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Gumleaf
January 8th, 2009, 04:45 AM
...even though i'm happily in love with my current girlfriend who i have been with for 10 months. i love her a lot and wouldn't want to be with anyone else. but if i'm so happy, why is it that i dwell so much on being dumped by my ex last year? jessica hurt me a lot and i found out later that she had been with another guy for at least a few weeks before she dumped me. so i was also cheated on. but i got over it, i have a girlfriend now that i love lots, so why do i still look back and think about how the bitch hurt me like that? i know i have trouble letting things go, but this is stupid. i'm happily in a great relationship, yet i still want to dwell on the past. me weirdo. i just don't know how to let it go, like really. they are bad memories, i don't want them, yet they stay and i dwell on it more and more. grrrrr
jetaimeeyou.
January 8th, 2009, 10:46 AM
It's normal, to thing about how relationships could have been, would have been. etc. It's best to never look into the past about relationships because it could hurt your current one. Are you friends with her maybe that's why you are looking to the past a lot. I'm not trying to say don't be friends with her but maybe you should try and space your mind out of the thoughts of the old relationship [ If That made sense]
Gumleaf
January 8th, 2009, 05:05 PM
nope, we aren't friends at all. although she has tried to be. i think jessica is a total bitch to put it nicely. idk, its all weird and messed up.
Callwaiting
January 9th, 2009, 08:07 AM
I take it the ex who you're talking about was your first proper girlfriend?
Obviously you put a lot of trust into something you'd never done before, so when she broke that trust it meant a lot to you.

I guess there's not much you can do except try to concentrate on your current relationship, sorry if I wasn't much help :P
AllThatIsLeft
January 10th, 2009, 12:51 AM
I dwell a lot on the past. and i am well over it.
But lies and cheating and being so badly hurt don't go away easily.
we keep bringing those memories back and they still frustrate us.

its human nature to battle over events that were very hurtful or significant in either a good way or a bad way.