should i?

[lol123]

well some of my old friends cut them selfs.and theyve been telling me its an awesome feeling when they cut them selfs,they have been telling me to do it for about 2 years now and i might do it.i need some advise i mean..should or not because i heard its adicting?

[theOperaGhost]

Absolutely not! Do not start, especially just because your friends say it is amazing. Nobody wants to self harm...I think it just happens...a lot of people feel they deserve to feel pain, but it is very hard to stop after starting. Anyone here would advise against it.

[NeedyTeen]

DO NOT!
its an addiction do not do not do not! You wont find it nice after you accidently cut a vein and died!
Please do not. Its a horrible thing to do!

[alsoknownas]

not good!

[byee]

No, no, no no.

[Requin]

Just because your 'friends' say that something is cool does not mean you have to do it.
And it's not cool. Cutting is not a fun thing, people are trying to stop it, as their depressed etc.

Just NO.

[phill1]

please do not do it

[chelsay13]

if your friends said it was fun to jump off a cliff, would you jump?
Well, don't start. once you start, it's hard to stop.

[Aηdy]

if your friends said it was fun to jump off a cliff, would you jump?
Well, don't start. once you start, it's hard to stop.

I was about to say exactly that tbh.

You need to learn to think for yourself really.

[ShatteredWings]

You need to learn to think for yourself really.
Must agree

also, read here http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=35099

[lotrfanjon]

Why would you cut yourself, that's the worst idea I have ever heard. Don't let that person who got angry at you for "spamming" in the shoutbox get to you. And if your "friends" are telling you to cut yourself, they obviously aren't your friends, tell them to stop.


Some content was edited out because it was too harsh and the message could be said just as easily and kinder without some words. Please watch what you say and be respectful even if you disagree.

~Vindication

[eikookmi]

DONT DO IT. Everyone is telling you not to because some of us have been through it.
It does no good at all.
Please don't.

[lotrfanjon]

How is the truth too harsh? You people need to figure out what harsh even means and stop being so damn sensitive.

[Zephyr]

Please don't be rude to other members.
If you can't say something nice, don't say it at all.
People come here for help,
Not to be criticized.

[lotrfanjon]

I did help, I told him not to cut himself and for people not to be so sensitive. The point is, sugarcoating does no good for people, you have to tell them how it is in order to make an impact. The truth is not harsh.

[Zephyr]

I'm sorry, but this needs to stay on topic.
I've PMed you about the matter just now,
So use the PM system, please.

-Back On Topic-

[Gumleaf]

I did help, I told him not to cut himself and for people not to be so sensitive. The point is, sugarcoating does no good for people, you have to tell them how it is in order to make an impact. The truth is not harsh.

whats the problem with being sensitive? telling someone to simply stop and show no sympathy to the problems they are experiencing isn't going to make them stop. you are right though, sugarcoating won't solve a persons problem, but neither will just coming out and saying "stop cutting". you see, hard line isn't the answer. its like me saying to you if a loved one of yours dies "tough luck, get over it". now you want them to get over it, but you need to show some sort of compassion. same applies for people with mental illness. people don't choose to be mentally ill and just telling them not to cut or "stop thinking about suicide because you can control your thoughts" isn't going to help them. i do understand where you're coming from but i think your blunt analysis of peoples situation could cause people more harm then good. sometimes people need to hear the truth, but doing it in a tactful way would have the most beneficial results.

[Zephyr]

Off topic posts are going to be deleted.
PLEASE: Don't go off topic anymore.
Mmmkay?
Thanks = ]

To answer the initial question of this thread:

Don't start cutting. Period.
It works like a drug addiction and it's just as hard to quit.
When you cut it releases endorfins and adrenaline,
And it gives you a calm and relaxing feeling.
But it's only temporary,
Sooner or later, you finally get back to normal,
And you now have open wounds to take care of.

Bottom line: Don't do it.

[treeman666]

trust me i do it and i have mates that do it to, we pretty much say to each other "u do i do" so we blackmail each other not to.

and yes it very addictive i find my self going away for 5 mins, cut then come back and joining my mates and Im there holding my sleeves down so no ones know.

so please what you do. dont cut ur self

[ShatteredGlass]

That's an incredibly awful thing 4 them 2 ask u 2 do, and once they c how destructive and life-changing it is their gonna wish theyve never done it and if you start so are you. DO NOT DO IT! I promise you it's not worth it. The pleasure is temporary but the penalties are 4 ever.

"If your friends said it was fun to jump off a cliff, would you jump?
Well, don't start. once you start, it's hard to stop."-Chelsay13 Once you start falling, ur not gonna stop til you hit rock bottom.

[xXJDXx]

i tryed once n it hrt
dont do it it dusnt feel gud

[Hayley08]

Hey, read this then think if you should,
WARNING
Before you make that first cut remember. You will enjoy this. You will find the blood and pain release addictive. Even though you think you can make a few tiny cuts that aren’t deep and will heal easily, they will get deeper. They will scar. They will sometimes take months to heal. And years for the scars to fade. If you think you can limit the cutting to one area of your body think again. It will spread when you run out of skin.

Be prepared to withdraw from others and live in a constant state of shame. Even if you are the most honest person ever to live you will find yourself lying to the people you love. You will jerk back from your friends when they touch you as if their hands were dipped in poison. You will be terrified that they will feel something under the cloth of your shirt, or just because it just plain hurts so much to be touched.

Be prepared to get so out of control you fear your next cut because you don’t know how bad it will be. Just wait for 10 cuts to turn into 100... Be prepared for your entire life to revolve around cutting, and thinking about cutting, cutting and covering up cutting. And just wait until that first time you cut “too deep”. And you freak because the blood won’t stop, and you are gaping, ad you feel yourself shaking all over. You are having a panic attack and you are terrified but you can’t tell anyone. So you sit there alone, praying it will be okay and swearing you’ll never let it go this far again. But you will; and further. Don’t worry, you will learn how to take care of your cuts so that you can go deeper and deeper and avoid A and E.

You will lie to yourself and justify it when you find yourself spending £10, £20, £30 every time you go into a chemist. You will feel the flutter of your heart beat every time you go to the counter. Butterfly strips, 3 or 4 kinds of dressings, wound tape, antibiotic cream, medical tape, and scar reducers. You will tap your foot impatiently hoping the queue will move on and that no one will stare at you or wonder why you need all these things. And at the same time secretly hope that someone will notice... someone who is standing in line with an armful of the same supplies. Someone who understands. But of course that never happens.

Medical supplies won’t be the only thing you spend all your money on. Be prepared to buy a new wardrobe. Long sleeve shirts in summer colours, bracelets, wristbands, boots, gloves the list goes on and on.

You will start looking at every one in a different way. Scanning their bodies for any signs of SI, just hoping that you might meet someone like you so you don’t feel so terribly alone. You won’t even think about it as you eyes scan their wrists, arms, hoping, just hoping that you might meet someone like you. But they are not. You will see their clean arms and feel terribly ashamed and alone.

You will start doing alot of things alone. You will always have to wash your laundry in private so that no one sees the blood stains on your clothes and towels. You will always be cleaning up the blood. Scrubbing your bathroom floor, wiping the blood off your keyboard.

You won’t be able to make it through a day without cutting. Next thing you know you’re locked in a toilet cubical somewhere breaking open a scar with a sowing needle you keep in your purse for emergencies. When you get really desperate anything can be a cutting tool. Scissors, car keys, needles, even a pen. It doesn’t really matter what if you need to cut bad enough you’ll find something.

Say goodbye to the things you took for granted. Like wearing shorts or sandals, pedicures and sleeveless tops. A normal summer day at the beach or the swimming pool will become a far off memory to you.

And remember to be ready to itch. Because you will itch and itch so much that “you look like you have fleas or a skin disease”.

You will become an expert on your own body as you destroy it carefully. You will dream about cutting. You will dream about being exposed. It will haunt you day and night and take over your life. You will wish you never made that first cut because you will absolutely hate cutting; but at the same time you love it and cannot live without it.

You have been warned...

[MysticalBurrito]

you do NOT want to start cutting

its a short path there but a longer path out
before you even think about it again think about your mom or dad crying because they know what youve been doing
ive been cutting for 5 years 45 total deep scars on my arms i will post a pictures if i have to....

[Brox135]

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[MysticalBurrito]

Cool way to say NO

[Axellance]

Do not even allow yourself to ponder that idea, once you start it quickly, more quickly that you think becomes a habit. You really should NEVER do it!!!!!

[L]

as far as i know, people cut themselves because they are depressed and after they cut them selves they feel calm and it helps them forget about it for a time. (please corect me if im wrong!) i've never heard of people who cut themselves for pure plesure, so i wouldent advise trying.

[MysticalBurrito]

i dont feel calm afterwords i feel like i want to jump off a cliff and guilty