How can guys change so quickly?

[AllThatIsLeft]

Okay so I know this guy.
He was my bf for a year and half until like a year ago.
So when i met him he was really cool and awesome. We liked the same stuff, he loved!! his guitar. couldn't put it down. That was completely fine with me.

Nowadays, he's a complete nerd (no offence) ... he hangs with the same people everyday, never hangs out with his best friend from childhood.
He just acts like he's so much better than the rest of us.
All he does all day is study or play video games. i can't remember the last he hang out with Erik (he's former best friend) ... i guess he thinks we are the wrong crowd, but hell he is not so saintly either, he drinks more than all of us put together. Last summer he spend it half drunk the entire time.

he's a really nice guy, but he's also a super dick. manipulative, and doesn't like hearing the truth.

i just don't understand how someone who started nice and fun, became a manipulating dick, acting like he's too good for the rest of us.

ugh. i posted this in the wrong section.
can you move it to the friends and family section!

[Aηdy]

It's a part of growing up, one of those things you have to deal with really. Some friends grow up and meet new people, and move on from old friends. It's happened to me, and it's the way of life really. People can and do change, and quite often change for the worse.

[theOperaGhost]

ugh. i posted this in the wrong section.
can you move it to the friends and family section!

Done

[AllThatIsLeft]

thank you!

[Gumleaf]

dealing with changing people is something i struggle with paula. if i'm good freinds with someone, i want it to stay that way. but in reality people change, whether we like it or not and it hurts. i know because its happened to me a few times. i guess it just means that we need to learn to be more adaptable to change i guess. but unfortunately, change is something that won't go away.

[AllThatIsLeft]

i deal.. but i dont like it how he could turn his back on his best friend.... it doesnt seem fair.

[Trav]

often something happening with a dad or older brother can make this happen speaking from personal experience :(

[Donkey]

Because they got fed up of being the person who they were before and wanted to move onto other things. It's simple. Maybe his social life just declined so he felt the need to hang out with maybe less popular people instead and play computer games instead of being with others.

And you say 'guys' in the title, most guys aren't like this. :P

[AllThatIsLeft]

often something happening with a dad or older brother can make this happen speaking from personal experience :(

interesting. that could be a reason.

but i dont know.

and to the poster above me ... sorry, lol, didnt mean to steretype.

[Cindex]

In no way a majority, but a lot of guys do do this.

My brother used to be pretty cool. Now he's a complete jerk. Cheated on his gf, druggie, hates the truth, all that fun stuff. Sometimes, people take a turn for the worse. It's something we all go through.

Also, puberty?

[Halibut]

people grow ...sometimes not up but they change. it sucks though dont it

[BeBeM26]

agreed, a lot of guys do this