"crushes"

[Helpmeplz]

I don't know why but i like this girl. I have no reason to, in fact i have reason not to. She's a lot of things I don't like in people. Anyway this is more of a general question, why do we like people even though we know nothing about them? or if there someone you would otherwise not like.

[Gumleaf]

in those sort of situations, where you know nothing about them, then the attraction can't be much more then physical. but the thing is, love and such works in funny ways and its interesting how a person you could never see yourself being with, turns into your bf/gf. its the mystery of love i guess.

[Requin]

It is strange as Stephen says.
"Love is a mystery that we cannot find the answer too, it is the one thing that we humans cannot conquer"

So honestly, if you have a crush on someone who you could not see yourself with...then the only answer is that it must be love.
Why else would you feel attracted to them??

Apparently, we find people more attractive to whom we would most aspire to be like.
So maybe that's the answer?? But it's a strange thing..and one that you'll have to not know the answer too. Just play with it. :-)

[byee]

Yeah, if you can figure this one out, please let me know.

Scientists, psychologists, and philosophers have pondered this very question since the earth's crust cooled, and to my knowledge, no one has ever really come up with an acceptable answer. love truly is a mystery, and maybe that's not such a bad thing. Some things are just meant to never be fully understood, just enjoyed.

Experiencing someone new, who doesn't quite fit our preconception of 'desirable' provides a new experience to grow and develop as people by experiencing something that's new to us, and broadening our horizons. That's an opportunity to not only maybe find someone new, but also to learn more about others and ourselves, and giving us more tolerance and acceptance of others, regardless of how that experience might turn out.

[terminoob]

the phrase "opposites attract" applies here nicely, since some times, we know what we hate in a person, but it's those very things that make us like them, it may be because we want to make that person better by being with them, because if someone is with a person with all the qualities that we hate, then they must hate some qualities, and it may be the ones we have, so the good qualities in each other are more focused on in this situation, because in love, you look at the good things about a person, so you could care less about qualities, even if you hate them more then anything

If you like someone you know nothing about, it could be physical, since some people have a vision of the perfect person, which only includes appearance, not personality, so when they see someone close to that vision, they just want to be with them no matter what, because it's what they desire, then on the same token, you could have a vision of the perfect personality for someone, and talk to a person with that personality for hours without knowing what they look like, and you'll immediately like them, because it's what you think of as the perfect personality

and then, there may be no answer to love, like life, there is no meaning to it, or why it's here, it just happens and that's that, it's a mystery that may never be solved, because everyone has a different interpretation of it, talk to 10 different people, and you'll most likely get 10 different answers, because it just... happens

[BuryYourFlame]

i agree alot with what people have already said in this thread, but mostly what they have said about the attraction being most likeley only physical. There is a saying that i think people should take into account when contemplating these situations, i think it is something like: "Love and lust keep little company"? Anyway it basically means, "Not all desires to be with someone are love." At our age especially for guys, i dont know about girls really, there are more hormones telling us to just have sex than those telling us that this is a girl that i could spend the rest of my life with.

So, yeh, hope i helped, even a bit,

Dec