Asking a girl if you can kiss her.

[jjmcray]

I've heard many times before that if you don't know when to kiss a girl, you should just ask her, "Can I kiss you?"

Here's one problem I see.

When you ask a girl this question, aren't you just kind of forcing them to let you kiss them?

I would imagine it would be hard for a girl just to come right out and say "No."

And, I can't really think of any excuses a girl could come up with in order to avoid the situation...

I would understand a girl saying "No, I better not..." or something if it was like on a first date or something.

But I've been dating my girlfriend more than 2 months now... and we still haven't kissed. I have no idea if she wants to, and I DO want to, BUT I don't know how.

Sometimes I get the occasional extra glance after we hug and embrace each other before we leave to go home, but I have no idea if that means she was expecting a kiss or what...


Anyone have any thoughts or ideas? Girls, I would appreciate your advice. :P

[AllThatIsLeft]

the lingering moment is always a possible moment, also the looking at the lips. That means major kissing time. Or you can do it the unexpected way (not recommendable if she doesnt like surprises or has serious restrictions about personal space) where you hold her face firmly but gently!!!!!!!!!! and you peck. XD

[jjmcray]

the lingering moment is always a possible moment, also the looking at the lips. That means major kissing time. Or you can do it the unexpected way (not recommendable if she doesnt like surprises or has serious restrictions about personal space) where you hold her face firmly but gently!!!!!!!!!! and you peck. XD

Have you ever been put in that kind of situation though? Where someone asked to kiss you but you didn't really want to?

[AllThatIsLeft]

yes, i was honest and i said no. i rather be honest than lead someone on

[byee]

Is this the girl who doesn't speak to you on the phone a lot or see you very often? if it is, i'm afraid if you ask her to kiss you, you'll be met with the same chilly response your other attempts at connection are! Wise man once said, speak to girl lots before attempting the kiss.

In general, you can ask for that kiss, but typically, most people just do it when it feels right. Although a lot of girl wouldn't say 'no', some might (and I strongly suspect this one would), and evenso, part of the magic of that very first kiss is just doing it and having the other person respond favorably, all misty eyed afterwards.

A lot of romance is magic, Mr. Cray, you just have to trust your gut. If you're hesitant, that means something. Especially with this particular girl.

[jjmcray]

Is this the girl who doesn't speak to you on the phone a lot or see you very often? if it is, i'm afraid if you ask her to kiss you, you'll be met with the same chilly response your other attempts at connection are! Wise man once said, speak to girl lots before attempting the kiss.

In general, you can ask for that kiss, but typically, most people just do it when it feels right. Although a lot of girl wouldn't say 'no', some might (and I strongly suspect this one would), and evenso, part of the magic of that very first kiss is just doing it and having the other person respond favorably, all misty eyed afterwards.

A lot of romance is magic, Mr. Cray, you just have to trust your gut. If you're hesitant, that means something. Especially with this particular girl.

Well, I mean, I have spoken to her a lot. I've been dating her for like 5 months... we really know each other very well, but this whole distance thing just started a couple weeks ago. This thread is partly for future reference though.

[Cindex]

Dont ask for a kiss - take one.

Now that has limits. Don't just randomly kiss her when she's talking and interrupt her or something. It just seems to work better if you do it. Personally, I have a bad habit of looking at people's lips when they talk. Especially if it's someone I'm likely to kiss. That's not always the greatest indicator.

If she's holding hands with you, arm around, or just sitting close then there is a chance. Wait until she looks you in the eyes and just lean in and give her a peck on the lips. If she withdrawals then stop, say a short sorry, and continue on. No harm no foul.

[Halibut]

usually you get vibs if they want to or not. and if they dont want to they will say no or what not :) its more simple than you make it

[Lady_Chaos]

Maybe instead of asking her, "Can I kiss you?" You should ask, "Do you want to kiss?" My bf asked me the second one, but we had talked about kissing quite a bit before he asked. I don't know if this'll help; I just thought I'd give my opinion. :)

[Fiending_the_freedom]

i think its ok to ask a girl, i've been asked before and thought it was sweet.