it hurts like the whole time

[*-tick tock-*]

ok im just gonna say it..


lately (last couple times) when me and my bf have sex..... it hurts..ALOT.. kinda thruout the whole thing....
here are my conclusions to why its happening but im not so sure


1. i get kinda nervous of the awareness its GONNA hurt.... therefore..it hurts more than i imagine
2. im not well lubricated down there which also concludes to the pain
3. the condom isnt really that lubricated enough either but the last one it kinda was? i dont really remember its been like a month



so im gonna buy some lube and check it out.. but... if that doesnt work and im still hurting.. what could be the problem?
something serious?

(im going to try to relax also before so i dont be so "tight")

[AC.wAkeBoArDin.06]

ok is it the friction thats causing the pain or the feeling of it going in? like take ur finger and push it on the top of ur hand... and push hardand move it around... see how ur skin moves... does it feel like thats happening durring sex or is it like put soap on ur hand and then try doing the same thing with ur finger on ur hand... like it slips not moves the skin no more... if u feel like too much frition... lube should cover that problem... if its not that.... then u might just not like sex haha....

[*-tick tock-*]

ok is it the friction thats causing the pain or the feeling of it going in? like take ur finger and push it on the top of ur hand... and push hardand move it around... see how ur skin moves... does it feel like thats happening durring sex or is it like put soap on ur hand and then try doing the same thing with ur finger on ur hand... like it slips not moves the skin no more... if u feel like too much frition... lube should cover that problem... if its not that.... then u might just not like sex haha....


hmm it could be the movement of the skin... all that friction does hurt...ouch. i was scared it will be like that forever :shock:

cuz when i first started becoming sexually active i loved it i thought it was great until recently with all that damn pain.
ill try lube....hopefully that'll work
thanks

[AC.wAkeBoArDin.06]

no problem... u can get lube for pritty cheap... flavored lube is more fun haha but its also incorperated in the cost...

[*-tick tock-*]

lol cool
do i just.. put it on the condom? lol huh

[ScotsGirl]

Yeah, put the condom on first then put the lube on, otherwise theres more risk of the condom slipping off.
Also, make sure you get a water-based lube and not an oil-based one because oil breaks down latex.

I dont know how much you do, but you might wanna try more foreplay? I know sometimes its easy to skip that but it really does help with lubrication as well as relaxing you some more and preparing you (mentally, as well as physically) for having sex :D
You could even just try the foreplay, try experimenting, put a 'ban' on intercourse for a night so you each have to think up ways to please the other :D You might even discover something new that helps ;)
Maybe its something you could talk about with your bf?
I hope things get better Veronica!

:D
xxx

[*-tick tock-*]

thanks girl u helped alot :)
ill talk to him bout it and see what happends 8)
most likely we'll agree on something

thanks again ma i appreciate it

[ScotsGirl]

Awesome :D

And thats no problem at all!

:D
xxx