Gay marriage

[Maverick]

No, this isn't a 'Should gay marriage be legal' thread so don't turn it into one.

Hypothetically speaking, should gay marriage be legal tomorrow, how many gay, lesbians, and bisexuals choose not to get married, and why?

Personally, I am not ok with gay marriage, even though I am gay. That doesn't mean I oppose other people doing it (should it become legal).

But I think it would be weird to be pronounced Husband and Husband.

Anyone else feel this way? Whats your opinion and perspective on the idea of getting married?

[george]

I personally don't care, at all. If 2 people want to get married and they both love each other, why not. I'm not weirded out at all by it because my carelessness just blocks any of that out :]

[NightHawksr71]

I have always been brought up as marriage been between a man and women.
I don't oppose it. but it just seems weird to me. a husband and husband or wife and wife, just isn't marriage to me. but hey I don't really care, if they want to marry to show their love for each other I don't care. I would probably be happy for them.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i am bisexualy i find it sweet when i see a gay couple and i mean i think gay marriage rules! but thats just me :)

[Dragonite]

I don't really care, but people should be Able to marry who ever they want

[Patchy]

not a problem for me at all, if they love each other they should get married, there both human they should be allowed to and I'm happy if my gay friends got married to another guy.

[Atonement]

I have nothing against two people loving eachother. And I don't believe in gay marriage in the first place, but if it were legal, I wouldn't get married. Hypothetically, I would choose to not get married legally even if I was straight. I don't believe in legal marriage. I believe in legal civil union for homosexuals and heterosexuals. But marriage is a religious thing for me.

[rsc4life]

Hmm interesting point. Although it would be strange. I think it is an essential right that any couple no matter man or woman, man or man etc etc should be able to marry.
I think it is a personal choice for those involved, whether it would be "wierd" or not. But weirdness is not the best reason not to get married.

[Trickster]

Im bi and id love the idea of two people who love eachother to be together forever. ALthough the title "domestic partners" should be gone. Its sounds like they they just live together like rommies or they do house work together. I agree that husband and husband sound weird yet i dont oppose it. I would like a different name for it, like a whole new word for marriage for gays and new terms. It would make things better

[Oblivion]

not a problem for me at all, if they love each other they should get married, there both human they should be allowed to and I'm happy if my gay friends got married to another guy.

Agreed
It doesn't affect me, and its not harming anyone.
I don't see a point in specifically telling a group of people they can't marry each other.

[ShatteredWings]

OK that is a weird thought
But, just because two people can be legally married does not mean it has to be done in a church, with a pastor/priest/whatever. It just means that you have the legal stuff. like.. shared property, custody of a kid (i don't care if it's 'yours' genetically... that technicality is invalid)

I believe in legal civil union for homosexuals and heterosexuals. But marriage is a religious thing for me.
I think that makes my point a little clear-er.

Does the difference make sense? No one will ever be able to make any church be 'ok' with people being gay, but that doesn't mean that legally it has to be wrong.



A thought, is this really a huge word-game? Maybe it's just getting into the technical definition of marriage, rather than what comes with it.

[Atonement]

I've only ever attended on homosexual wedding, it was in a church in Des Moines. Appearently, they had been turned down a few times, but they eventually found a group of 7 or so churches that were willing to marry homosexuals.

But like, if two people love each other and want to share everything with eachother, go for it.

Marriage = Religious service of commitment for life out of love
Civil union = sharing of property and legal rights

I would be willing to get a civil union if I felt it appropriate, but marriage I would go for it the moment was right. I don't like the idea of marriage, but if it was right, why not?

[sunsings]

marriage is the binding of 2 people who love each other why cant it be a man and man?

[DarkWingedAngel]

I think as long as they love each other than it's fine
think of it this way
if you were those 2 and loved each other wouldn't you want that too

[Common Black]

I have no problems with marriage. i think it's kinda sweet sometimes depending on the couple. But I myself personally, don't believe in marriage. Atleast not for me,. I don't know. To me it seems like your sentencing yourself to love this person, through money and your home. And that may be the only thing binding your to that person after a while. I think it's better to be with each other because you want to be, not because of the kinds of the problems with divorce or having to split the money or custody of the children or all that stuff. So yeah just my view, i'll never be married :)

[byee]

I wasn't aware you were gay, Anthony.

Generally, I think people are entitled to find happiness on this earth anyway (and with anyone) of their choice, as long as it is by mutual consent. And, I think they have the right to call it whatever they want.

Love comes in many ways and (hopefully) to many people, it doesn't discriminate based on gender affiliation. And, loving couples deserve the same rights, respects and privacy that we normally grant to anyone simply by virtue of living in an enlightened society. Irrespective of sexual orientation, people should have a basic right to sancify their committment to eachother, without state interferrence, should they so desire.

So, I believe it is a very personal choice to enter into a life long, committed relationship, regardless of gender, and that is a basic right the state cannot (and should not) interfere with.

[Talia]

I support gay marriages, I just don't think its necessary to prove your love by getting married. But the thing with bans on it is just that. That fact that they ban it is just discriminatory; if you don't believe in gay marriages fine, but that's not a reason to ban it and make sure they can never get married just because you have a problem with it. Love is love anyway you show it, so if people are ready to be fully committed to each other they should have the opportunity, no matter what sex or gender.

[NightHawksr71]

To clarify my point(just realized how far it sounded from the point I was trying to make)

to me, I have been brought as marriage is between a man and a women, and that Gay Marriage is a little bit weird to me. not saying its a bad thing just that I'm not used to thinking of Marriage as between a man and a man or a women and women, although It does sound like a good change to the laws. Being Bisexual myself I would like it if Australia brought in gay marriage laws. And if I happen to find my partner in a guy, then I would certainly consider it.

[Maverick]

I wasn't aware you were gay, Anthony.
A lot has changed ever since we stopped talking.

[Kiros]

Personally, I see no reason not to have gay marriage. I know three gay couples and I'm sure that two of them would get married - no doubt. One couple might or might not - I haven't talked to those girls in ages.

Also, I've never been too fond of the "I now pronounce you, 'husband and wife,'" bit. It would more fitting to say "I now pronounce you 'married,'" or something to that effect. If there can be gay relationships, then gay marriage should also be possible.

[byee]

A lot has changed ever since we stopped talking.

I wasn't aware we stopped talking. I'm sorry you believed that I wasn't available to you during what had to be a pretty difficult time.

[The Batman]

I support Gay Marriage fully. After seeing some of my preachers bash it unmercifully I see how it feels now, so marry who you please and I won't have a damn thing to say about it. I would probably never get married though because I feel that it's not for me personally.

[Maverick]

I wasn't aware we stopped talking. I'm sorry you believed that I wasn't available to you during what had to be a pretty difficult time.
Believe it or not it was actually quite refreshing rather than difficult.

[Ryandel]

It doesn't bother me. But you do have a poiint that it seems a bit weird of saying " Yo uare now husband and husband" . I prefer Ben's better "You are now married"

[NightHawksr71]

I support Gay Marriage fully. After seeing some of my preachers bash it unmercifully I see how it feels now, so marry who you please and I won't have a damn thing to say about it. I would probably never get married though because I feel that it's not for me personally.

Do you mean teachers? Either way. I'm sorry to hear that, nobody should have to put up with that kind of discrimination/intolerance.

It doesn't bother me. But you do have a poiint that it seems a bit weird of saying " Yo uare now husband and husband" . I prefer Ben's better "You are now married"

+1 For the "You are now married" thing, it sounds a lot better.