Love? And scary dreams!

[jaythunder]

Okay so I started dating this girl on september the 16th. I can honestly say she is the most amazing girl I have ever met. I don't even know where to start. Ummm... so she just never leaves my thoughts. What ever I am doing, she is always on my mind and it distracts me from my regular activities. I am usually depressed about something, and now I think I mihgt be coming down with anxiety. I am ALWAYS worrying about something. So I love her to the point that I would do anything for her. I want to be with her until the day I die.. and that's what scares me, it makes me nervous, happy, and sad, because I am always worrying about the fact that there could be a day when she doesn't want me anymore. But I have never felt this way, it`s an intense feeling. When she is away I feel so lost and depressed, I always think about suicide, but I have never tried. It's messed up.. but then when she IS around, everything is perfect and intune. My sleeping patterns are messed up. I sleep in way too late and I am ALWAYS tired still. I eat more than I should. even when I am full. But AHHH. Every time I see lovers or am reminded about love from movies or TV I think of her and get upset. EVERY time I hear a love song, it seems like it`s about her. And when I hear a song about someone being broken hearted it scares me and depresses me cause I start worrying about her breaking up with me. EVEN THOUGH Things with us right now are AMAZING. We are so happy together. But last night scared me. I had a dream that she broke up with me and I freaked out. I yelled, I cried my heart out, I just hated everything. I couldnt believe it was over. It was the worst nightmare I have ever had. Then all the dreams after that, she was in them! But she was really distant like she didnt love me anymore. Does that mean anything? Am I in love? What EXACTLY is love?

Ahh some one please help

[Oblivion]

Please don't bump threads with a double post when the thread has only been up ~45 minutes.

Only bump if its a few hours later, and still no responses :)

As for your problem, although it sounds wonderful, to me you sound to clingy. You really need to start doing stuff by yourself, and learn how to control yourself. You have to be able to help yourself without her around, because she may not always be.

As for the dreams... They are just dreams. Some people think dreams mean something, But I think they are just dreams.

[AllThatIsLeft]

you need to distract yourself, your dreams are not premonitions, they are just manifesting your worse worry at the moment, which would be her breaking up with you. You are just really in love, but becareful how you manifest yourself with her. Girls dont like it when guys are too clingy, just be yourself and as for not doing anything else. it's all about balance.

[byee]

In spite of the loving feelings you have for her, I'd say, no, this isn't 'love'. Love isn't about panic, nor is it about obsession. It's not the center of your being, either, or the source of your well being. It's the icing on the cake. not the cake itself. You've lost perspective here for some reason, and you have to refocus.

There's something else going on here for you, and i'd strongly recommend you figure it out and get some control over it, b/c it's not only very likely to interfere with this relationship, but with other parts of your life as well.

Until then, i'd get some reassurance form her that she's ok with you and the relationship, although don't dwell on this with her, it's not about her, it's about you and whatever is going on in your head, and maybe some stuff you've been thru in your past.