how honest can i be in therapy about when the last time was?

[Fiending_the_freedom]

So i'm trying to get into therapy ( a years waiting list though >< WTF)
and i'm going to try to be as honest as i can with the about cutting (like when i feel like i want to and stuff)
but i want to know what the min amount of time since you've cut is so they wont tell my parents (also i'm 17 in canada, can they even tell my parents?) i dont know if that makes sense i mean like if i walked him and said the last time i cut was six months ago, would they tell my dad?

[Atonement]

If you ask them not to tell, I would, at least my relationship with my therapist, I would expect them to not tell as long as your are open and honest. They are in a difficult situation too because if they tell, you shut back up, but if they don't tell, they enable you. So, I am NOT under any circumstances going to recommend lying. If your parents finding out is going to help, let it happen. It may be SO hard, but if it could possibly help.. its worth it. But explain the situation to your therapist if you are so concerned about it. And ask her if it is confidential even to your parents and ask no matter what, they won't say anything. Before you even give a date. If they say they will see, don't say it. Get a yes or no. I hope that helps. Be safe.

[jacknife]

You have to understand therapists are insured in certain ways. They are practically forced to prescribe drugs to you in case you go out and kill yourself after a therapy lesson. If you do that the therapist can be found responsible and sued for not giving you "proper medication."

In this same way they are, at times, required to tell your parents anything you tell them, just in case you go home and do something to yourself which causes damage and your parents end up suing the therapist for "malpractice."


I am not familiar with Canadian law, but you should check to see what age you are legally considered an adult (I believe 18 in Canada) because that will affect your therapist's treatment of you; including whether or not he/she tells your parents anything and everything.

Good luck though. In the mean time, since you have to wait a whole year for therapy, feel free to add me on MSN or AIM. :D Talking can always help.

[Jean Poutine]

So i'm trying to get into therapy ( a years waiting list though >< WTF)
Welcome to Canada.

but i want to know what the min amount of time since you've cut is so they wont tell my parents (also i'm 17 in canada, can they even tell my parents?)
No. Nothing's going out of the room without your consent. There is an age for that to apply but you're over it (it may depend on your province - here it's 14).

I do know that when I was 17, I was informed of that and that I also had to 1) vocally authorise my mom to assist and tell the therapist it was perfectly okay (when I was going for social skills training, and I'm very open with my mom so I have nothing to hide to her), and that 2) I had to sign a zillion of forms if I even wanted them to transfer the info to my psychiatrist.

would they tell my dad?
No. They can't.

[jacknife]

Welcome to Canada.
Welcome to socialized health care, haha. :D

No. Nothing's going out of the room without your consent. There is an age for that to apply but you're over it (it may depend on your province - here it's 14).
Ah, well there's your answer then! That is very good they let the provinces decide things for themselves on certain issues. I wouldn't be surprised if provinces in Canada had more sovereignty than states do in America! :P

[Jean Poutine]

Welcome to socialized health care, haha. :D
It's not all bad. Did you know our health care system actually cost less per capita than the American system while providing almost complete coverage to all the population?

The downside to this is the wait time. One can't have everything, I suppose!

Oh yeah, and if only you guys stopped brain draining our medical practitioners away :<


Ah, well there's your answer then! That is very good they let the provinces decide things for themselves on certain issues. I wouldn't be surprised if provinces in Canada had more sovereignty than states do in America! :P
We do, for the most part (the province where I live, Québec, has more freedom over certain issues than the rest of the provinces, BCUZ WER SO SPESHUL). Most of the social services net falls on the back of the provinces.

To be honest, I would rather have a highly centralised system to be able to have a form of standardisation across the country. Sometimes, when I talk to English Canadians about their studies, I have no clue what they're supposed to do since we never viewed the material here. But given Québec's nazi stance on language, it isn't surprising that I've noticed that our French courses go much more in depth than the English courses of English Canada. I've noticed the difference for myself, being in bilingual English classes in college. Most of the stuff that was on offer there I had viewed 2 years ago in French literature.

I tend to be jealous of the choices English Canadians have in high school, though. Our secondaire phase is not viewed as very important and we have much less freedom in choosing our classes than English speakers do. I had to wait until CÉGEP (that's kinda like prep school or community college, which is unavaliable in English Canada AFAIK) to take stuff on offer in English speaking high schools (like Chinese).

As far as it goes, diversity is good to have in life, but when it comes to running a country, I think the American way to federalism(tm) is much better. Being decentralised encourages fragmentation, as seen by the whole Québec debate (I'm personally a federalist - I believe in sticking together, as you've noticed).

I think it would be fairly ridiculous for a state to secede from the US. Even Hawaii or Alaska. I'm personally impressed that Americans generally consider themselves belonging to a single culture, whereas in Canada it's mostly Anglo vs. Franco. I will echo Parizeau's thoughts and say that newly-arrived immigrants are the only thing that kept us from seceding in '95. French Canadians like me are very much in favour of separation. I'm not, though.

Sorry for the off-topicness but hey, you kinda asked for it : D

[jacknife]

Sorry for the off-topicness but hey, you kinda asked for it : D
So I did, haha. Unfortunately, however, this isn't the place to talk politics, or I would, cuz I love to do it. All that I will say is that America is a socialist country as well, and I don't like it. :D



To be somewhat on topic, let me just say to fiending_the_freedom that there are many ways to help yourself without therapy. If you are committed to helping yourself then you may find that, a year from now, you won't need a therapist anymore! :)

[Jean Poutine]

We can move this to PM if you wish. I enjoy talking politics too.

Anyway Tegan (you don't mind me calling you by your name do you?), I'm happy to see you're taking steps forward. Don't give up.

[Atonement]

Guys, back on topic please.

Tegan, do you still want this open even though your dad already knows now due to recent events?

[Fiending_the_freedom]

yea no point of this thread anymore because of that.

[Atonement]

upon request of OP

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