So, I like this one guy...

[Vermillion]

And I don't know how to approach him. But let me start from the top.

For one, I'm gay, and "this guy" of which I speak is someone who goes to my school. I've seen him the halls before, but I've never made more than a second glance at him. And then I started noticing him in the mornings at breakfast, before the classes start. So yeah, I like him.

And then one day, I had to run to the library around 4th period to check out a book, and coincidentally he was in there. He was on a computer typing up some shananagins and whatnot whilst I search for me worthy read. I decided to look up a book, instead, on a computer that was about 10 feet away and perpindicular to where he was now standing (I cannot recall what he was doing). Now, enter the awkward part. Ya' know how when you like a stranger you do those quick glances just to... gauge their looks, so to speak and they catch you? Well, that happened, and holy crap did I turn red (Or purple if I were to be more honest).

A few minutes later, I walked by him after retrieving a book and he looked at me and I looked back. I wanted to hug him to death.

What does that have to do with my question? I have nooo freakin' idea, but here it is: how to meet a guy that you like if you don't know if he's gay or not? Do you just blatantly ask him? Thanks in advance ^__^

[Requin]

Well if you want to get to know him better, and if you do that you'll find out the answers to those questions.
GET TO KNOW HIM DUDE!
Talk to him, chat, that is the plain and simple. Blatantly asking someone if their gay does not work to be honest. Because, especially if you don't know them that well, they'll look at you strangely and get suspicous about your own sexuality.
They'll get uncomfortable in your presence and keep away from you.
And they'll probably say no, even if they are gay.

So getting to know someone to figure out if their gay or not is the best way. :-)
And the safest.

[Vermillion]

Well thanks, but... HOW do I get to know him? I wave at hit and say ''Hello!'' and then what? I mean, how do I start a small chat without being creepy? Cause to be honest I have a tendancy to creep sometimes without trying to :(

[byee]

Joe's got this one (as usual). Regardless of your sexuality or his, the first step is to get to know someone. I think you feel 'creepy' b/c your motivation is sexual/relationship oriented. That's b/c you're looking too far down the road, and letting your fantasies/needs/wishes get ahead of the story (or vice versa!).

Take it a step at a time, and keep those fantasies under control and just get to know him. Most people give pretty clear indications if they're interested pretty early on, just be patient and look at this as making a new friend.

[Vermillion]

What? Buttsecks?! =0

Er, what I meant by I sometimes creep people out is that I usually weird them out... But uh, regardless of that, I mean, I don't know him at all, and I see him in the mornings at breakfast every day. And, here's the funny part, I haven't the balls to walk up and say hello. I mean, should I just say hello, make small talk, and all the while try to build rapport?

[Callwaiting]

Yeah, you've got it in one.
Whenever you get the chance, just make crappy small talk and treat it like making a new friend. When you talk to him don't try to be cool or different, just act as if you were talking to a girl or a guy you don't see that way.

So yeah, just gradually get to know him I guess, maybe at breakfast you could ask to sit at his table and talk about homework or something?

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i think you have to talk to him and become friends and then ask him if he is into dudes

[Requin]

Yeah but you've met humans before right??

You can talk to people? Talk to him, I know it's difficult, just say hey. And talk about the game he's playing or if he likes football or what you like etc.
How do you talk to people on here?

No actually forget that last one, people on here ask about 'penis size' and if they masturbate or not.

[Vermillion]

lol Good ideas guys, hopefully tomorrow I'll be able to startva small chat with him. Hopefully... I just hope that I dont chicken out again ._.

[SLABBS]

it seems like the best way to do this kind of thing is to maby try to become really good friends with him. then he'll probably be more secretive and ohnest when you tell him your gay. then if he's gay he'll surly open up and tell the truth since you did.

if hes not gay. i guss you just stay friends

tough situation

[Vermillion]

Ham funny you brough that up, Slabbs, as I remembering that happening with a current friend of mine named Dillon. And, ya' see, I liked him but I didn't know how to meet him, so I took a stab in the dark and thought that acusing him of cat rape would be the best route to a relationship.

Ha. Wrong. But, believe it or not, he's just as crazy as I am and we're now pretty good friends. So yeah, it's 1 AM now so I guess in 6 hours I get to try to meet this guy with full confidence.

Heh, I'm sooo scared, 'cause I can't tell if he's been looking at me 'cause I'm looking at him lots, or if he's looking at me because he likes me too. Dammit >_<

[nachtspiegel]

This is random, but if you happen to get in the line with him at breakfast (if you eat school food,) you could just bring up how good (or how nasty) the food is. That's how I made new friends when I started middle school.
That, and cutting class.

[curiousteen]

im kinda am in the same position except i know the guy but i met him through a friend so i really dont him that well but have a huge crush on him

[Vermillion]

So! An update! =D
I finally talked to him! Sorta... Well ya' see yesterday morning he was in his predictable place: the cafeteria. From where he sat with his gay and lesbian friends (Yeah, I'm just as suprised as you guys are: We have a gay/lesbian table? =0), our usual exchange of quick glances took place. The bell rang, and just minutes earlier I enlisted my friend Brandon for "moral suuport", if you will. Nameless guy got up from his table, chit-chatting with some chick so Brandon and I followed. Don't worry, it wasn't a "I can feel you breathing on my neck" kind of follow, we kept good disance. I mean, I didn't want to be rude and interupt (Ha yeah right, truthfully, I was stalling). So, evetually she goes into a classroom at the end of a hall and I turned my back towards them. "Brandon, is he turning around?"
He checked passed my shoulder, and answer "Yes."
"Really?" I got giddy with excitement. He passed us, and I muttered "Let's go" to Brandon. It was confrontation time.
"Umm... Excuse me." He looked at me and I could feel my voice weaken. But thankfully, I've practiced the confrontation before. "Yeah?"
I handed him a sticky note. It read "Hi! =D". The nameless guy blushed and chuckled at it, "Ha, okay!"
"Good day sir." I left him with a smile and a sticky note. w00t.

So here's what I wanna do. Even though the smile could've been anything, so I'll call it a yellow light, so tomorrow, I'm going to proceed through the intersection with caution if time allows. In other words, another sticky not.

Wait, no! No more sticky notes, I'm a man. I can do this, I'll just make the useless small talk about the stick note the other day.... Yeah! =D
That'll work! Or will it? I mean, what small talk subject matter should I create between us? Ya' know, I just need some useless talks just to get some more reads on him ._.


This is random, but if you happen to get in the line with him at breakfast (if you eat school food,) you could just bring up how good (or how nasty) the food is. That's how I made new friends when I started middle school.
That, and cutting class.

[Jean Poutine]

No actually forget that last one, people on here ask about 'penis size' and if they masturbate or not.
I LAUGHED out loud. At 3am. Thanks for waking up my mom, 'wipe. <3

And dude, talk about the weather. I dunno if it's like in Québec where you live, but people here love talking about the weather. So talk about the weather, do it.

Then you move on to stuff. The weather is always perfect. "Do you do anything outside when it's not raining frogs like now" and that kind of stuff.

Well, that's what I'd do. You might not want to follow my advice since I'm such a jerkoff with people. But I try to learn.

[curiousteen]

i would have never thought about that the was smart cause he may come up to u and talk to u about it but if doesnt u can start the small talk and just ask him the usual questions i guess

[Vermillion]

I dont know if it were a bad or good the myself, however, I do know that he smiled at me. What does mean you ask? Well it means that Im not scaring him yet, and though I havent exactly been given the green light, at least its not a red light.

And I've another question, should I compliment his clothing or something? Or should I wait to flirt?

[Jean Poutine]

I would not take that chance. You should wait until you're sure of his orientation.

Just speak to him as you would any other dude you might think is interesting from a friendly perspective. Things will become clear soon enough.

[Vermillion]

So I did it! With "it" meaning absolutely nothing ._.

I got scared again... Or did I? 'Cause all morn' he was with a group of his friends chattin' up a storm and I didn't want to be rude. Yeah, that's my excuse XD

But then, after school, guess who I saw? It was him, heading somewhere for after school detention it looked like. I was speaking with (Following, rather) my friend Dilly and he walks by, obviously looking for somewhere. I stopped then, trying to figure out what should I do and say. I have a very indecisive mind, ya' know?

Yeah, I decided to just go home. I stood there trying to find the words to say, but by the time I had nearly half of them ready to speak to him, he was sitting in the cafeteria for after school detention, not allowed to speak. The teacher to patrolled all of the kids there left the office for a second, and I figure that I could jot down some simple words on a good ol' sticky note instead (Ya' know, so if the teacher does come back, at least he wouldn't get into trouble for speaking).
I couldn't tell if he was looking at me whilst I wrote, but either way it was too late. The loud teacher, tall and walking sentinel between the tables, was back yelling some BS to the students there.

So yeah, I went home. I failed, and it sucked ass =[
Help again plz? I mean, I know what I want to say now, I just need to find some motivation somewhere, but I've no where to get it from. Ah *bleep* -__-

[AllThatIsLeft]

i wouldnt do notes if i were you.
it's a bit creeepy when it's guy to guy.
But put yourself in a situation were you could talk. Crossing the street for example. "This lights take so long to change,"
"Yea, i know"
"Your (name here) right?" or "I'm (name here) i see you around sometimes"

small talk.

[Vermillion]

Oh *bleep*.

I creeped him out. Yeah, I should've asked about the stick note thing before... 'Cause uh... Now Corey (I overheard him in a convo behind me in the lunch line) doesn't give more than a half-second glance at me. Like, I was against the wall, waiting for a friend of mine and he walked by, glanced at me, and kept on.

Heh, I guess it's safe to say: RED LIGHT. Ha, I screwed up. Oh well, perhaps next time? =/