masturbating and cutting

[Sister Disturbed]

ok this is so embarrassing to ask but after masturbating does any one have the strongest urge to cut?? or am i total freak and am alone in this??

[Zephyr]

I've never felt that way,
But I can see a couple of different ways as to why you might do that.

You're not a freak,
But no, this isn't a good thing.
If you ever think you'll actually start cutting,
(assuming you already haven't),
Talk to a parent or trusted adult about it.

[jacknife]

Hmmm...

Nothing wrong with being curious; so, no, I don't think you're "a freak" for thinking this. But I would just be careful with a desire like that because it is a dangerous one. Combining sex and violence is fine so long as it's all consensual, which it obviously would be if you were masturbating; however, expressing that sadomasochistic desire is very much a tight-rope walk: you have to find your own comfort zone and learn to recognize when you (or your partner) is going too far.

The only way to do that is through experimentation, and the idea you mentioned above is one such experiment. Just make sure you are very careful about it because it's a path that for many is not worth treading.

[byee]

Of course you're not a freak! But, you are noticing that the combo of masturbation (which is pleasurable) and cutting (which is violent) isn't such a good thing.

If you cannot control the urge to cut, then you should really find someone to talk it out with. They can help you understand why you need to do this, and work with you to develop other ways of expressing yourself.

[Cindex]

You're not a freak. I'm with you there.

Don't do it though, it's not as great as you'd think. Then next time you masturbate you want to do it again, and it becomes worse. It's very dangerous, and not something I'd recommend.

[Sapphire]

ok this is so embarrassing to ask but after masturbating does any one have the strongest urge to cut?? or am i total freak and am alone in this??
:hug3: No, you are not a freak. I am sorry that you feel like this after something which is supposed to make you feel good and relaxed.
How do you feel after masturbating? What is it that causes you to feel this strong urge to hurt yourself?

You are not alone in this, I experience it too. For me, it is because I feel dirty and disgusted with myself. It is possible to fight the urges and it can be a lot easier once you are able to recognise why you feel this way and have someone to talk with about it.

Don't hesitate to pm me or send me an email if you want to talk privately. I hope that you are safe.

[ShatteredGlass]

Hmmm...

Nothing wrong with being curious; so, no, I don't think you're "a freak" for thinking this. But I would just be careful with a desire like that because it is a dangerous one. Combining sex and violence is fine so long as it's all consensual, which it obviously would be if you were masturbating; however, expressing that sadomasochistic desire is very much a tight-rope walk: you have to find your own comfort zone and learn to recognize when you (or your partner) is going too far.

The only way to do that is through experimentation, and the idea you mentioned above is one such experiment. Just make sure you are very careful about it because it's a path that for many is not worth treading.

It is a dangerous combo. Have you given it some thought, y? Because it could be a sign of guilt after masturabtion

[Sister Disturbed]

tis me again, the one who started this whole topic, as i never replied to any thing i posted or umm well it was my first post so i dunno if it will say it is me who did start it any how getting off topic, i should have put that i already am a cutter, i have it under control for the most part it is just that i will be fine and you know how it is when your feeling frisky and so on (still embarrassing to even type about this) i'll be fine and not have any thoughts of wanting to hurt myself then as soon as i am in to it not even done i cant finish the urge is so bad to hurt my self i have to stop and go smoke or make some graphic arts or some thing to not cut any thing to take my mind from going crazy to just a little crazy to the point i can handle, sort of y i am here and doing this now...

[Beautiful Obsession]

Your not a freak. Im a cutter and i cut when im angry or something has hapened and i cant stop thinking about it. But everyones differant. There may be a reason behind this.. if you want to stop it you should speak to someone about it that understands. i know its hard.. i still havnt got the courage to so you mite call me a hypocrit. but its hard ino. Good luck :)

[karateka92]

I've felt that way Before only I thougt I was the only one who felt that way...so I guess ur not alone

[Froger]

ok this is so embarrassing to ask but after masturbating does any one have the strongest urge to cut?? or am i total freak and am alone in this??

you are not alone and that is nothing to fear about ,but cutting is stupid.
if that is fun for you would you consider trying sticking needles in your breasts/penis or whatever instead?
that will not do any harm and you will fell pain and that may be even more fun.

[RaeNose]

Wow, people need to learn how to spell. Hahaha. Anyways, I've also had this problem. Of course, I'm still surprised that I'm not the only girl who masturbates and what not. (One year since I stopped my porn addiction!) However, most of the time, I either want to cut, or I want to have sex. Which is pretty weird, considering that I'm a virgin. I don't know what it is, both of those actions are super addictive and it might have something to do with endorphins on both parts. Maybe?

[Froger]

If it has something to do with endorphins you are probably masochist.
That is not weird at all.

[Antares]

Well after some people masturbate, they feel guilty. So maybe that guilt that some experiences will contributes to your urge to cut.
However, cutting is not the solution.
Seriously, that guilt phase will pass because the night after, you'll most likely masturbate again, and then a cycle will start :P
So my advice, resist the urge. Just deal with that little refractory period for the few hours that it lasts.

[Sister Disturbed]

i don't know about most but i don't enjoy hurting myself, cutting myself doesn't make me happy and i don't like to do it, it is the last option i have when all else fails to makes the severe panic stop, if u don't understand i don't understand why u read any topic about cutting in it... next masturbating isn't a nightly thing for me, for me it is a random maybe once every other month thing (for me) it's so annoying how rude and tasteless some ppl can be regardless how young or old they maybe... :mad:

for the ones that have left comments back in hopes to help i thank you :)

[RaeNose]

Sorry if I was crude. I understand about the anxiety attacks though. I can usually hold off the cutting for a while, but it gets to the point where you feel trapped and you can't breathe and you just want to scream or destroy or do something. That is the hardest part of cutting. That anxiety right beforehand, cutting feels like the only way to cope. But there must be something better out there.
And if I may be tastless, I'm sorry.
I'm sorry I wasted anyone's time.
I'm sorry that I tried to put my two cents in.
I'm sorry.