A friend?

[BuryYourFlame]

For as long as i can remember i have been friends with this one girl, she is now one of my closest friends...or so i think. It seems that every time i meet/talk to this girl i get more and more hurt.

It started a couple of years ago when i had just turned 13 or sumwhere around there. Anyway, her family and mine decided to go to the beach together, and because she was the only person my age down there we got talking, i pretty much spilled my heart to her that day. Then about a week later she tells people, and before you ask yes she did know that i wanted it to be kept private.

Things like this have been happening since then and have only gotten worse with time, (btw this is the same girl in my previous thread/rant called Life...).

Some people say that b/c i just keep getting hurt to cut all ties with her, but i cant really do that b/c i love her so much (friend). I really want things to be back to normal between us, but somehow i always end up getting hurt.

What should i do?

Dec

[theOperaGhost]

It's tough to be friends with someone who betrays your trust; sometimes even impossible. It doesn't sound like you want to just be done with her, so I would say just don't tell her anything too personal that you wouldn't want other people to know. If you start to trust her more, you can be more personal, but I'd just try to be friends. Give it time, and if it doesn't work out, seriously, break all ties with her. You don't need a friend who betrays you like that.

Good luck with her. :)
Jared

[AllThatIsLeft]

Dec, :(

It is pretty hard to trust people, and when those people betray us, it is even worse.
If she told people what you told her in private, then she doesn't deserve your trust.
It is better to not tell anything that you don't want to get out, don't let yourself be afraid that she will spill.

stay friends with her if you like, but don't trust her. There has already been too much betraying.

[Vicarious]

You can stay friends, but if you feel you can't trust her, you shouldn't ever tell her anything you want to keep private.

She's done it more than once. It's a disturbing trend; if she had done it once and apologized, it would be a bit different. But you said it's happened multiple times.

Breaking ties might be something to consider, but it seems a bit drastic to me. Stay friends, and keep in mind you can't trust her.

[BuryYourFlame]

yeh...i dont know...

i think things are getting better, but that might just be because of the fact that i haven't recently spoken to her for more than 20 seconds...

she had no intention of doing these things...and i cant tell her either, i hate to see her sad...