help

[jamesman50]

im crazy about this girl that im friends with and i want to ask her out but i dont want to lose our friendship if she dosent want to go out with me so what should i do :confused:

[Requin]

Well. this is a pot luck thing in my book. As my mate asked my friend out too, it didn't last long (not even a day). But they still remained friends after.
Actually there not now (he told her to go and die :-))

But in my view, friends going out together is a bad idea, as if it doesn't work out (and lets be honest, how many school relationships last a long time) then it's very difficult to go back to the friendship that you once had with them. But of course...that doesn't go to everyone. And I'm sure people on here will tell you that friends can go out together and have a relationship.

But in my view, it's not worth it, if you really want to stay friends with her. But at the end of the day, if you love her enough.....then do it.

But what I'm saying is that it's not all like "Friends" you know. :-)
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

[BuryYourFlame]

I dont really agree with Requin because if you go out with someone who isn't really a friend then you dont really have any idea what they are like, so there is more chance of things turning ugly quicker.
I suggest that you dont ask her out until you get some indication that she likes you.
If you do receive that indication then go ahead and ask her out!
When i was in year 7/12 years old (lol) i liked one of my friends and we are still together today, and i love her more than ever! :D

hope all goes well,

Dec

[Gumleaf]

there is a lot of risk in doing that. it depends on how much the friendship means to you and whether you think its worth the risk of possibly having a great relationship, or having things turn nasty with a bad break up? i would advise to think really carefully, especially if she hasn't given any indication that she returns your feelings for her. there are some really happy stories out there. my best friend and me have hooked up and have been together for nearly a year and we are really happy together. but at the same time, many of these relationships end with the lose of friendship too.