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[theOperaGhost]

Someone asked me to post this for them. I'm not going to give any names though. Here it is:

Hey guys,

A while ago I invited one of my school friends to hang out with some friends from church. Anyway...this friend and one of my church friends got together, I could see that they really liked each other. After a while of being together they noticed a problem. He lived a whole town away from her (bout 45 min drive) so her/his parents refused to drive them over to each others houses and they had no other means except a youth group that he went to bout 2 times a month. Because of this they became more distant and eventually broke up. But the girl still cant get over the guy, and every time she sees him, it hurts her more, but she refuses to tell the guy cause she thinks it is nothin. Eventually she asked me for help and what i though she should do. She thinks that she is just making a big deal about it but i can see that it is really hurting her, and she doesnt want the guy to know. What could she do?

thx to anyone who replies,

Someone

[theOperaGhost]

Since I posted that for someone else, I'm going to post my answer in a separate post.

It's obvious she still has feeling for him, and it could be quite possible he has feelings for her, although you never said so. I think they still like each other, so it isn't uncomfortable seeing each other in that respect, it's probably just an awkward feeling. I think they should try to be friends and not just cut each other off. It will be awkward for a while, but will become more comfortable over time. If they truly have strong enough feelings for each other, there is a possibility they could even get back together when they are older and can drive and such.

I'd say just to keep her head up. Try to be friends with him.

[byee]

Well, why doesn't she want to tell him how she feels? And why are their parents resistant to driving?

She feels bad b/c she doesn't have control over the situation. She likes this guy, but cannot see and be with him. That's sad and frustrating.

I think your friend should recognize that there are many types of friendships out there, and many ways to facilitate relationships. There's IM, E mail, ohone, txting, etc. Not as satisfying as face time, but contact nonetheless. And, she'll feel some sense of control here in getting at least a bit of what she wants.