Life...(plz comment)

[BuryYourFlame]

GGAAAHHH!!! Pretty much everything is so confusing right now. Pretty much the only thing that isn't confusing is my relationship with my awesome girlfriend!

There is a girl...we have been friends for ages, she was literally right there beside me when my mum died from cancer in January 2008, but ever since then she has been more and more distant with me...i just dont know what to do about it...

and then ontop of that one of my friends has been diagnosed with cancer, and another friend with depression. AND my dad is recently engaged to a woman who is pretty much a stranger to me!!!

My "family" is so annoying!! My brother has ADHD, he is 10 turning 11 soon, and i think my dad has it as well, because my mum told me that i have a mild case of it, very mild. Do you think that it could be just because of my mild case of ADHD that i find them so annoying or just normal teenage feelings?

Thank-you so much to who ever reads and/or replies to this!

Declan NSW, Australia

[theOperaGhost]

Hey, Declan, welcome to VT! I'm Jared.

I think your family is so annoying to you mainly because, like you said, you're a teenager. Most teenagers are annoyed with their families. When you're a teenager, you're in a stage where you are close to being independent, and really want to be. Let's face it, most people love their families, and I'm assuming you do, but when you spend, well your whole life with the same people, they tend to get annoying. When you get older and go out on your own, say to like college or something, they probably won't seem as annoying. Just live with it for a few years, I'm sure you can make it.

As for your friend. Did she seem more distant, like right after your mom passed away? It's possible she could have been uncomfortable or something. It is hard to talk to people sometimes after they lose someone they love. And then after she got distant, even though she may feel comfortable talking to you again, you guys just never got close again. I'm not sure about this, this is just a possibility.

Moved from TWPR to Friends and Family.

[byee]

Sounds like a lot of changes in your life, and all of them not under your control. That's stressful with a capital "S".

I think it might be a good idea to go thru each situation/relationship, and determine what the problem is., a dnaddress it with the person involved. Try to get some kind of understanding of it, and share your concerns. And, devise a plan to address it.

Many (most?) things in life are beyond our control, but if you have a way of addressing it and adapting to it, the outcome can be more positive. Maybe you'd benefit from that approach with these people.

[Requin]

I expect..as Jared mentioned, that as your a teenager like most of us...you just want independance. So do I. But as we 'break free' (a horrible phrase but it works) from our families world and go off to jobs/college/uni etc, you will feel much differently towards them.

It's stressful when you have a family like yours, no one pretends that it's easy being a teenager and going through life. It's almost realising what life is like in the puberty years. It's almost a huge smack of a reality check.

But if you follow what Jared, Sam and I'm sure a number of others say...you'll get yourself through it fine. :-)
But it's up to you, only you can do it! We just help a little. :-)

[BuryYourFlame]

thx again guys, yeh, i was feeling pretty down last night...thats happened to me a few times now that think about it...

anyway, im feelin better about alot of things...life in general, im gonna get a chance to talk to the girl next week, hopefully we can sort things out then.

Dec

[theOperaGhost]

I wish you luck when you talk to her and I'm glad to see you're feeling better! :)

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i really dont know what to say i guess you should think why you and your girlsfriend have been getting distant and about your family i think my family can be annoying too

[BuryYourFlame]

lol, not gettin distant with my girlfriend, im gettin distant with a friend who is a girl lol,
totally diferent people :D

Dec