Meh...

[Underground_Network]

As some (maybe even most) of you know, I'm not very good around girls. I mean, lately I've been A LOT more social than I've been in the past, and walking up to people I don't know (guys 99% of the time) isn't a problem. I've made quite a few new friends as of late... But that's beside the point... Lately I've still been struggling when it comes to talking to girls and there's this girl I REALLY LIKE as of late, and I just don't know how to approach her...

So yer, first off, she's two years older than me (I'm a sophomore, she's a senior), we've talked like once, and (not that it matters) she's like six-seven inches taller than me, at least. But yeah, I have one class with her and she's always smiling at me and I just really like her. We're both incredible writers, her being FAR superior. She's an incredible writer, I mean, every story/poem/creative writing piece she writes makes you go WOW. And I mean, I love writing too, so, when it comes to that, that's one of the many reasons I like her.

She's also really nice, but she is kind of strange (but I like that, I'm strange too). She's beautiful (in my eyes, some of my friends disagree, but I don't care) and just thinking about her makes my heart race. I mean, I have felt this way about other girls in the past, but I just really like her right now. As I said before, we share one class together, but I just don't know how to go up to her...

I just don't know how to approach her... I mean, I guess for now I'd much rather just befriend her than go right out and ask her out... But I just don't know what to say. I put things together in my head that make sense to say to her, and sound right, but I just can't go up to her and say them. And I mean, I know I could always just say hi, and she seems like one of the many girls who wants me to say something to her but I just can't get myself to. I've walked up to so many girls and seen almost a glimmer in their eye or something along those lines, you know, a sign that they want to talk to me, and then almost immediately I just walk away, partially out of fear and partially out of not knowing what to say. I just hate how I do that. It just makes girls think I'm weird or something and I think its even devastated a couple of them that seem to really like me.

I just don't want to fuck up my chances with this girl, I've already fucked up enough times with a whole bunch of other girls. I have trouble enough maintaining friendships with girls, and thus a relationship really isn't something I'm sure I could put together now anyway. I just want to get this girl to like me, as a friend for now, but I just don't know. Anyone who's read through this long post, congrats, and please, help me out here... Because I just don't know what to say to her (or any girl for that matter...)

[ShatteredWings]

Well my first sugestion would be to chat about whatever you have in commen

but i'm just as hopeless, so i'm not sure if what i say means anything

[Underground_Network]

^^ I know to say that, I just don't know how to. I mean, I just don't even know how to go up to her. It just seems to so awkward and strange to me. And I always get afraid that I'll say the wrong thing or that she just won't want to listen to me anyway. It's not that I don't want to (or know to) talk about things we have in common, it's that I don't know how to... I just can't see myself going up to her and saying hi, I just don't feel as if I have it in me... :/

[ShatteredWings]

Do you get partnerd up in class ever?

Dude, even i know you *can* say hi :P it's not that bad.. once you do it...

[AutumnDae]

Well why not try befriending her online, or txt her or something? I find it easier to talk to someone without being face to face. That way I can think about my response.

Do you have a cell phone? Get her number from someone. Drop her a line something along the lines of "Hey, it's Adam, just wanted to see how you were?"

Maybe get her screen name or something.

You both like to write, bring that up in a conversation.

[ShatteredWings]

You both like to write, bring that up in a conversation.
Better yet. Peer revision AKA giving your teacher a break and letting otherstudents read over your work..

Ask her to do it :P

[Underground_Network]

^^ I've done that before Gwyn, and Autumn, I'm not much for texting anyone at all or communicating online with the exception of using MSN rarely (though it hasn't been working for me lately and I'm too lazy to fix it), so that's really out of the question... Plus, even though I can't do it for my life, I prefer face to face encounters.

I can talk to almost anyone online, and I can come across as someone who's not a bad "talker" online, but that's just not who I am in real life. I find I'm just not who I am (if that makes any sense) when I communicate online or by phone, as opposed to in person. I really just want to talk to her, and she would probably get freaked out (though I guess if she likes me, she wouldn't) if I texted her, because she just doesn't know me all that well. As I said, we've talked once, and that encounter was quite awhile ago...

[byee]

Adam, it's easiest to approach someone with a fact, like "HI!". Not much room there for failure.

Then, it's easiest to talk about something you have in common, in your case, writing. Make some small talk about something you've read of hers, some assignment maybe, something that will engage her and that you feel comfortable with. See where it goes, but make it brief, don't linger or otherwise feel you have to score the home run convo the first time.