Telling PPL

[markmcw]

OK, Well I told 1 of my friend that I was gay and i gave him proof etc...

But then he has told like 10 ppl so i was like ok but they cant tell anyone

So they didn't

They all came up:

PPL :"I heard your bi"
Me : "Im not bi im gay"

PPL : "So its true"
Me : "Yea"

PPL WALK AWAY LAUGHING

Ok ... you get the point now......


But every day I walk home from school with them and they ask me all these questions which I told them i don't like....

But they still do it and some ppl are laughing... And I said to them that its just the way I am and they stopped but now I have this nervious feeling that say my sister found out, our if my class members do

As we mess about pretending that we love each other and they will get freaked out as they think that I enjoyed it and I really do love them (Which I dont)

What can I do to stop :

1. The Questions
1. Them from telling people

[irishdude695]

Wow that must stink. I'm really sorry. You should just ignore it and maybe they might stop asking questions. And then just seriously tell them you don't want them telling other people. Its really hard for people to understand how you feel especially when they're teens. You might just want to lay low for a while so people might forget it or something.

[Eskie Dog]

Wow, sorry dude. I can see what you're going through, I'm not gay, but I live in one of the smallest, richest towns in south Carolina. We have only a few gay people in our town, they are socialites just like the rest of us, but they are still constantly ridiculed and I feel bad for any one who goes through that

[Zephyr]

Boys Puberty -----> Teen Sexuality

[mr.sexy_bomb]

ok so what i do is just ignore them and act like you dont care what they say and they will stop talking, and i think you should ask your sister if she knows.

[markmcw]

But the thing is I dont want my sister to know... As she will act diffrent around me :'(

[Cloud]

Most likely reason for them to ask you the questions is there curious about what its like to be gay because you might be the only gay person they know so they dont know who else to ask about it.

Also if they are your mates then they wont tell ppl if they are yourmates mates make your mates get them t promise not to tell anyone.

P.s You are gay and that is you so you should be proud of who you are. your no different than you were before so people should still treat you he same odnt let it bother you of other peoples opinions cos if they got a problem then hats up to them and if they dont except you for who you are then they aint your proper mates

[rsc4life]

I really don't think you can. Human nature is human nature, and kids, especially teenagers, can be unusually sensitive or blunt. My idea is, although maybe this is wrong for some people, is, don't tell people just yet. Maybe on graduation day. But this can be painful throughout high school and can lead to problems.

[NightHawksr71]

....... don't tell people just yet. Maybe on graduation day. But this can be painful throughout high school and can lead to problems.

I have to agree. high school is probably the worse time to come out. But since you have admitted it maybe you should try explaining to your friends that you havn't changed, just what they know about you has changed or something similiar. Good luck I hope things get better for you!

[mr.sexy_bomb]

well i think you should i dont know kinda try and figuer out what you sister knows and what she oesnt and if she doesnt then just dont tell her now if she does i think you need to talk to her about it

[markmcw]

I really don't think you can. Human nature is human nature, and kids, especially teenagers, can be unusually sensitive or blunt. My idea is, although maybe this is wrong for some people, is, don't tell people just yet. Maybe on graduation day. But this can be painful throughout high school and can lead to problems.



No offence but thats the worst advice....

My friends are ok ... and now they are asking questions that I find okay, they have stoped telling ppl and im old news so now i can live my life normally but the thing is i cant keep this a secret, I get depressed and i was about to self harm myself as I was soo depressed... I break out and I need someone to share it with. My friends brother is gay and I can talk to him hes cool and helps.

[Trickster]

Ok in my school the word gay is funny for some reason. They arent laughing at you it just amusing is all. To have a gay friend and learn all this stuff must be exciting. Its like your a foreign exchange student and all you say they are thing "He so foreign!!!" in a excited way. You just dropped the gay bomb they wanna know about you like good friends. Too be honest you should answer the questions and get it over with. Lighten up a bit. If they giggle it cuz they are ur friend and they are getting to know you. They care enough to want to know about you, laugh it off so the pressure is off and keep bein your friend. They are one the best buds u can have. ^^

[Common Black]

Thats horrible, I'm really sorry that that happened. I don't have much advice other than whats already been stated. I defiantly think your friends may just be interested in your sexuality, more than meaning to be 'mean." it might seem awkward to talk about it so thats why they may laugh, just to cover up their insecurity. Things will be ok :) As for your sister. That one may take some tact to figure out. i don't have any siblings so I'll leave that question to what others have said. I came out to my friend on New Years (part of my new years resolution) I Had really been waiting for the worst. But i was lucky that she was cool with it. She is still m friend but i do notice theirs a difference in her. It bothers me, but i try to not let it. I think she's worried I might come onto her. It's unfortunate that your school sounds the way it does. My own school has a very scary high respect and understanding level. It's almost ridiculous. First day of school
Me: "Well wish me luck. I'm off to ask someone on a date."
New Friend: "Ooh who is he... or she?"
Jeez I just stood their staring at her for a few minutes with my mouth hanging open trying to comprehend her forwardness :)

So yeah, be calm and think carefully. I defiantly do NOT recommend coming out on the last day of high school. That seems like a cowards move... I would ease your friends into being around you again gently. Act normal and if they have a questions and your comfortable with answering it, answer it :) but if your uncomfortable theres nothing wrong with saying you don't want to talk about it or it's private. Good luck mate!