my friend

[Killah-X]

Hi um I have a friend and when I say friend I dont mean me but seriosly my friend told me some shocking news. He is serios he promisded he is not lieing and he dosent lie so I belive him. He says he had sex... oh yeah hes 14. At first I thought he was joking I was shocked and I dont know what to do. Should I say something to him im not sure what to do.

[Requin]

Say what to him? If there's nothing to say, then nothing should be said.
He's had sex under age, I'm sure he knows that. And he's a boy so he wants to show off at the fact that he's lost his virginity.

And how do you know that he's telling the truth??

[thiscityisdead]

yeahh you gotta be sure hes not lieing, ask him who he slept with and talk to that girl, thats what i did when i thought my friend was lieing,

[Killah-X]

kk will do ill writte back

[Maverick]

There isn't a need for you to do anything, but accept the fact you're entering the age group where guys and girls are going to be having sex for the first time. The friend thing to do would be to make sure he's using protection.

This is all new to you though and that's OK. But as you get older hearing about people having sex will be as common as people kissing.You'll get used to it though. Its a shock because it wasn't too long ago girls had cooties.

[Θάνατος]

Well I don't think it matters if he had sex or who he had it with. You said you believe him so don't lose you friend's trust.

I just am wondering why you want to ask him questions about him having sex unless you don't believe him.

Well sometimes it is best to be a friend and not pry too much.

[Killah-X]

kk thx people u were all very helpful

[byee]

Welcome to adolescence. Lots of surprises. Get used to them.

What exactly shocks you about this? Why are you dismayed?

People are going to tell you a lot of things they're doing, and some of it might shock you, either b/c you weren't expecting it, or it just reminds you things are changing so much. And, change is hard to accept, sometimes.

Regardless of what your friends are doing, they are still your friends. If you find that it's upsetting you, try to figure out why, and then address that with them, and get the reassurance you need to feel comfortble with them.

Whatever they're doing, it's just a behavior. They are still who they've been to you, and it doesn't mean that your relationship with them is necessarily affected.