Bulying. HELP NOW

[pal.emilie]

ok so... im not even sure i am getting bullied.


AND DONT GET ME WRONG, I AM NOT A MEAN PERSON

me and this girl got into a fight (we're an all girls school - one of those who are all rich, preppy, and bishes, thats not me tho. i come from the poorer side of town (scholarship) )

so me and this girl (ex-best friend) were in a fight. and i forgave her, but she never said sorry, or forgave me. so i was like: it hurts, but some people are like that.

This is when my depression starts

so i WAS getting over it (after she called me a bishe and other stuff) because of my friend Ashley who kept helping me.

then she was in a fight with some girl, and she told me about it. so then that girl came... AND ANYWAYS - me and ashley got into a fight

i start cutting myself slightly. (no one noticed)

i have a facebook. its a social networking site... and blah blah blah. so on this facebook, there is an honesty box. which is this thing where u can say stuff to the person anonymously.

I start getting hate messages saying that im mean and stuff... (in other ways)

i got like 5 of them.... (oh and did i mention girl 1 told EVERYONE about our fight and everyone is starting to get away from me)

so then me an ashley are friends again, and start getting MORE hate messages.

people tell me to get over it, its nothing big, that i shouldnt let this get to me.

well i cant do that. it hurts, and it hurts BAD. imagine getting these from a bunch of people. and then trying to think that everyone loves you, WHEN EVERYONE HATES YOU.

so i hate school. cause i face dirty looks every single day form these girlls.

now i was wondering two things

1. is this bullying

2. and wat can i do to stop my depression and my bullies??!

im almost certain that it was them that wrote the messages. i dont have any other enemies.... but i cant approche them cause theres a slight possibility that it isnt them.


oh and i cant tell my parents cause... they think im perfect and expect high of me. and i cant change schools cause my parents want me to stay.

please help

[Gumleaf]

moving just random >>> friends and family


yes this is bullying. i'm sorry you are suffering like this. i know what its like to be bullied from experiences in the past, so i undertsnad the pain you must be feeling. your options are restricted and it can be hard to talk about. i'm guessing that the source of your depression is the bullying so if you can get the bullying to stop, then it would help your depression. i would suggest the first thing you do s see your school counsellor or someone equiverlent if you have access to one. if not, perhaps a teacher. they might be able to help you or direct you to someone who can help you.

[byee]

Yuck, it's teen drama. Fortunately, it's a temporary thing.

It's late, so I'll get right to the point. 1) Get rid of your face book. It's a social networking site, not an opportunity to get your feelings hurt, anonymously, no less, where you cannot even defend yourself. Pffft! Gone.

2) Avoid these little cat fights with the girls. Figure out a way to stay above the fray here, and do it. If it means be cordial and civil, but distanced, do that. Avoid the teen drama. It's purpose is nothing more than stirring trouble and establishing a hierarchy based on competition and meanness. Who needs that? Pfft.

3) If you're really continuing to get the kind of cold shouldering that's interferring with your well being and/or schoolwork, go to the head master and tell him/her. School is about learning, not all this psychodrama. Get some fire power on your side to return school to it;s primary objective: A safe place to learn.

[INFERNO]

This is one of the reasons I don't use facebook or myspace. Too much nonsense and crap to deal with, and when I did have them, I just ignored them (and eventually deleted them). Either delete or ignore the facebook. If you really want to have one, then make a new one but don't blab to everyone of this new one. At your age, there's always this pointless drama and little hissy-fits going on everywhere. Ignore it, walk away, etc... . Getting involved simply wastes time and shoves you deeper in the chaotic mess. Also, don't take every single thing to heart. People don't all love you, people don't all hate you. That's life, you cannot please everyone.

As IAMSAM said, it ends up establishing a hierarchy which doesn't get you anywhere. You're not at the top, you're not at the bottom.

Get some backup, whether it be friends, random people or teachers. Going 1-1 is better than going 5-1.

School is a place to learn, socialize and such, not about dealing with nonsense. Unfortunately, in life, you'll have to deal with nonsense, and this is a taste of it. Get through these silly teen girls, grow some thicker skin and you'll be better.

[Sapphire]

Yes, it is bullying.

What you can do is just get rid of the honesty box. If they carry on after that has gone, they won't be anonymous and you can show your teachers who's doing this and it can get sorted.
If you have them as friends on facebook, delete them. Keeping them on there will only provide them with more of a chance to be mean to you.

Talk to your friends about it. They can support you through this and back you up if things begin to escalate.
If you also arrange to do things regularly with them (e.g weekly movie nights or something) then it will help a bit with your depression and will remind you that you have friends who care and like to spend time with you.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

yeah this is called cyber bulling and you need to tell a teacher about it

[goofball]

that sounds really bad. well i think there are two ways you can resolve this

#1 tell someone of a high authority, like a chaplin (dunno if ur schoo lhas one or not) a teacher, or maybe even a colleague from work.

#2 just stick close to your friends, if those girls come up to u at school and do it, then dont fight back, hats wat they want -a reaction- so just keep with ur friends and ignore them......

OH ... and about those facebook messages ... dont take any notice of them, the only reasons they're doin it is because they see you've hit a low point and they want to capitalize on it to make themselves feel good/big/powerful. But ur gonna get those sorta ppl in life, this planet's full of em ... so the best thing u can do is keep ur head high and wait till everyone forgets about it .... then u may be able to get back together =)
HOPE THIS HELPS