confused and fustrated

[charlie w]

hey again, in my year, there is this guy who sometimes "bangs" me (with clothes on) i can't do anything about it as he is so big. i always hate it but when he does it i find it slightly arousing. any ideas about what i should do?

[chris__batman]

i think this post should be in abuse.. because your talking about forced sex right?

[Oblivion]

This is abuse. Tell a teacher, parent, adult, or even the police.

As for the aroused feeling, its normal. Most people get aroused at any notion of sex, regardless of how it's portrayed.

Moved to Abuse.

[Θάνατος]

Nick is right here. Even rape victims still get aroused during the sexual act. It is just the body's reaction to the sexual act.

Roger Gould, M.D. Jul 14, 2003 12:00AM

"Responding to different type of sexual stimuli involving aggression is just part of being human, it has nothing to do with being good or bad. It is part of your animal inheritance.

Here is the link to the rest of the article.

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/MentalHealth/messages/32266.html

I hope this information helps you.

[Sapphire]

Does he know that you really don't like it?
Try telling him this.

It is a good idea to tell your parents and one of your teachers. The teacher can always talk to him about his behaviour too.

If he seems to ignore them and carry on, then the police would be a good thought. I do realise that this may seem too intimidating, but consider it if things continue.

It is not unusual to find sexual contact arousing, even if it is forced.
It can be very hard to get your head around that fact because we automatically link physical sexual arousal to enjoying it. But, being aroused is a physical reaction to being touched in a sexual way. It is purely a physical reaction.
Enjoyment, on the other hand, is to do with your mind. You can't enjoy something if you don't want it and are having it forced onto you.

[lewisgrayiskwl]

Wow I don't even know how some one could be so....no words for it ! he shouldn't be able to live with people! he should be locked up!!! go to the police!

[Confused4life]

Thats rape if you don't mentally want it. Physically speaking, the body gets aroused by its own accord