adopted and the mother didn't say, that will cause a lot of problems. And the kid will find out.

Adoption is great, the only problem is how it is run. Ever tried to adopt? It is one of the hardest processes to go through, and very biased towards certain groups. I think the merits of adoption are not debatable but the selection processes.

[IAMWILL]

I totally support adoption! I think no matter what children that are adopted should be treated as if they were the adopters own children, which, technically, they are.

[seamo34]

I agree with all...I am a HUGE supporter of adoption, since I myself was adopted. It gives couples a chance to have children (my parents had three children of their own, but they all passed away, one at 4 days, one at 1.5 years, and one at 9 months). It also gives children without a home, a home filled with love and care.

My question now is, hypothetically, my biological parents decide, say when I'm like 13, they made a big mistake, they want to be my parents. Should I love them? If you were in that situation, would you love them? Would you consider them to be your parents? I say NO to all of them questions.

I'm going to work this like a debate, so I want people to answer these questions, then I will continue my argument.

hey
i was adopted also it is a topic close to my heart and a tough thing to live with its a feeling if u were not adopted you would not understand no offence just be careful what u all say. im intrested on what your thouts are though. chat me anytime :P

[Emerald Dream]

hey
i was adopted also it is a topic close to my heart and a tough thing to live with its a feeling if u were not adopted you would not understand no offence just be careful what u all say. im intrested on what your thouts are though. chat me anytime :P

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