long distance relationships?

[stevent]

any some tips of keeping a long [very] distance relationship? is it worth it? (long, as in 1500km apart (Australia/Wales))

[Trickster]

well in my opinion long distacne like that never work. Because u start to lose touch and get outta sync. It becomes harder and harder to stay with them. You gotta like keep it fresh and new and fun and spontaneous. You will need to like keep in touch often because after awhile it may seem u arent in a realationship but like just friends who do little things to keep in touch. Long distance needs alot of work and commitment. If u dont think it will work, you have to break up because it tempting to cheat if u know they are there all the time and ur bf/gf isnt. It'll take alot of work and effort but im not sure if its really worth it. Still my opinion is that they never work

[Maverick]

That's quite some distance. Majority of the time they are not worth it. In order for it to work it needs to be a really special person that you love and you both are willing to stick it out to make it work. If that's not the case with you, you might as well throw the towel in.

1,500 km is quite some distance and I doubt you will be able to see each other much. The odds are against you.

[byee]

It depends on what your expectations are.

Distance complicates things when there's intense feelings, usually people have more difficulty with the distance b/c the more intense the fellings, the more the need for face time.

However, friendships know no bounds (look at VT!), and the 'net actually makes a lot of otherwise off limits contacts easy.

If it's friendly contact, there's a better chance of success. If it's intense, it's going to be probably more frustrating.

[rsc4life]

I feel that those can be quite hard to keep. Seeing as spread out as that is. I suppose,to start, try to talk as often as possible. These relationships usually die from lack of communication. Whether it be phone or instant messaging, keep talking.

Best of luck.

[Gumleaf]

i agree with what others have said. long distance relationships rarely work. what starts out as something that is nice online becomes increasingly difficult as you want more and more out of it. what starts out with easy ones like sharing pictures of eachother and then real talking to eachother whether its online or on the phone and possibly webcamming with eachother turns really difficult when you start longing to actually be together.

when you reach that stage you either have to prepare yourself to put your heart on the line and proceed hoping that there is some way in the future that you can be together or end it to save yourself from the pain of a bad break up down the track. also, you have to remember, if the relationship is serious, one meeting isn't going to be enough, you would have to plan on how you would see eachother often.

basically what i'm saying is, that these relationships are possible, but would take a lot of work and you would have to love them a lot and see yourselves being together for a long time to make this work. oh, and also, if its australia/wales, you are missing a couple of zero's on the end mate. 1500km's isn't that far lol.

[Cloudfire]

I do doubt you will be able to maintain this relationship at such a distance. As the previous posters have said, the odds are against you.

[Sage]

True love knows no bounds. If you and your partner are both dedicated to stick to it for however long is necessary- But the others are right, it's quite rare that it does work. Not impossible, though.

If it's any encouragement, I live in Canada and my sweet dear of 14 months now is in Brazil, and we're just as close as ever.

[ECGBUnni]

I've seen long distance relationships work out. One of my dearest friends has been dating his girlfriend for...5 years now? something like that. for four of those five years he's lived in switzerland, while she lived in tennessee.

So yes, long distance can work, but it takes exceptional people and an INSANE amount of trust and effort. You need to be more mature than the people around you, and so does your partner. There still needs to be a decent amount of communication. Send e-mails, set up weekly/monthly calls (yes i know it's expensive, but by turning it into a special thing once per week or month you create a tradition, and costs drop tremendously).

If you can, make sure you see each other as often as possible and decent. Perhaps stay up an extra hour so you can talk to your partner on an IM server. Make an effort and make the time.

My best of luck to you

[Sage]

Send e-mails, set up weekly/monthly calls (yes i know it's expensive, but by turning it into a special thing once per week or month you create a tradition, and costs drop tremendously).


Might not be for everyone, but online games are great too.

[IAMWILL]

I definetly agree with the others. Long distance relationships rarely work. If you still want to keep in touch with her after your over each other, and you have a computer with a webcam and so does she, you can video chat with her. It's the closest you can get to her without actually being there.
P.S. This is the first time I've seen Maverick relpy to a post! Does he live on different threads or does he just never reply to threads?

[Oblivion]

I definetly agree with the others. Long distance relationships rarely work. If you still want to keep in touch with her after your over each other, and you have a computer with a webcam and so does she, you can video chat with her. It's the closest you can get to her without actually being there.
P.S. This is the first time I've seen Maverick relpy to a post! Does he live on different threads or does he just never reply to threads?

He's an administrator; they have important work to do maintaining a safe environment for users, and keeping the website up. He actually often responds to questions, when he has time.

As for the question-
I agree. Long distance relationships rarely work. It takes a lot of time and communication to make a normal one work, let alone one where you barely get to talk to the person. With long distance relationships you rarely even get to see the person.