sex? ready or what?

[spanky]

Okay.. well i think there are some pretty hott girls at our school.. just too mess around with.. well this one girl wants too have "sex" with me.. i have slept with her.. didnt really do anything but makeout and cuddle but i have touched her "private" area but i don't think im ready for sex and idk how too tell her... Because i know for sure im like just going into puberty if you read my other posts about "sizes" pubes and pre-cum. so i need some advice on how too tell her no without giving the hint that im "scared"
or whatever..
Please healp!!! :(

[thiscityisdead]

hmm, thats a tough one, id prolly go with "im busy today" for a while, just make up differnet excuses...umm...tell her " i dont have condoms" and hopefully she'll understand, and then just "prolong" the "buying" of "condoms"


hope i helped lol =]]

[Oblivion]

You really shouldn't do anything you aren't comfortable with, ever. Regardless of what others want of you. To me... You don't sound ready. Just the way you say 'just too mess around with...' bothers me; it shows that you really don't know what sex is about. Its about a loving relationship that wants to be a step further- and is ready for any consequences. That includes STD/Is (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=35760), a baby, and a ruined relationship with family/friends.
If your concerned about not being physically ready, I highly doubt you are mentally ready.

As for exactly how to tell her; just say no. It sounds cheesy because its used to much, but its true. Just say no.
Or make an excuse :P

[Confused4life]

Honesty is always the best way to go. Just tell her that you aren't ready at the moment. She should be ok with that. Girls around here like that in a guy

[spanky]

Um Okay thanks and sometimes she like reaches for my dick and i always like back away and stuff and its really awkward i want too stay her friend but everyday i seem too be more attracted too her and want too do stuff with her but i just can't because im not ready. What do i do about that? I want too do stuff with her but i KNOW i can't idk is there any way too handle that?

[staying_alive]

Damn she reaches for it? Dude you're getting lucky! Haha but if you're not comfortable with it than DEFINITELY DON'T DO IT. If you have to use excuses, use them. If it gets to the point where she's being annoying and she HAS to stop, then tell her. You shouldn't do something you don't want to or aren't ready to do.

[Oblivion]

Um Okay thanks and sometimes she like reaches for my dick and i always like back away and stuff and its really awkward i want too stay her friend but everyday i seem too be more attracted too her and want too do stuff with her but i just can't because im not ready. What do i do about that? I want too do stuff with her but i KNOW i can't idk is there any way too handle that?

Well good job realizing when you aren't ready.
As for her reaching for you... Thats not alright. It needs to stop.
If she grows up, and still does stuff like that, someone will press charges eventually, no matter how attractive she is.
Of course its 'just teen years' but you need to tell her it's not alright, and if she wants to be your friend, she has to stop.

[lol123]

be smart.talk to her as if ur going to have sex with her.when ur making out tell her ur not ready [Inappropriate content edited out. thePianoMan]

[spanky]

Well good job realizing when you aren't ready.
As for her reaching for you... Thats not alright. It needs to stop.
If she grows up, and still does stuff like that, someone will press charges eventually, no matter how attractive she is.
Of course its 'just teen years' but you need to tell her it's not alright, and if she wants to be your friend, she has to stop. Thanks for that piece of advice... lol :D yours is the best of all but thanks everyone :):yes:

[Viral Death]

Wow thats pretty lucky that she likes you some of the girls at my school are stuck up or they just want to jump down your pants.

Go with the excuses and if she figures out that you are trying to avoid sex then tell her the truth. If she dont want to hang out with you because she thinks that you are a Cicken then just tell her that you want to be friends I aint a pro at advice.

Its ok if you dont want to go that far you can have sex when ever you feel ready you cant rush yourself through puberty. I hope that she just wants to be friends and also you can change that from friends to girlfriend and boy friend and just tell her you dont want to go to 2nd base

[byee]

Spanky, you're absolutely right that it's not time for sex yet. And if she's 13, it's not time for her, either. So, why not just smile, thank her, and get some ice cream?